3 Ways to Style a Basic Piece

Hello Babes,

I’m so excited to share this post with all of you. This post is in collaboration with my work, LA Miller Boutique.

I want to show you three different ways to wear a basic turtle neck top, or any basic long sleeve. Winter is the season of layering, which makes creating looks more fun. LA Miller has so many cute styles, especially their layering pieces. I chose two jackets from our store to style with a basic top I already owned. I also paired one of my jackets with it too, just to show you versatility with basics.

Outfit #1: Teddy Moto Jacket

This jacket is so chic and refined, it not only meets the current trends but it is still can be made unique to your style. I really liked how it paired with my black jeans and bold booties. These cute booties are also available at the store and online.

Outfit #2: Mod Layering Vest

This piece is super versatile, which makes it a fun item to work with. For this post, I paired it with my simple turtle neck but it can be paired with multiple styles. That’s why I like this specific piece from LA, it’s one of those pieces that will add value to your closet. It can also be worn through all seasons; I see this pairing really well with some high-waisted denim come summertime. This piece is available in-store only!

Outfit #3: Teddy Coat

This jacket is not from LA Miller, however, they have similar styles. This jacket has been one of my go-to pieces for going out. It pairs really well with almost any outfit and with these colder months, it’s an easy piece to spice up a basic look. This is another versatile piece that can be paired with multiple pieces already available in your wardrobe. I’ve worn this over graphic tees and party dresses, super cute! I got this from Forever 21 for $13.

If you want to shop more of these styles or check out LA Miller, go to their website. You can also follow them on Instagram.

I love the styles from LA Miller, and not just because I work there. The store provides pieces that are trendy yet refined. I highly recommend visiting the store or shopping online.

Thank you for reading PYM today! I’m happy to be adding fashion elements back into the blog, and if you enjoy them too, let me know.

xo, Lyss

Please Stop Going on a Diet!

Self-Care Series Article #1: Mindful Eating

Author: Audrey Byker, Health Coach

 

Audrey Byker, local Health Coach, runs her independent business in West Michigan. She meets clients where they are at on their health journey then guides and empowers them to find true health and wellness through one-on-one coaching.  2017 marked the launch of her first “Nutritionally Fit” cooking class series where she merged her creative drive with her speaking, teaching and fuel for athletic performance experience. Her love for people, movement and real food is contagious!  Audrey offers free 30 minute consults to all who are ready to change.

 

 

A Word from Audrey:

I don’t know about you, but when my mother birthed me, held me in her arms the first time, kissed my sticky head and brought me to her breast, she wasn’t weighing the colostrum just beginning to flow. I didn’t hand her my measuring cups and spoons. The nurses weren’t calculating calories, macros or god knows what else then attaching them to the discharge sheet. 

My pal the scale wasn’t waiting for me in the bathroom on my first day home.

As humans, we were created from two single cells. Those cells united and developed into one incredibly intricate human, explained for the most part by science, yet still a bit mysterious like a cat’s purr or the illusion of the moon.  

When I was a baby I didn’t give myself “cheat days”. I never decided “not to care”.  The milk wasn’t “good” or “bad” and I didn’t think “I’ll start tomorrow” when I made the “wrong food” choice. I knew what I needed. The milk, sleep, hugs, kisses, her calming voice and beating heart all instinctual and provided every single detail to not only sustain my life, but allow me to grow, develop, and thrive for a decent amount of time. 

Which I did. I did not have to think about it.

When babies are hungry they begin to turn their heads, open their mouths and root in hopes to find a nipple to suck. Science tells us this is when their blood sugar begins to drop, which for me is when my ADD kicks in. A baby will scream and cry if you wait too long to feed it, while an adult will begin to scour the pantry and raid the fridge, er, turn into a hangry dinosaur. It was telling for me, once I became a mom, to watch my babies push their mouths away from my breast when they were full—no question nor doubt, they were done.  

Their mind-body connection firmly in place, is a strong reminder to me—even now—that I needed to make a shift in the way I’d been living.  As an Institute for Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, I help people take these cues.

Breastmilk and skin-to-skin aren’t going to feed me in the same way they do a baby, but the earth can, and—wow—sex, connection, creativity, spirituality, and pretty much everything else that’s not food and satisfying is nourishing goodness in my life.  ALL I need is already mine.  

I’m continually shocked by how the world complicates these basic things. My body, mind, and spirit were always in close kin with the essentials yet the crap concocted into food and marketing schemes had convinced my cells and me otherwise.

I have to stop and pay attention.  Real food, mostly plants are my natural fuel.  Science says “calories-in, calories-out” while nature says the process is more mysteriously detailed than that!  When I focus on what makes my body feel good I never have to think about what I weigh or if my pants will fit the next day…a freedom I thought I’d never find.

Releasing the control was not only liberating back then, but now is making a sizable impact in my coaching space today.

Trusting myself to listen and respond was difficult, but paved the way for an incredible healing most people can’t begin to comprehend they could have.


I’m so thankful that Audrey took the time to create this post for my PYM readers. I think mindful eating and listening to your body is imperative to living a healthy and happy life. As Audrey touched on, your “diet” should not be an inconvenience thing of measuring, weighing and worrying. It should be natural! This self-care tip is to listen to your body’s needs and be mindful but do not overthink your eating.

You can follow Audrey on Instagram to learn more health tips.

Thank you for reading the first article in the PYM Self-Care Series. Stay tuned for more!

Why I Started Practicing Yoga

Hello Beautiful Souls,

Yoga is a practice of the mind and body, it is all about bringing awareness to the present moment through breath and movement. Yoga actually means “connection”. Many people do yoga for various reasons, some for exercise and others for mental health. I recently picked up the practice to help combat and build a relationship with my anxiety. I’ve tried a few yoga classes prior to officially joining and committing to the practice.

After bringing the practice into my everyday life, I have realized it is so much more than just an exercise or breathing. Many people believe you have to be flexible or super fit to be “good” at yoga. If you’re one of those people, you’ve got it all wrong. If you think yoga is all about being “good”, then you’re in it for the wrong reasons.

I only began my committed practice just over a month ago and I feel it changing me already. Not just physically, but also mentally. I want to share all the things I have discovered through my yoga practice and how it has helped me. You’re story may be different but here is mine:

Patience

One of the main lessons I have gained from yoga is patience. When I started yoga, I was not able to hit every pose, and I still can’t. You must be patient with the practice; you will have good days and bad days. Your body may react differently in each class. One class your half moon pose might be legit and not wobble at all, the next class you may not be able to even lift your leg off the mat…be patient. This piece of the practice has carried over into other parts of my life as well. I’ve noticed my patience grow in stressful situations, relationships and other life stuff.

Spirituality

I wouldn’t consider myself a super religious person, however, yoga has allowed me to create a connection with spirituality in my own life. It cleanses my soul and resets my mindset. Each class allows me to calm my mind and refocus my energy to what’s important. I have become much more mindful since starting the practice. I am able to focus my energy less on my anxiety and stress, and more on the positives in my life.

Awakening

Yoga has awaken my mind and body to new sensations and thoughts. I have become more aware of my body, my energy and my mental state. The focus of breath carries your mind in a way we do not usually experience in day-to-day life. In general, it has made me more mindful in my everyday life, even beyond my mat.

Inner Peace

Ultimately, yoga has helped me gain a sense of inner peace. Anxiety is an internal, mental battle that can conquer you, if given the chance. Yoga and meditation has created a space for me to let go of these worries and consciously become more aware. This is and will be a constant part of my practice, my point of starting yoga was to build a better relationship with myself. I constantly fight a battle in my mind, due to anxiety, and this practice allows me to release some of that tension and worry.

In conclusion…

This is just my point of view on the practice and how in just a short amount of time, it has made a serious impact on my life. It is my escape from the hectic world, it is my place to let go of my worries. I wanted to share this with all of you because you all have been a part of my health journey. Although I have not been as active in hitting the gym or eating as many greens as I would like, yoga has been my step towards those goals again.

The end of last year was a struggle for me; I felt very lost in my school/career path and I was overwhelmed with anxiety. I had lost sight of my goals and I let negativity take over. Yoga was my commitment to becoming my best self again. I have learned that in order to accomplish any goal in life, you must be in a healthy place with yourself, mentally and physically. If those two things are not aligned, your goals will be really tough to manage and navigate.

So, after some thought, I decided integrating a yoga practice into my routine was what I needed. So far, it has been one of the best decisions I have made. The studio is great and they really have worked with me to make my practice possible (financially). The instructors are badass, they inspire and empower me every class. And of course, the practice is life changing. It has completely changed my perspective and daily mood. I’m grateful to have this opportunity to better myself, holistically.

Thank you for reading PYM today. I hope you find this article valuable and feel free to ask me any questions regarding it.

Namaste, Lyss

Why Girls Need Self-Love?

Hello Pretty People,

The new year has arrived and that means everyone is creating new intentions + goals. If you read my last post, you know what mine are. On NYE, I realized another concept we all need to adopt in 2018 – GIRLS SUPPORTING GIRLS. Girls need to not only show more self-love in the new year but they need to show more support for one another.

Girls tend to judge other girls quite easily because we are taught by society to compete with each other. Rather than saying “you go girl!”, we sometimes get defensive about good looking women. This also happens with success. When we see a girl doing all the things we dream of, we can easily judge them. This not only feeds the jealousy trait inside us but it makes us more insecure about ourselves. We too often compare ourselves to those around us, rather than just embracing who we are.

If another girl is beautiful, we do not need to get insecure about our own beauty. Another’s beauty or success does not dampen our own. We are all beautiful and successful in our own ways.

What does this have to do with self-love?

Well, when girls are insecure about themselves, they tend to resort to this judgmental attitude. Judging other girls is a defense mechanism that makes us feel better about ourselves. When we feel threatened by other women, we tend to become judgmental towards them. This is an unhealthy habit because it not only creates negative vibes around us, but it also doesn’t allow us to give certain people a chance in our life. This a perfect example of judging a book by it’s cover.

Self-love allows us to become more comfortable and confident in ourselves. Self-love teaches us our strengths and our weaknesses. We know where we shine and where we can use a little more work. We believe in our abilities and we are fearless in the pursuit of our dreams. When we love ourselves, we don’t allow room for negativity and judgment. When we dwell on the beauty or success of another, we only create more room for negativity to thrive.

In my opinion, self-love is the constant practice of becoming your best self. You are confident in who you are, which allows you to spread more positivity and kindness to others. Insecurity and worry creates anxious tendencies, trust me I know. We fear others will outshine us or their light will dull our own. This, however, is not the case.

Falling in love with yourself is the key to falling in love with others. Being confident in who you are allows you to empower others to do the same. Self-love is needed more than ever amongst females. We need to worry less about being good enough for everyone else, and ask ourselves who is good enough for us.

Women have it tough sometimes; we have grown up in a society that teaches us to compete rather than to uplift one another. We’re not born to compete with one another. We need to realize that one girls beauty or success does not impact our own. Actually, empowering other women around us creates less girl hate and more confidence within ourselves.

My Lesson

Before you judge the girls around you, take a step back to realize you do not know their story. Judging someone else only brings negativity into your life and takes up space where good stuff could live. When women support each other and lift each other up, we become more powerful. We start to worry less about competing and more about creating our own life. We need to focus our energy on healing and creating, rather than worrying and judging. Support the women around you and empower them to be great!

In 2018, start practicing and adopting this intention to support the women around you. Understand that their success does not inhibit your own, and you too are beautiful. 2018 is the year of self-love, the year to spread kindness and love to all.

Thank you for reading PYM. Happy New Year to all my lovely readers! I wish you the best in 2018 and I hope you are able to grow in many new ways.

xo, Lyss

                  Favorite quote of all time!

2017 Reflection + 2018 Goals

Hello Beautiful Souls,

The new year is upon us; goodbye 2017, hello 2018!

Just like most, I take the last few days of the year to reflect on the past 365 days and think about what’s to come in the next 365. This past year, my anxiety was worse than it’s ever been. My strength was challenged many times and all in all, I experienced a lot of self-growth. The year was filled with new opportunities, love, adventure and many obstacles (nothing I couldn’t handle). So, let’s reflect on the lessons learned in 2017.

2017 Reflection

Self-Aware:

First lesson of 2017 is my realization of how self-aware I am. I know who I am, I know my flaws and I’m not changing that for anyone. My self-awareness actually roots from having anxiety. Being anxious and overthinking all aspects of my life has allowed me to become a very self-aware person. I know what my weaknesses are, I know my authentic self and I know what triggers my anxious habits. Although anxiety is often a stressor is my life, there is some beauty to it. Being self-aware not only helps me with coping and conflict-resolution, but it also helps me read other people really well. This is one of my favorite lessons from the year!

Healthy Living:

Another major lesson from the past year is learning what it actually means to be “healthy”. I’ve been an athlete my whole life and I always thought I had a grasp on what it means to be healthy. This year, however, I learned that healthy is more than hitting the gym and eating a salad. Eating clean and fresh foods is super important not only to you physical health but also your mental health. It can also impact your skin.

I also learned that every body is different; heavy weight lifting may be the perfect regimen for some whereas pilates/toning may be perfect for others. Learning to mix up your workouts and try different things helped me understand my body and how it responds. Don’t be afraid to try something new!

Forgiveness:

This year I had to really learn to forgive and forget. Life is short and holding on to BS that only weighs you down is unnecessary. Getting hurt by people you love and trust the most can be hard but if you hold onto these negative energies it will only make you spiral out of control. Being an anxious person, I tend to overthink these situations way too much. Months after someone has hurt me or angered me, I can still question myself and say “why?”. When really, there is no answer and I need to move on. Forgive & forget. You have to learn what battles are important and which ones are not.

Sometimes we must allow those around us to make their own mistakes in order to learn who they are. Even if we get hurt, everyone is on their own journey and we must understand our growing periods are all different. Learn when to forgive people and let them go or when to forgive them and allow them a second chance. Not everyone deserves a second chance but some people are still learning.

Life is just life:

My last lesson/reflection of 2017 is that life is just life, and what I mean by that is life isn’t so serious. Yes, set goals and work hard towards them. Take things serious if it is important to you or your goals, but don’t forget that it’s just life. Truth is, no one knows what the hell they are doing. We are all just following this societal standard, or maybe our own standards, but we’re all just trying to figure it out. Don’t take things so serious! Just focus on the things that make you happy and do that, everyday.


Contrary to typical new year goals, I wanted to share concepts/habits I want to work on in the new year. Yes, I will set some smaller goals periodically throughout the year to pinpoint some of these concepts, but this is my general direction for 2018.

2018 Goals

More Self-Love: 

By self-love, I mean I want to work on being more confident in myself and knowing my own worth. As I begin to enter a really crucial period of my life, I need to start believing in myself 110% because if I can’t take myself seriously, why should anyone else? I have mentioned in previous posts that self-love is more than confidence or just knowing your worth, it’s also about self-help. During 2016, I became very confident in myself but over the duration of 2017, I found that I lost some of this badass “B” vibe because of my anxiety. I let little things bother me and I started to doubt myself. That’s why self-love is one of my first goals for 2018. This year will be about becoming the badass girl I know I am and not letting anyone knock that.

Be Happy + Healthy:

I already worked toward this one in 2017, but I experienced some low points in the last half of the year, which caused some setbacks. Therefore, I want to make my health and wellness a big focus for 2018. As I learned in 2017, healthy eating and physical activity not only improves mood and energy, but it helps my overall health. This is super important for all aspects of my life, so it’s time to kick it into high gear. 2018 will be the year of my best self!

Build a relationship with my anxiety:

My last goal for the new year is to work on building a relationship with my anxiety. Anxiety is something I have struggled with most of my life, but this past year has been the worst for me. Instead of letting it define me though, I want to work alongside it. I learned through my yoga and meditation practice that anxiety is not something you “get rid of”, it’s always going to be there. When you try to get rid of it, it can actually cause more stress and anxiety. The best way to win the anxiety battle is by learning to live with it. That’s why I started yoga and meditation. The breathing techniques learned in the practice help me cope with my anxiety.

This is my first step toward building this healthy relationship with it and I hope to continue working on it in the new year. I will not let the negative side of anxiety to win.

Although I love taking any opportunity to set new goals and refocus my energy on the things that matter, you should start your new year resolutions now. There is no better time than now! I know people knock on the concept of setting goals and “new year, new you” but if that’s what motivates you to start crushing your goals, so be it. Don’t let the thoughts of others hold you back.

Thank you for checking out my year in review and my goals for the new year. Feel free to share yours in the comments below! I hope the end of 2017 is amazing and I wish you the best in 2018. Happy New Year, beautiful human!

xo, Lyss