“Easy for You to Say, You’re Skinny”

Hello Beautiful Babes,

I’ve heard this line many many times in my life. When I start to get healthy and work out more consistently, people tell me it’s easy for me because I’m skinny. I can see where they are coming from, and I understand their reasoning behind it. But, it’s not easy for me because I’m skinny.

I have been working on my health and fitness over the past few months, which you can probably tell if you’ve been following me.

First off, I am not doing this to lose weight or be “skinny”. I am doing this to feel healthy. When I am strong and my body is healthy I feel more confident and happy.

When people start their fitness journey, they usually begin because they are inspired by something. For some it may be weight lose, for others it may just be to build muscle tone. Everyone starts for different reasons; therefore we cannot judge people’s lifestyle based on their size.

Yes, you’re correct. In today’s society, I am skinny. I won the gene pool lottery…?

Not true! 

My background

My family health history is quite lengthy actually. From diabetes and arthritis to even cancer, I am not “lucky”. Everyone has a choice in life though, and how you treat your body has a big impact on your health and future.

For most of my childhood, I did dance and gymnastics. I was also a very active child; always playing outside, riding my bike and running around with my pets. This background set me up for a healthy body. I also never ate a bunch of candy or drank sugary drinks, I wasn’t raised in that environment. My mom didn’t deprive me of candy, I just never was the kid that drank soda and ate candy on the reg. I loved water! (lame, I know)

I began focusing on my health more over the past few months because I was feeling sick after almost every meal. I couldn’t figure out the problem and why I was feeling this way. Then, I did some research and realized my diet could have a big impact on that. Working out has also helped me keep everything moving smooth through my digestive system. Growing up, I was always active and my body still thrives on that activity to function properly.

The eating habits and lifestyle you are raised with can impact how you take care of yourself now. Not everyone has the same background as me, nor does anyone have the same as you. That’s why you can’t look at someone who is skinny and assume they have it easy. The good news is you can always change your current lifestyle. You are not tied to your habits.

Being skinny doesn’t make building muscle and eating healthy any easier for me. I still have to be conscious about my food choices and listen to my body’s needs.

If you are struggling to find peace with your body and don’t know where to start, do your research. Learn about what works for you and what feels good. Keep a journal about how you feel not only externally but internally. Don’t force a lifestyle, just find one that you can find peace and happiness with. Feel free to contact me as well. I’m not an expert but I have battled with some of my own self-image issues, including body shaming.

Women of all sizes deal with these types of issues, you’re not alone. Skinny, “fat”, large or small; we are all just trying to be the best version of ourselves.

Thank you for reading PYM!

xo, Lyss

I’m Not Perfect, I Know

Hello Lovely People,

In a world of picture perfect people, thanks to social media; we are all held to an unobtainable standard. I believe women struggle with this a little more than the fellas, but we all experience it.

“It”, referring to the feeling of never being enough.

We get caught up comparing ourselves and our accomplishments to others. It’s easy to do in a society where everyone shares their lives on the internet. You get a new shirt and you’re happy, but then you see your friend just got a new car. This feeling of envy can kick in.

You were completely content with your purchase of $15 until you saw someone had something better. You then think: “oh, well I can’t afford that, I must not be good enough or successful enough”.

The cycle begins. It’s vicious too!

You don’t mean to be jealous or envious of other people but it’s hard not to be when their “perfect” lives are always in your face.

Truth: Their lives are not perfect. How do I know this?

Well because just like us, they’re human. We all try to post our best pictures and post on our best days, when really, there are a lot of low quality pictures and low quality days. As a society, we like to share the good stuff.

I have anxiety. Many people may not know this about me but they do know that I “like a plan”. It’s not that I like a plan but I get anxiety when I don’t know what to expect. It makes me overthink and worry, why? I couldn’t tell you. It just happens mentally.

I started to share some of struggles (with anxiety) on Instagram and Facebook, being 100% honest and it was a hit. Not in the sense that I got this fancy attention for it and all these followers, but I had people personally message me telling me they struggled with the same things. REAL PEOPLE. The ones that even shared pictures of their perfect lives.

See! No one is perfect, we just like to put on a front that makes people think we are. It’s safer because we’re less vulnerable in that state.

I’m not saying every time you log on to social media you need to share your true feelings. Just be aware that everyone else has similar battles in their lives, we just don’t always see them.

And a side note. Rather than focusing on what people are doing around you and on social media, focus on your goals and your accomplishments. Whether you just got a new shirt or a new car, you are not any greater or less than those around you.

Everyone has flaws, they may not be the same as yours but they’re there. And if you think about it, your flaws are only defined by you. How other people view them is completely up to them. How you define your flaws may be how someone else defines your beauty. One of my favorite quotes that I came across recently, explains this all so well:

“Just because you don’t look like somebody who you think is attractive doesn’t mean you are’t attractive. Flowers are pretty, but so are sunsets and they look nothing alike.”  

Thank you for checking out Pretty, Young and Motivated today! I have officially created a YouTube channel that will go along with this blog. It is under my name Alyssa Waid, but it is an addition to the PYM family. Check it out here!

You too have a picture perfect life, it’s just about the angle you look at it.

xo, Lyss

20 Things to a Happy + Healthy Life

Hello Cuties,

Life goes fast, probably faster than many of us would like. We always have all these plans and goals that make our minds hectic, but sometimes we need to step back and enjoy even the little things. I came across this list of 50 things to living a happy and healthy life, and I thought I would create my own version. Below I share my top 20 tips to live a happy + healthy life, daily.

 

Get Healthy + Happy

Drink lots of water

Be positive, always!

Find time to exercise, even just a walk

Eat breakfast, it really is the most important meal of the day

Spend time outdoors, enjoy this gorgeous earth

Love yourself

Worry less (simmer down)

Get enough sleep

Embrace your Flaws

Utilize lavender oil

Drink herbal tea

Travel often, even just taking weekend trips

Explore new places and things

Work hard & dream big

Dance more often

Don’t compare

Be kind

Create a morning ritual

Invest in your relationships

Take care of yourself

Now that you have read through the things I find important to live a happy and healthy life, I challenge you to create your own version. What makes you happy and what keeps you healthy?

Use this list (or your own) to stay focused on the important things in your life. Take what you value the most and each day remind yourself of those things.

Thank you for reading this little post. You can follow my journey on Instagram @blogger_alyssa.

Shine Bright.

xo, Lyss

Lessons From a Weekend of Camping

Hello Beautiful People,

This past weekend I took a camping trip to the northern part of Michigan with my boyfriend, and it was an adventure to say the least. Of course with any adventure like this there is bound to be a little bit of chaos.

We arrived early at D.H Day Campground on Friday morning in order to get a spot, this campground is famous for its amazing location near Sleeping Bear Dunes and M-22. The campground was quaint and right off the shore of Lake Michigan. We quickly learned that there were no showers or real toilets (just some holes in the ground). This is how our weekend filled with adventure began.

Let me give you a quick run down of the weekend. We hiked dunes for about 2.5 miles to reach this beautiful coastline and then 2.5 miles back. It was worth the view but the hike through rolling 400 feet sand dunes was intense. We showered in ice cold Lake Michigan because what else could we do. We were basically disconnected from reality thanks to bad cell service, which this actually a blessing. We drove around trying to find a fishing spot, found one but didn’t get a single bite. To top off the adventures of David + Alyssa, we got a flat tire on the drive home.

As you can probably tell, we were never bored!

Here’s what I learned…

Work together:

One of the biggest lessons I learned from this trip was where David and I worked well together, and where we didn’t. When I was complaining about hiking the dunes, he pushed me through until the end. When my car got that flat tire he calmed me down and told me it would be okay. We had a few tiff’s but nothing we couldn’t talk through. We were able to smoothly set up our campsite, split the expenses and enjoy our time. Ultimately, I think it made us stronger and showed us where we need to help each other more.

Love yourself:

Due to the lack of running water and mirrors, I went all natural this past weekend, maybe too natural with the whole lake shower thing. I learned that my beauty is not defined by beauty tools and products, but by happiness and the smile on my face. I loved every picture that I took this past weekend and the only make up I was wearing was a sunburn and old mascara. Being out in the woods, without a care in the world, taught me how unimportant make up is and how important adventure and happiness is. I was focused on comfort and fun!

Appreciate all things:

Since I was not connected to my phone the whole weekend, nor was I able to properly shower, I learned to appreciate even the little things. Coming home, I was thankful for a hot shower and hot tea. Being away from home and reality, allowed me to focus my time on the important things like exploring new places and loving on my man. It really showed me the raw parts of life, the parts that make it good. Sure, I love a solid shower and getting all ready for the day, but there is nothing more important than the raw happiness you can find under the stars in the middle of nowhere with someone you love. You appreciate those moments much more than the ones you lack.

I never thought a short-weekend trip could teach me so much, but I am so grateful for the things I learned. Though the weekend has it’s moments of chaos, everything turned out okay and life continues on. I really did enjoy every minute, even the chaotic ones. I just had to share this with all of you because it’s incredible what stepping out of the norm can teach you.

Thank you for reading PYM today! Check out more pictures by following me on Instagram @blogger_alyssa.

Be a Happy Camper.

xo,

Lyss

Live Your Life, Shamelessly

Hello Beautiful Souls,

Everyday you wake up, you have the opportunity to do something amazing with that day. The choice is completely up to you.

When you wake up, you can be upset at the world and groan about going into work. This kind of mindset will create a negative space around you and you may even see more negativity start to come your way.

Another option would be to wake up with a purpose, tell yourself to seize the day and try something new. This mindset will most likely bring you lots of happiness and positive vibes throughout the day. It’s called Law of Attraction, believe it or don’t, but it’s legit.

How does this relate to living your life shamelessly, you ask?

Most of the time, we are held back by our fears of judgement and what others may think of us. We inhibit our abilities to grow because we don’t want to look weird or out-of-place. The thing is though, every person that has ever made a difference in this world was weird and out-of-place. They encountered many failures and climbed many mountains. They didn’t wake up innovators, creators or influencers; they became them.

This relates to the attitude you choose to have on a daily basis because you can wake up and let your fears hold you back or you can live your life shamelessly and be the weird one. The weird ones are the leaders and doer’s of our society.

One of my bosses shared this short Ted Talk with us during my first week at my internship. It was some “weird” guy dancing around by himself but he was surrounded by a crowd of people. Of course, he got dirty looks and quite a few glares. Then something happened, another guy jumped up and started to dance like a maniac too; and another one followed. Eventually there was a whole crowd of people dancing and no one felt weird about it.

Nice-France_Live Your Life

The lesson here is that someone has to be brave enough to step outside of their normal comfort zone and be the werido that starts a movement. It can be scary to put yourself out there, especially all by yourself. Once you embrace this idea of being comfortable with being uncomfortable, you will watch yourself blossom into this magical human. People will no longer judge you, and even if they do, you will not worry about this anymore because you’re confident in who you are.

Coming back to the law of attraction idea, your confidence and self-assurance will create this positive vibe around you. People may be intimidated by you, but more often than not, they will be inspired by you.

 

Today, and everyday, I just want you to live the life that makes you happy regardless of what others think. You only have one life to live, don’t waste it worrying about what people might think of you. Spend it being 100% yourself and enjoying every freaking moment. Thank you for reading and have cheerful day!

Do what makes you happy!

xo, Lyss