My 5 Ways to Cope with Anxiety

Hello Lovely Humans,

I’ve recently began to write about my experience with anxiety. You may have read my last post on anxiety called “I’m Anxious Right Now”. I want to follow up with this post by sharing the ways I cope with anxiety. Anxiety is tough and it’s a battle many people fight behind the scenes, everyday.

I don’t think we realize how many people are actually struggling with anxiety because most anxious feelings are mental. Overthinking, worrying, analyzing, etc. Sometimes we break down and then people notice we are having anxiety. But in reality, it never really goes away.

If you’re anxious, I’ve got a couple ways you can try to fight it.

Lavender Essential Oil

Lavender oil is something that I use to calm my nerves and relax. I carry it with me in my purse and I use it every night before bed. You can put a few drops on your pillow or rub on your temples and on the bottom of your feet. When I lay down for the night, I take a few deep breaths and think about releasing the negatives in each exhale. If you’re not sold on it, it’s also great for bug bites and breakouts.

Herbal Tea

It’s not just the tea that will help calm you. Grabbing a warm mug and just taking a few deep breaths can calm your mind. Take this moment to breathe and relax. Think about each breathe and each sip. Don’t focus on your anxiety, focus on your breaths + enjoying the tea. My favorite tea is Lemon + Ginger Herbal tea.

Exercise

This one may differ from person to person but my best coping mechanism is running. Getting a solid sweaty session in helps clear my mind and ease my nerves. I throw in my headphones and just go. It’s not about speed or distance, just clearing my head. Most of the time though, I run my best mile time when I’m anxious. That’s a positive, right?

Hot Shower or Bath

Taking a hot shower or bath can really relax your whole body. When you are anxious you can tend to clench your teeth or tense up your muscles. A hot bath will relax your mind and body. Play some calming music to assist the process.

Sleep

Sometimes the best way to calm your mind and ease the overthinking is just by sleeping. Take a nap or get a good nights rest to take some of the mental pressure off. Use lavender oil to assist in relaxing. Don’t use sleep to avoid doing daily life activities or to shut your feelings out. Use it wisely!

These are my best coping mechanisms when I am experiencing high anxiety. Maybe you have a few of your own, do whatever you can to ease your anxious mind. Although I struggle with anxiety day-to-day, I always try to remain positive and use these methods to fight back. That’s all you can do when you are experiencing this. I know people will tell you to “relax” and “it will be okay” and they’re right, but it doesn’t always help.

Be optimistic, even in the darkest moments. Life is up and down, it’s not a flat road. Accept this, accept your flaws and keep pushing. Everyone has their own demons.

Thank you for reading PYM today! Share this post because you never know who may need this.

xo, Lyss

It’s All About Perspective

 

Hello Lovely People,

I’m so glad you opened this post because today’s topic is something I think we can all relate to.

Perspective.

Life is all about perspective. Each of us experience many different things and it’s not what happens to us that matters but how we handle it that shows our true character. Lately, you may have noticed that I have been experiencing some lows, and if you have not noticed, let me fill you in briefly.

My grandfather is very ill and his time is now limited. My relationship with my dad isn’t great. I’ve lost a couple close friends. Blah, blah, blah. Stuff like this has been occurring in my life over the past few months. Tiring, yes but not the end of the world.

If I’m being honest, it’s made me be a little down in the deeps lately, which is not like me. But, I’ve realized I can change this. I could change this by changing my perspective on most of these things.

Once again, life is about how we handle the things that come our way rather than the actual things. I can continue to let this stuff take up negative space in my head or I can stop and see the positives in my life. Although life throws us all a solid set of challenges, it also has many beautiful moments that we cannot neglect in times of negativity.

Take time to appreciate the little things around you:

  • The sun peeking through the blinds each morning
  • A cup of coffee on a chilly morning
  • Watching the clouds move above you
  • Favorite songs
  • Looking up at the stars
  • A hot shower after a long day
  • Compliments from a stranger
  • The rain hitting your skin

It can be hard to step back and appreciate these things sometimes but it is important to. Appreciating the little things makes the big things not so “big”. Each of us encounter struggles and challenges in our lives, and these things can take a toll on us. Become aware of the good around you.

I understand life can get hectic sometimes but you have to be able to separate that in your mind. Far more good things happen throughout our lives than bad. Take time to accept what’s happening to you but don’t stay in that low place. Move forward with a grateful heart.

Thank you for reading PYM! I’m planning some new projects that I will share with you guys in the upcoming months. Stay tuned.

xo, Lyss

To the Girl with “No Friends”

Hi There Beautiful,

As we begin to grow up and our lives begin to change, we notice that people come and go from our lives. From high school to college to post-college, our friends change. People walk out of our lives for various reasons, some unknown reasons.

For the past couple of years, I have struggled with trying to find a friend group. I couldn’t understand why I didn’t have many friends.

I have friends, of course. But, I feel I have never had a friend group that hangs out all the time. I have many friends but they are not one group of people. I’ll grab coffee with one, workout with the other and so on. It’s not like we all hang out at once. They come from various backgrounds.

Recently, I had two people walk out of my life for almost no reason. One girl said that I was too busy and didn’t make time for her, and the other straight up ditched me and gave no explanation. She completely ignored my texts.

Okay, I must be crazy!? Why did this just happen…

Well, as I always say, your vibe attracts your tribe. It also repels those who do not belong in your tribe. We can’t forget that it works in both ways. People are going to come and go in your life, but the real friends stick around. They don’t walk away just because you get busy.

Understand that life isn’t always about having a big friend group. It’s about surrounding yourself with genuinely good people who lift you up and support your dreams. As I said, the friends I do have come from various backgrounds. This makes my friends very dynamic. They each offer me something different. One inspires me to keep working toward my dreams because she is relentlessly working towards hers and she understands the hustle. Another is already kicking ass and she offers me so much motivation and wisdom.

Friend groups aren’t bad, but having less is sometimes more. Managing lots of friends can make you very stressed when you are hustling to make your dreams a reality and working hard everyday. When the timing is right, lots of friends will come into your life. When you need time to build yourself, your energy will weed out the ones who don’t understand that.

Just trust the process, and believe that everything happens for a reason. The people that walk away from you are not meant to be a part of your journey. We learn from those who come into our lives and we learn even more when they leave.

Understand that you don’t have to have a bunch of friends. 4 quarters are better than 100 pennies, remember that. You want to make valuable connections and you cannot do that when you are trying to nurture 100 different people.

Make an effort to be a good friend, invest in people and make meaningful connections; but don’t ever force a relationship that’s not meant to be. I’m learning to be a better friend, and I think we all are working on this. Be positive and confident, your vibes will guide you to the right people.

Thank you for reading PYM today!

Stay close to people who feel like sunlight.

xo, Lyss

 

My 5 Tips to Get Healthy + Happy

Hello Beautiful,

Getting healthy means more than just eating a salad or going for a run. Getting healthy includes having a healthy mental state and healthy relationships. Being healthy also means being happy. When you restrict yourself to a diet or counting calories, you can damage your perception of what being healthy really means.

When you begin to research ways to be healthy and happy, you have to accommodate yourself. It’s easy to look at someone super fit and healthy and say I am going to do that. But, you have to be aware that everybody is different. Literally, every “body” functions differently and must be nourished in various ways.

Disclaimer: I’m not a health expert and I’m not perfect. These things I am sharing are things I continue to work on everyday. I’m not a pro, but that’s the point of working on yourself. You don’t ever stop, it’s a continuous exercise until it becomes a habit. Nobody is perfect. We are all working towards becoming the best versions of ourselves.

With that being said, I just want to share the top 5 things that helped me get inspired to live a more healthy lifestyle. Once again, I am still working on these things daily until they become a habit.

Eat Yummy Food!
Wait! What? Yes, I said eat yummy food. Yummy food that will nourish your body and give you energy. Food is a key factor to becoming healthy, what you put into your body determines your overall health. You want to eat foods that energize you and are filled with good nutrients. Foods that are fresh and not processed. I know how difficult it can be to eat clean on a college budget, but it is possible. (grocery shopping haul to come!)

The key to eating fresh and clean is finding recipes you like, and finding meals that work for you. Everyone has different tastes and learning to eat healthy takes some trial and error. Do research, try new things and repeat.

Progress is still Progress
Something I have learned in my healthy living journey is that no matter the progress you make, it is still progress. Every baby step will eventually add up to big leaps. The little victories should still be celebrated because when you put any journey into perspective, you realize that every piece counts. It all adds up to equal the final product.

Celebrate your small wins, and never lose faith because you aren’t “making progress” because you are!

Listen to your Body
Learn what your body wants and how it reacts to different foods and exercises. I sort of explained this in the first point, but this practice is the best way to achieve a healthy lifestyle. I’ve mentioned the YouTuber, Sarah’s Day before on my blog because she was part of my inspiration to get back to working on myself. Listen to your body is her motto. She lives by this method and I believe it is an effective method too. I think this because our body tells us how it feels in different cues, think about when you’ve ate a really sugary donut or something, how did you feel? I know when I eat too much sugar in a day, my tummy hurts. That’s when you listen to your body. How is it functioning? Are you properly digesting your food? How do you feel?

All of these things describe what it means to listen to your body. You don’t have to count calories to be healthy, you can simply buy good food and see how you feel. Same goes for working out, you don’t have to follow a plan; just do what feels best and works for your body. If you need a day to rest, relax and enjoy some tea…do it. LISTEN TO YOUR BODY!

Do What You Want
In regards to exercise, do what you want. What I mean by this is you do not have to follow everyone else. Sure, there are millions of workout plans on the internet and videos to buy. But, just do what feels right for you and works for you. Everyone is different and our bodies can react differently to certain workouts. Of course, you can still do your research and try out new methods but don’t hold yourself to one regimen. I personally enjoy high-intensity exercises! I’m not much for lifting weights, but sometimes I do it to change up my routine.

When it comes to being healthy and exercising, just know that your lifestyle is completely up to you. You do not have to be or do anything you don’t want to.

Love Yourself + Your Beauty
Trust me, I know what a battle it can be to wake up everyday and just be obsessed with yourself. It’s not possible. We all have insecurities we struggle with and we must face them everyday. The trick is to realize the everyone has them, even the most perfect people. You may think it’s just you, but there are thousands of people who probably struggle with similar things.

I’ve explained this in recent post, but you have to realize that beauty is different in everyone’s eyes. Flowers are pretty, but so are sunsets. Flowers don’t take any beauty away from the sunset. Same goes for you. Just because you don’t look like the models you see on social media, doesn’t mean you’re less beautiful.

In order to truly live a healthy + happy life, you must love yourself and work on becoming comfortable with who you are. You are so unique and beautiful. Embrace your flaws, know that they make you who you are. Fall in love with the process of getting healthy and being happy. Find new ways to make yourself happy everyday. Never stop learning more about yourself.

I hope from this post you can takeaway a few things. One being to get to know yourself and learn what is best for your body. Do your research, try new things and keep working hard. Another takeaway is loving yourself through the process. Every day throws something new at us, learn to go with the flow of things and trust the process. Some days will be quiet days spent in a cafe and other days will be spent smashing a workout in the gym. It’s about balance.

Lastly, remember that part of being healthy and happy includes taking care of your mind too. Don’t overwhelm yourself with a strict schedule or crazy diets. Take time to journal, drink tea and read a good book. It also means finding time to spend with people you love, people who inspire you. That may not be a point above, but it’s equally important. Your health goes beyond muscle tone.

Looking for more posts like this? Check out 20 Things to a Happy + Healthy Life, Farm Fresh Salad Recipe or I’m not Perfect, I Know.

Thank you for reading PYM today. I know some of this may have been slightly repetitive but these are the things that have helped me understand what it meant to be “healthy”, and hopefully thy can help you too.

xo, Lyss

I’m Not Perfect, I Know

Hello Lovely People,

In a world of picture perfect people, thanks to social media; we are all held to an unobtainable standard. I believe women struggle with this a little more than the fellas, but we all experience it.

“It”, referring to the feeling of never being enough.

We get caught up comparing ourselves and our accomplishments to others. It’s easy to do in a society where everyone shares their lives on the internet. You get a new shirt and you’re happy, but then you see your friend just got a new car. This feeling of envy can kick in.

You were completely content with your purchase of $15 until you saw someone had something better. You then think: “oh, well I can’t afford that, I must not be good enough or successful enough”.

The cycle begins. It’s vicious too!

You don’t mean to be jealous or envious of other people but it’s hard not to be when their “perfect” lives are always in your face.

Truth: Their lives are not perfect. How do I know this?

Well because just like us, they’re human. We all try to post our best pictures and post on our best days, when really, there are a lot of low quality pictures and low quality days. As a society, we like to share the good stuff.

I have anxiety. Many people may not know this about me but they do know that I “like a plan”. It’s not that I like a plan but I get anxiety when I don’t know what to expect. It makes me overthink and worry, why? I couldn’t tell you. It just happens mentally.

I started to share some of struggles (with anxiety) on Instagram and Facebook, being 100% honest and it was a hit. Not in the sense that I got this fancy attention for it and all these followers, but I had people personally message me telling me they struggled with the same things. REAL PEOPLE. The ones that even shared pictures of their perfect lives.

See! No one is perfect, we just like to put on a front that makes people think we are. It’s safer because we’re less vulnerable in that state.

I’m not saying every time you log on to social media you need to share your true feelings. Just be aware that everyone else has similar battles in their lives, we just don’t always see them.

And a side note. Rather than focusing on what people are doing around you and on social media, focus on your goals and your accomplishments. Whether you just got a new shirt or a new car, you are not any greater or less than those around you.

Everyone has flaws, they may not be the same as yours but they’re there. And if you think about it, your flaws are only defined by you. How other people view them is completely up to them. How you define your flaws may be how someone else defines your beauty. One of my favorite quotes that I came across recently, explains this all so well:

“Just because you don’t look like somebody who you think is attractive doesn’t mean you are’t attractive. Flowers are pretty, but so are sunsets and they look nothing alike.”  

Thank you for checking out Pretty, Young and Motivated today! I have officially created a YouTube channel that will go along with this blog. It is under my name Alyssa Waid, but it is an addition to the PYM family. Check it out here!

You too have a picture perfect life, it’s just about the angle you look at it.

xo, Lyss