My 5 Ways to Cope with Anxiety

Hello Lovely Humans,

I’ve recently began to write about my experience with anxiety. You may have read my last post on anxiety called “I’m Anxious Right Now”. I want to follow up with this post by sharing the ways I cope with anxiety. Anxiety is tough and it’s a battle many people fight behind the scenes, everyday.

I don’t think we realize how many people are actually struggling with anxiety because most anxious feelings are mental. Overthinking, worrying, analyzing, etc. Sometimes we break down and then people notice we are having anxiety. But in reality, it never really goes away.

If you’re anxious, I’ve got a couple ways you can try to fight it.

Lavender Essential Oil

Lavender oil is something that I use to calm my nerves and relax. I carry it with me in my purse and I use it every night before bed. You can put a few drops on your pillow or rub on your temples and on the bottom of your feet. When I lay down for the night, I take a few deep breaths and think about releasing the negatives in each exhale. If you’re not sold on it, it’s also great for bug bites and breakouts.

Herbal Tea

It’s not just the tea that will help calm you. Grabbing a warm mug and just taking a few deep breaths can calm your mind. Take this moment to breathe and relax. Think about each breathe and each sip. Don’t focus on your anxiety, focus on your breaths + enjoying the tea. My favorite tea is Lemon + Ginger Herbal tea.

Exercise

This one may differ from person to person but my best coping mechanism is running. Getting a solid sweaty session in helps clear my mind and ease my nerves. I throw in my headphones and just go. It’s not about speed or distance, just clearing my head. Most of the time though, I run my best mile time when I’m anxious. That’s a positive, right?

Hot Shower or Bath

Taking a hot shower or bath can really relax your whole body. When you are anxious you can tend to clench your teeth or tense up your muscles. A hot bath will relax your mind and body. Play some calming music to assist the process.

Sleep

Sometimes the best way to calm your mind and ease the overthinking is just by sleeping. Take a nap or get a good nights rest to take some of the mental pressure off. Use lavender oil to assist in relaxing. Don’t use sleep to avoid doing daily life activities or to shut your feelings out. Use it wisely!

These are my best coping mechanisms when I am experiencing high anxiety. Maybe you have a few of your own, do whatever you can to ease your anxious mind. Although I struggle with anxiety day-to-day, I always try to remain positive and use these methods to fight back. That’s all you can do when you are experiencing this. I know people will tell you to “relax” and “it will be okay” and they’re right, but it doesn’t always help.

Be optimistic, even in the darkest moments. Life is up and down, it’s not a flat road. Accept this, accept your flaws and keep pushing. Everyone has their own demons.

Thank you for reading PYM today! Share this post because you never know who may need this.

xo, Lyss

It’s All About Perspective

 

Hello Lovely People,

I’m so glad you opened this post because today’s topic is something I think we can all relate to.

Perspective.

Life is all about perspective. Each of us experience many different things and it’s not what happens to us that matters but how we handle it that shows our true character. Lately, you may have noticed that I have been experiencing some lows, and if you have not noticed, let me fill you in briefly.

My grandfather is very ill and his time is now limited. My relationship with my dad isn’t great. I’ve lost a couple close friends. Blah, blah, blah. Stuff like this has been occurring in my life over the past few months. Tiring, yes but not the end of the world.

If I’m being honest, it’s made me be a little down in the deeps lately, which is not like me. But, I’ve realized I can change this. I could change this by changing my perspective on most of these things.

Once again, life is about how we handle the things that come our way rather than the actual things. I can continue to let this stuff take up negative space in my head or I can stop and see the positives in my life. Although life throws us all a solid set of challenges, it also has many beautiful moments that we cannot neglect in times of negativity.

Take time to appreciate the little things around you:

  • The sun peeking through the blinds each morning
  • A cup of coffee on a chilly morning
  • Watching the clouds move above you
  • Favorite songs
  • Looking up at the stars
  • A hot shower after a long day
  • Compliments from a stranger
  • The rain hitting your skin

It can be hard to step back and appreciate these things sometimes but it is important to. Appreciating the little things makes the big things not so “big”. Each of us encounter struggles and challenges in our lives, and these things can take a toll on us. Become aware of the good around you.

I understand life can get hectic sometimes but you have to be able to separate that in your mind. Far more good things happen throughout our lives than bad. Take time to accept what’s happening to you but don’t stay in that low place. Move forward with a grateful heart.

Thank you for reading PYM! I’m planning some new projects that I will share with you guys in the upcoming months. Stay tuned.

xo, Lyss

What’s Project Comeback?

Hello Pretty People,

If you follow me on social media, you’ll notice that every once in awhile I share snaps or photos of my “project comeback”. You may wonder what I mean by that. Project Comeback is a term I have picked up to refer to the time I use to get my life back on track.

Life gets busy. We can lose track of working out, eating healthy and all around, taking care of ourselves. It happens!

That was last week for me. It’s easy to fall into this and it’s also okay to fall into this. We are human and we do not have to stick to anything that’s uncomfortable. I started back at university this week, which means a change in my schedule. And I say a new schedule calls for new goals!

To me, project comeback isn’t just about getting back in the gym or eating a salad. It’s about getting a clear vision of my goals and doing what it takes to accomplish them. Sometimes that means adjusting my goals and going back to the basics! I’m going to share some of the steps I take to focus my mindset and get my sh*t together.

My Project Comeback

Set New Goals: My schedule has taken a complete 180 from what I was doing this past summer. Therefore, I am setting new goals to accommodate this schedule. I’m also starting my final year of college, that alone calls for some serious goal setting! Time to put the big girl pants on.

Setting new goals is always a refreshing way to refocus yourself and get inspired. If you’re ever feeling a little out of whack, try setting new goals.

Drink More Water: My skin is taking an end of the summer plunge. I did not get as much vitamin D as I would’ve liked this summer, and my skin can agree. Drinking water (lots of water) will rejuvenate the skin and it’s great for your health. Try to drink a glass when you wake up and one before bed.

In general, drinking more water always helps my skin and my energy levels.

Schedule Time to Workout: Working out is not for everyone but I’m not asking that you go to the gym and lift weights. Just get your blood moving. Take a morning walk, do 50 push ups or take a swim. Whatever fits in your lifestyle, do that!

Sometimes I’m not working out to build muscle or lose weight, I’m doing it to cure my anxiety or relieve my stress.

Get Some Sleep: I love sleep! I know how easy it can be to binge watch a tv show or stay up late on your phone, but really try to catch some z’s. Sleep helps your skin, digestion and energy. It’s okay to take a few late nights, however sticking to a sleep schedule will benefit you so much.

Make Time to Blog: Make time to do what you love. This one is personal to me because I have neglected making the proper time to sit down and really write. I love creating content for my readers and it’s a way for me to release some of my own thoughts. Take time to do the things that bring you happiness.

These are just a few of the things that I do to get my life back together. There are days, even weeks, where things just tumble out of control. It’s okay, splurge a little. Just take care of yourself and know when it’s time to get it together.

I challenge you to create your own Project Comeback because we all have off days and we all deserve time to splurge. It’s all about the balance, babes!

You’ve got this!

xo, Lyss

To the Girl with “No Friends”

Hi There Beautiful,

As we begin to grow up and our lives begin to change, we notice that people come and go from our lives. From high school to college to post-college, our friends change. People walk out of our lives for various reasons, some unknown reasons.

For the past couple of years, I have struggled with trying to find a friend group. I couldn’t understand why I didn’t have many friends.

I have friends, of course. But, I feel I have never had a friend group that hangs out all the time. I have many friends but they are not one group of people. I’ll grab coffee with one, workout with the other and so on. It’s not like we all hang out at once. They come from various backgrounds.

Recently, I had two people walk out of my life for almost no reason. One girl said that I was too busy and didn’t make time for her, and the other straight up ditched me and gave no explanation. She completely ignored my texts.

Okay, I must be crazy!? Why did this just happen…

Well, as I always say, your vibe attracts your tribe. It also repels those who do not belong in your tribe. We can’t forget that it works in both ways. People are going to come and go in your life, but the real friends stick around. They don’t walk away just because you get busy.

Understand that life isn’t always about having a big friend group. It’s about surrounding yourself with genuinely good people who lift you up and support your dreams. As I said, the friends I do have come from various backgrounds. This makes my friends very dynamic. They each offer me something different. One inspires me to keep working toward my dreams because she is relentlessly working towards hers and she understands the hustle. Another is already kicking ass and she offers me so much motivation and wisdom.

Friend groups aren’t bad, but having less is sometimes more. Managing lots of friends can make you very stressed when you are hustling to make your dreams a reality and working hard everyday. When the timing is right, lots of friends will come into your life. When you need time to build yourself, your energy will weed out the ones who don’t understand that.

Just trust the process, and believe that everything happens for a reason. The people that walk away from you are not meant to be a part of your journey. We learn from those who come into our lives and we learn even more when they leave.

Understand that you don’t have to have a bunch of friends. 4 quarters are better than 100 pennies, remember that. You want to make valuable connections and you cannot do that when you are trying to nurture 100 different people.

Make an effort to be a good friend, invest in people and make meaningful connections; but don’t ever force a relationship that’s not meant to be. I’m learning to be a better friend, and I think we all are working on this. Be positive and confident, your vibes will guide you to the right people.

Thank you for reading PYM today!

Stay close to people who feel like sunlight.

xo, Lyss

 

I’m Anxious Right Now

Hello Beautiful People,

I wanted to have an honest moment with all of you. Many of you may know that I struggle with anxiety from time to time. I have talked about this in more recent posts, but I thought I would be 100% real with you today.

Right now at this very moment, I am anxious.

Why you may ask?

That’s the problem with anxiety, you can’t always define the cause. Sometimes I am able to figure out where it is rooting from but most of the time it is unknown. That’s why it kind of makes one feel crazy. Anxiety gets under your skin, you feel it in your gut. It’s like being nervous about nothing.

It’s caring too much and it’s thinking too much.

You fear things that aren’t even happening. For example, right now I am feeling like people are annoyed with me; like they don’t want to be around me. So naturally, I am pushing away people that are close to me. I don’t want to be annoying and bothersome. My anxiety can take over and cause me to overthink even the smallest things. And that’s what is happening currently.

It’s wanting to fix something that’s not even a problem yet.

You feel alone, even when you’re not. You push people away (accidentally) because you’re scared of getting hurt. When in reality, nobody is leaving you. It’s all in your head. People ask what’s wrong and you can’t explain it because it doesn’t even make sense in your own head.

That’s anxiety.

Most of the time I wish I did’t have to deal with this monster in my head but let me tell you a few things that anxiety has done for me.

Anxiety has made me love more deeply. I invest myself completely into a person because I think about every little thing. I don’t like conflict, so I do my best to make everyone happy and I always consider other peoples feelings. Sometimes before my own.

Anxiety has made me a planner. This is one of those things that can go both ways. In some sense, you don’t want to over plan and ruin the moment. But, planning has made me the driven, ambitious person I am today. Since I do think about every aspect,  I am able to formulate a plan to accommodate many outcomes. Downfall of this trait is unmet expectations cause disappointment. You win some and lose some!

Anxiety has motivated me in many ways. At times, it can take over my mood and cause me to be in a real funk. But, the next day I have the option to make it a great day or let anxiety win. It all around has made me a stronger person.

Anxiety makes me stronger inside because it forces me to be completely self-aware at all times.

Anxiety allows me to read others very well. That is a gift of anxiety, I can determine if people are good or bad people pretty early on.

These are just a few ways I can describe anxiety. Creating this post has actually helped me internalize my feelings. Sometimes writing out your thoughts helps ease the anxious feeling. It allows you to see what you are thinking. If you are someone who struggles with anxiety, know that you are not alone and everything will be okay, even though it may not feel that way in the moment.

Don’t be afraid to reach out and get help. You are most important, so take care of yourself!

Thank you for reading PYM today. I hope this post is able to help those who also struggle with anxiety find peace in the fact that they are not alone, and offer a perspective of anxiety for those who may not understand it.

Remember: Everything will work out.

xo, Lyss