Women Empowering Women

Hello Pretty People,

The other morning I attended a Women’s Leadership breakfast where a panel of accomplished women spoke on various topics. It was a very inspiring talk and it really resonated with me. The way these women took on difficult challenges to get in the positions they are in today was completely motivating.

As I listened and discussed with the women around me, I immediately thought of Pretty, Young & Motivated. I created this blog to empower other women. I want my writing to be a tool for you. A place you come when you need to be inspired and motivated. My passion is inspiring other women to realize their full potential.

During this breakfast, we discussed what leadership means to each of us. I think being a leader means you chose to be vulnerable. To be a leader, you must be willing to take the first step, even when it’s scary or uncomfortable. Leaders are the people who make everyone else comfortable. Leaders set examples, they are role models for a group or community. Leaders also empower others. They do not compete and they do not judge.

Real Talk

Ladies…I know we tend to be a little judgmental from time to time. Our society has taught us to compete with one another rather than empower each other. I know we feel like we have to compete with each other but guess what? If another female accomplishes something, that does not mean you cannot do the same. It may just not be the right timing for you. If you see a beautiful girl, that does not lessen your beauty.

Flowers are beautiful, but so are sunsets and they are nothing alike. 

Remember this. Flowers don’t stop growing just because the flower next to them is taller. Everyone is on their own journey and we all will experience different things in life.

The Point

Don’t compete with other women. You are still great. We are all great in our own ways. At this point of time, women need to stand together. As we move into the future, we are filling more leadership roles and defying traditions. Be who you want to be and take what is yours. Competing with other women will not benefit you or them. It really just defeats the process of creating more opportunities for women.

We rise together!

Females are strong, beautiful creatures. We are passionate and we listen to our hearts. Although this can be seen as sensitive by some, I believe following your heart creates more intentional actions. Passion will create more than plans ever will.

So, take initiative to be a leader for those around you. Men and women. Stand up for what you believe in. Women have enough critics, so offer compliments instead. Compliment their strength or bravery. Focus on the qualities of people. If we respect one another, it will set an example for others to do the same.

As females, it’s our job to stand up for one another. Together we are stronger.

xo, Lyss

I’m Not Perfect, I Know

Hello Lovely People,

In a world of picture perfect people, thanks to social media; we are all held to an unobtainable standard. I believe women struggle with this a little more than the fellas, but we all experience it.

“It”, referring to the feeling of never being enough.

We get caught up comparing ourselves and our accomplishments to others. It’s easy to do in a society where everyone shares their lives on the internet. You get a new shirt and you’re happy, but then you see your friend just got a new car. This feeling of envy can kick in.

You were completely content with your purchase of $15 until you saw someone had something better. You then think: “oh, well I can’t afford that, I must not be good enough or successful enough”.

The cycle begins. It’s vicious too!

You don’t mean to be jealous or envious of other people but it’s hard not to be when their “perfect” lives are always in your face.

Truth: Their lives are not perfect. How do I know this?

Well because just like us, they’re human. We all try to post our best pictures and post on our best days, when really, there are a lot of low quality pictures and low quality days. As a society, we like to share the good stuff.

I have anxiety. Many people may not know this about me but they do know that I “like a plan”. It’s not that I like a plan but I get anxiety when I don’t know what to expect. It makes me overthink and worry, why? I couldn’t tell you. It just happens mentally.

I started to share some of struggles (with anxiety) on Instagram and Facebook, being 100% honest and it was a hit. Not in the sense that I got this fancy attention for it and all these followers, but I had people personally message me telling me they struggled with the same things. REAL PEOPLE. The ones that even shared pictures of their perfect lives.

See! No one is perfect, we just like to put on a front that makes people think we are. It’s safer because we’re less vulnerable in that state.

I’m not saying every time you log on to social media you need to share your true feelings. Just be aware that everyone else has similar battles in their lives, we just don’t always see them.

And a side note. Rather than focusing on what people are doing around you and on social media, focus on your goals and your accomplishments. Whether you just got a new shirt or a new car, you are not any greater or less than those around you.

Everyone has flaws, they may not be the same as yours but they’re there. And if you think about it, your flaws are only defined by you. How other people view them is completely up to them. How you define your flaws may be how someone else defines your beauty. One of my favorite quotes that I came across recently, explains this all so well:

“Just because you don’t look like somebody who you think is attractive doesn’t mean you are’t attractive. Flowers are pretty, but so are sunsets and they look nothing alike.”  

Thank you for checking out Pretty, Young and Motivated today! I have officially created a YouTube channel that will go along with this blog. It is under my name Alyssa Waid, but it is an addition to the PYM family. Check it out here!

You too have a picture perfect life, it’s just about the angle you look at it.

xo, Lyss

When Life Gets Busy

Hello Beautiful Souls,

Sometimes it’s hard to love ourselves fully. We all have bad days where we wake up feeling low. Lately I have been very busy, and as much as I enjoy being busy, it catches up to you. You forget to enjoy the small things and worry too much about what’s next. As you can probably notice, this has impacted my blogging too! Blogging is my way of being creative; it takes my thoughts and feelings about life and puts them into perspective for others to read and connect with.  After taking some time off, I have realized it’s not always about consistency. Life is what you make it and to be honest, everyday won’t be amazing and extravagant, but everyday is a new chance to make it amazing and extravagant. Don’t lose sight of your goals when your stuck in that in-between.

If we always lived in the high moments of life, we would not appreciate life as much; the lows allow us to step back, adjust our perspectives and try again. The lows in life make us thankful for the highs. Too often we set ourselves to high standards that are not always obtainable. “Always be on time” “take 16 credits instead of 13” “Work two jobs” “post a blog post 3 times a week”.

No, no & no.

You do not have to do what society tells you to do because that’s when you become normal and you become everyone else. Society is not you. You are in charge of your feelings and thoughts, you must take care of yourself. Listen to what your soul wants. Take breaks, find a new inspiration, quit that second job, try something new. Do what YOU have to do, not what society wants you to do.

Blogging is how I share my thoughts with the world and whether 1,000 people read my posts or just one, my point is not to become famous or make money, it’s to create articles that resonate with just one person. If one person reads my post and it some how helps or inspires them, that’s all that matters to me. I obviously want to create posts for all types of people to read, but I’m done forcing unauthentic posts. I don’t write for followers or likes, I write to help other women (& sometimes men) feel inspired and empowered to be there own boss and take control of their lives. I’m no expert on life but I am an expert on being one of you: a human-being, aimlessly walking this earth and finding a purpose for this thing we call “life”.

Stop forcing things that are fake or unauthentic; whether it’s your style, personality or hobbies. Don’t create something just to fit in or appease others, do it for yourself and do it with purpose. Life is too short to be a copy of someone else.

My new goal is to post when it feels right, I will work on posting more frequently, but I will not force myself to write a post just to post it. Just like life is not consistent, my writing probably won’t be either. I want to provide worthy content for my readers and I want to make it worth my time in the process. I am sorry for taking such a long break from posting but I hope you understand. This blog is important to me because it is my way to express my feelings and thoughts, as well as reach out to those who need inspiration and motivation. Though I have been very busy, I am missing being able to take time to just write. I plan to take time each week to write for my blog and for myself.

Don’t get caught up in things that distract you from what you love. Once again, it’s okay to take a break. Every successful person must experience breaks, failures and challenges to become successful. These moments allow us to learn and grow. Thank you for sticking around during my break and as I always say…

Never give up!

xo, Lyss

Stories + Spaces: Self-Love

Hello Lovely People,

It’s time for this month’s Stories + Spaces and the topic is “Self-Love.” You’ve probably noticed my last few posts have been related to self-love, and I have to be honest, my self-love routine has taken a back seat due to my busy schedule this semester. Over the past few weeks, this lack of self care has begun to catch up with me. I’ve been breaking out every week due to stress, illness is creeping up on me and my sleep schedule is out of whack.

Although I love being busy and investing my time into many things, it catches up to you. Sadly, when we get busy I think the first thing we neglect is ourselves. After constantly breaking out and feeling under the weather, I realized it’s time to take care of myself first.

This post could not have come at a better time! I am working on refocusing my attention and taking care of my well-being. Tessa constructed this post and she asked us three questions.

Why is self-love important?

In my opinion, self-love is important because it gives us confidence and makes us happier. When you look up the definition of self-love, you may see synonyms like conceit or narcissism. I find this to be so disheartening. Self-love should not be looked at as a selfish act. Self-love is not about being too into yourself or being selfish; it’s about taking care of your mind, body and spirit. It’s interest in your own well-being, and is that really narcissistic?

Self-love is important to your health, it promotes good energy and a mindful life. Taking care of yourself is crucial to keeping your passions inspired and keeping your vibes positive. Never look at self-love as something negative or selfish. You can still love yourself and spread love to others. Actually, people who are more confident in themselves, are more likely to be kind to others because they are comfortable with themselves. When you are comfortable with who you are, you don’t worry about what others look like or what they think. It’s freeing!

How I promote self-love in my life?

As I mentioned in the beginning of the post, my self-love routine has been a little off lately. But, since I have been feeling this way, I decided to take a step back and focus on myself more. These are a few of the ways that I take care of my mind and body.

  1. Drink tea: Tea is great for many different things; immune system, energy, skin, etc. Drinking tea is healthy & yummy!
  2.  Lavender essential oil: This has been my go-to for everything. I use this on my breakouts, pillowcase (stress reliever) and in my hair (dry scalp). It is the best thing ever!
  3. Taking a run: When I find the time (and the weather is nice), I love to get outside and run. This relieves my stress and boosts my mood.
  4. Getting my nails done: Lately, I have found getting my nails done really helps boost my confidence. It makes me feel pretty and look professional.
  5. Read positive quotes:  I love finding quotes on Pinterest and sharing them with my girl friends.
  6. Sleep: Sleep is so important to me. It keeps me functioning and it’s important to give your mind a rest.
  7. Taking care of my skin: This has been a never ending battle lately, but I always remove all my makeup and wash my face each night. I like to moisturize my face each night too, especially during the winter months.

This isn’t really a bullet point but just a statement on promoting self-love and that is speaking positively about yourself. When you speak negatively about yourself to others and to yourself, it promotes negativity in your life. Never compare yourself and be confident in who you are.

What I love most about myself?

Who I am and where I come from. A lot of people don’t know that I use to be a tomboy growing up; I raced motorcycles, caught gaint frogs and built forts until I was about 13. People see me as a girly girl and all into fashion, which is partly true, but I come from a lot more than just that. I’d like to thing my life as been on the end of a little crazy but nothing to complain about because I believe it has all made me who I am today.

My past has made me work hard for every single one of my goals, it has taught me to have a kind heart but not to take shit from anyone. I always give people second chances, but never a third. Ambition and passionate are words that describe my attitude toward many things in life. I love that I had the opportunity to grow up playing outdoors, doing ballet and racing dirt bikes, it made me tough. So, what I love most about myself is who I am because of my past and what I’ve become because of it.

Everyday and everything is a lesson, what you learn from it is up to you. You can make it negative or you can make it positive, the choice is yours.

I really enjoyed writing this post, especially during this busy time of my life. It’s always nice to remind yourself that self-love is important. Be sure to check out the other girl’s posts too! I will link their blogs below.

Tessa | Simply Tess

Ally | A Touch of Tulle

Paige | Where the Wildflowers Are

Thank you for reading today! Stay tuned for more posts from PYM. I apologize for only posting once a week sometimes, my schedule is insane and I barely have time for homework. Thank you for sticking around and I hope your week is amazing.

Happy Monday.

xo, Lyss

12 Reasons to be Happy Right Now

Hello Pretty People,

I apologize for not posting yesterday, I was feeling uninspired this past weekend and I had no idea what to share with you beautiful people. It hit me this morning though, why should you (& me) be happy right now. I figured I would take this time of the year to list out some reasons to be happy. I think there are many reasons to be happy, but sometimes we get caught up in the routine of life and forget to stop and smell the roses (a.k.a be happy!).

It’s funny because this is the time of the year that people are setting goals and beginning new things, so why does it feel so depressing?! Well, I’m not sure if I know the exact answer to that question but it could be the fact that people set too high of expectations for themselves. This is the time of the year we should be excited about what’s to come and all the goals we have just set for ourselves. Since that is not the case though, I thought this post could be a helpful reminder as to why you should be overly excited and happy everyday.

Reasons to be happy right now:

You’re alive

You are still breathing, which means you still have the chance to make your life into something. You have the opportunity to live life beautifully. There are so many people that are alive, but do not choose to live. Be the one who lives!

There are people that need you

Sometimes you might feel alone, and maybe like no one needs you, but there is someone out there who depends on you. You don’t always see these people because they may be watching your from the shadows, maybe you inspire them or motivate them to be better. Just because they aren’t telling you face to face, doesn’t mean they aren’t there.

You are loved

You have people all around you that love you; family, friends and even coworkers. Once again, this may not be vocalized daily but you are loved by many.

Happy people are more productive

Why would you ever waste time dwelling on the negative? Well, we all do it and it inhibits our productivity. When you are happy, you tend to be more productive. Your mood is up, and therefore, you are motivated to be more productive. Negativity and depression causes us to be setback and move more slowly.

You’re strong

you may not believe me, but look how far you’ve come! I know you must of jumped through rings of fire to be where you are today. Your journey may not look like someone else’s, but that doesn’t make you any less than them. You are a warrior.

Everything can change

If you are unhappy in your current situation, be optimistic because things can change at any moment. Some things take time, you just have to be patient. You are not going to be in this spot forever!

It boosts your mood

Being happy is a lot easier, and less depressing, than being negative. Of course you will have a better mood if you are walking around smiling and being positive in all situations.

When you are focusing on the good, you attract more good things

Law of attraction, my friend. When you are positive and optimistic, you will attract more positive vibes. This is one you will notice too! You will see the people you choose to surround yourself with start to change, and your mindset will adjust to be positive more naturally. When you focus on the negative, you are just feeding that negative energy and allowing it to grow.

Today could be the best day

You never know what a day could hold for you, never be pessimistic about what’s to come. Never underestimate what today my bring. There is so much opportunity for a great day, just wait.

You live in a beautiful world

This world is so beautiful; there are so many things to explore, near and far. You are lucky to live in such an amazing world. Sometimes it’s easy to forget what’s around us, but here is your reminder that the universe is beautiful. Now that’s something to be happy about!

You have the power to make someone’s day

Here you are, a happy person, with a giant smile on your face. Why not spread that happiness to others. You have the power to improve someones day, so why not take the chance! Just throw a stranger a compliment or send your best friend a positive quote. It’s simple!

You are in control of your life

Lastly, you have control of how your life will go; take advantage of your power and choose happiness. Each day you wake up, make the decision to be positive and optimistic. Everyday is a fresh start to be happy and leave your mark on the world. Do not forget to fall in love with the little things and appreciate the world around you. Whenever you forget why you should be happy, you can always check back to this list or create your own. Now is the time to take control of your happiness.

 

It’s easy to forget some of the reasons we should be happy, and it’s also easy to get into that mid winter slump. I know I have been struggling with the winter blues this month and my mood has definitely taken a plunge. Writing this post reminded me of the reasons I should be happy. As I mention in the beginning of this post, I was running low on inspiration for today’s post and when this popped in my head this morning, I knew I had to pursue it.

Thank you all for reading this post today! I want this post be a reference for you, and inspire you to be happy. As my readers, I like to be up front with you because I want you to know I am human. I have the same struggles that you do. Please share this post and feel free to create your own list of reasons to be happy. This will allow you to look back on the rough days and be inspired by the good days. Thank you again for reading.

May you have a grace-filled week!

xo, Lyss