Realizing the Beauty of Life

Hello Lovely People,

Today I wanted to write freely on a topic that came to mind yesterday.

 

Yesterday, I spent the day with my boyfriend hiking the Rosy Mound dune near Lake Michigan. The weather was just perfect for this, we were goofing around on the trail and just enjoying each others company. When we reached this lookout point, we crossed paths with this grandpa and grandson duo. They were also were enjoying the warm Michigan weather (which is rare!). The difference between us and them was the fact that the young boy was blind and his grandpa was guiding him through the trail, up and down the many stairs. As the young boy reached the beach lookout area, where we were resting, he grew with excitement when he heard the waves. They took a seat near us and continued to converse about different things.

The reason I am sharing this is because sometimes we take the simplest things for granted and we complain about so many small things. This young boy who is unable to even see the beauty of the beach was completely excited and positive about the experience. He spoke with so much spirit and he was very curious about many things. His attitude for life made me realize how much some of us take life for granted.

This is not a post to make you feel bad or guilty, it’s to bring attention to the possibilities we have in life. Everyday we face hardships, some greater than others, be sure to prioritize the important things. Some hardships and negative situations aren’t worth your strength and stress. Some of us are more lucky than others and that doesn’t mean we should be guilty, it means we should realize the life we have in front of us and live it fully and passionately.

That little boy doesn’t let his sight stop him from seeing the world and exploring. He is still curious to learn even though he may not be able to see things like we do. The lesson I take from him is to never stop being curious about life, no matter what tries to stand in your way. Whether it’s people, disabilities or your own doubts; never let something stop you from exploring and enjoying this wonderful life.

We all have the chance to create a beautiful life, and everyday you wake up you decide what you are going to do to make your day great or awful. Live with passion and spread positive vibes to everyone you meet.

Thanks for reading my random post but if you have had a similar encounter that has made you thankful for the life you have or made you realize the real beauty in life, please share it in the comments!

Create a life you love.

xo, Lyss

 

8 Things You Should Stop Doing Right Now

Hello Cuties,

Ever feel like things aren’t going your way? Do you ever throw yourself a pity party? Well, trust me, I know how that goes. Sometimes we just get in a funk, and it feels like nothing good is coming our way. This is common towards the end of the semester as we begin to approach summer. Lately, I have realized a lot of negativity running through my life. As we know, the way we think can impact our surroundings; and honestly, I have been throwing a pity party for myself these days.

Well, after some thought and a few inspirational quotes, I decided to figure out what my problem was. Why am I feeling like this? So, I created a list of things I am going to stop doing and stop allowing to take up mental space. I thought I would share this list with you as well:

  1. Stop comparing: This is number one for a reason. Stop comparing yourself to others, you are not them and they are not you. You cannot expect to be in their place when you do not even know the challenges they may have had to go through to get there. Everyone has a story that shapes them, wishing to be someone else won’t make things better, it will just inhibit you from achieving your own goals. Sure, look up to people and gather ideas on how you will make the most of your life, but don’t compare your chapter 1 to someone else chapter 15.
  2. Stop worrying about what’s next: I am the worst at this one, it’s always about what’s next. What about right now? Why not live for now and let life work on its own. Yes, make goals and plans but if they fail to turn out, don’t give up. Everything will work out how it’s supposed to, so don’t create unnecessary worry in your mind.
  3. Stop negative thoughts: Easier said than done. Block out all negative thoughts and people. Negativity only creates a toxic environment for you. Life is a little bit easier when you are positive, good things start to come your way and people can’t hate someone who is always positive. Your positivity will start to spread to others as well!
  4. Stop being selfish: Now this does not mean neglect self-love, y’all know I am a proud supporter of self-love. Stop being selfish means stop only thinking about yourself in your relationships. Friendship is made up of give and take, when you think about the people you interact with, think about what they may want. This includes friends, family and even strangers. Understand where they may be coming from and be supportive.
  5. Stop giving up: Stop giving up on things that don’t work out on the first try. I know how easy it may be to give up and move on, but if something is important to you, you shouldn’t give up on it. Things won’t always work out on the first try. The path to success is not straight, so you must anticipate a few challenges before you reach your goals. Don’t give up yet!
  6. Stop hating your body: I know you may not be where you’d like to be with your “body goals” but stop degrading yourself. Take care of yourself and be healthy, but don’t be ashamed of your shape. Everyone is given a different body, relating back to number one, don’t compare your look to someone else’s. Just love yourself and be proud of the skin you’re in.
  7. Stop wasting your time: Stop wasting your time on things that don’t matter. It is easy to get carried away on a Netflix binge or caught up on pointless drama, but stop spending your time on things that don’t benefit you or make you happy. Life is too short to waste time on things that aren’t making you happy.
  8. Stop making an excuse: Every day we wake up, we have the option to live life to the fullest that day or just go through the motions. When you make excuses, you are prohibiting yourself from greatness. You cannot grow or become the person you want if you continue to make excuses for yourself. Don’t make excuses, make moves!

Life is too short to be wasting your precious time on silly things, focus more on the good and less on what’s not working. Working on stopping some of these actions will not only give you peace of mind, but it will also free up some mental space for positive and happy thoughts. Don’t let these things hold you back from greatness. You must seize every day and learn to let the little things go.

This list is just one I came up with on my own, but you should think about creating one for yourself. I made this list based off my current life, so maybe creating your own can give you a better perspective of where you want to be. Before I made this list, I made a list of my short term goals, then I thought about how I would go about achieving them and what I had to stop doing in order to do so.

Thank you all so much for reading today’s post! Please share this with your friends and family. You can subscribe on the right side of the page to receive updates on my posts. It is Monday and it is a new week, so wake up and kick ass. If you’re a student, 3-4 more weeks left in this semester…YOU CAN DO IT!

Happy Monday!

xo, Lyss

 

When Life Gets Busy

Hello Beautiful Souls,

Sometimes it’s hard to love ourselves fully. We all have bad days where we wake up feeling low. Lately I have been very busy, and as much as I enjoy being busy, it catches up to you. You forget to enjoy the small things and worry too much about what’s next. As you can probably notice, this has impacted my blogging too! Blogging is my way of being creative; it takes my thoughts and feelings about life and puts them into perspective for others to read and connect with.  After taking some time off, I have realized it’s not always about consistency. Life is what you make it and to be honest, everyday won’t be amazing and extravagant, but everyday is a new chance to make it amazing and extravagant. Don’t lose sight of your goals when your stuck in that in-between.

If we always lived in the high moments of life, we would not appreciate life as much; the lows allow us to step back, adjust our perspectives and try again. The lows in life make us thankful for the highs. Too often we set ourselves to high standards that are not always obtainable. “Always be on time” “take 16 credits instead of 13” “Work two jobs” “post a blog post 3 times a week”.

No, no & no.

You do not have to do what society tells you to do because that’s when you become normal and you become everyone else. Society is not you. You are in charge of your feelings and thoughts, you must take care of yourself. Listen to what your soul wants. Take breaks, find a new inspiration, quit that second job, try something new. Do what YOU have to do, not what society wants you to do.

Blogging is how I share my thoughts with the world and whether 1,000 people read my posts or just one, my point is not to become famous or make money, it’s to create articles that resonate with just one person. If one person reads my post and it some how helps or inspires them, that’s all that matters to me. I obviously want to create posts for all types of people to read, but I’m done forcing unauthentic posts. I don’t write for followers or likes, I write to help other women (& sometimes men) feel inspired and empowered to be there own boss and take control of their lives. I’m no expert on life but I am an expert on being one of you: a human-being, aimlessly walking this earth and finding a purpose for this thing we call “life”.

Stop forcing things that are fake or unauthentic; whether it’s your style, personality or hobbies. Don’t create something just to fit in or appease others, do it for yourself and do it with purpose. Life is too short to be a copy of someone else.

My new goal is to post when it feels right, I will work on posting more frequently, but I will not force myself to write a post just to post it. Just like life is not consistent, my writing probably won’t be either. I want to provide worthy content for my readers and I want to make it worth my time in the process. I am sorry for taking such a long break from posting but I hope you understand. This blog is important to me because it is my way to express my feelings and thoughts, as well as reach out to those who need inspiration and motivation. Though I have been very busy, I am missing being able to take time to just write. I plan to take time each week to write for my blog and for myself.

Don’t get caught up in things that distract you from what you love. Once again, it’s okay to take a break. Every successful person must experience breaks, failures and challenges to become successful. These moments allow us to learn and grow. Thank you for sticking around during my break and as I always say…

Never give up!

xo, Lyss

How to Rebound After a Rough Week

Hello Babes,

Every once in a while we tend to fall into a slump; even the best of the best have bad days. Then, there are the weeks that feel never ending. It’s just one thing after another. Let’s just say that has been the past few days for me. I’m here at university, so classes are dwindling down but the stress is rising. Along with countless other things that have been thrown at me the past week, I am totally ready for it to be all over. We’ve all had these kind of weeks, right!?

Well, today I got the cure to rebounding from a crap week. This post is for all the girls out there that have had things being thrown at them non-stop and you still choose to wake up every day and kick ass. I got the tips and tricks for you to keep hustling and not letting the haters hold you back.

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Here are my 5 ways to rebound from a crap week:

  1. Take care of yourself: Sleep in. Treat yourself to your favorite meal. Enjoy a cup of coffee from your favorite coffee shop. Take a bath. Read a book or magazine. Take a walk, or a run. Drink a glass of wine, or five. Listen to your favorite playlist. Do whatever will awaken and refresh your soul. Taking care of yourself is the very first step to bouncing back from a rough week.
  2. Learn from your mistakes: Take whatever you experienced in the last week and turn it into something good. Every failure makes for a great lesson to be learned, perspective is everything. You must adjust your mindset to see the good in all situations, even after the most stressful and horrible week. We all have bumps in the road; the road to success is not always perfectly paved, it is in fact rather bumpy. Life throws us a lot of curve balls, and it’s not about what’s being thrown at you but it’s how you react to it. Don’t let the little things weigh too heavily on your mind, brush them off, learn from them and move on.
  3. Refocus your goals: After a crazy week, your goals can be a little disorganized. Even if they aren’t, this is a perfect way to get your mind refocused on what’s important. You may be feeling uninspired and unmotivated, and reevaluating your current goals will remind you of what you are working toward. Ask yourself if you are on track to accomplish these things you want, and if the answer is no, adjust accordingly.
  4. Get Motivated: Relating to the one above, use the past week as a motivator to do better the next week. Use the crap from the past week to motivate you toward your goals. I have been recently motivated to hustle a little harder and prove some people wrong. Don’t let other people’s thoughts influence how you think about yourself, but there is nothing wrong with a little motivation from some haters. Take no shit and continue slaying your goals.
  5. Remain Positive: Easier said than done, but this is the only way to truly combat the crappy week from continuing. Start each day with positive affirmations and write some of your favorite quotes in your agenda. This always helps me keep a positive mind. If you blame the universe, and just call yourself unlucky, the bad luck will continue. You have to see the positives! Staying positive relates to the part where you accept the mistakes and move forward. Understand that you cannot change them, and bad things are going to happen in life, but you have to just look yourself in the mirror and just say “things will get better”. You have to believe in that statement though. No situation is forever, remember that.

One bad week does not define you. Use these tips to get back on track. Every day is a new day to start new, use that opportunity to turn your luck around. Trust me, I know the struggle of trying to bounce back from a week of hell. The key is your mindset.

When you are out there hustling, people are going to get in the way and try to knock you down. The best way to fight that is by not fighting at all. Smile at the haters and thank them for the motivation to do better. If it’s your to do list that kicked your butt, take a step back and realize the things you are capable of handling. These bad weeks are the worst, but they show us our true strength. You can handle anything you put your mind to, hence the quote shared above. Turn on your tunes, grab a coffee and handle that shit.

When in doubt, remember the lyrics from Fighter by Christina Aguilera: “‘Cause it makes me that much stronger, makes me work a little bit harder. It makes me that much wiser. So thanks for making me a fighter. Made me learn a little bit faster, made my skin a little bit thicker, makes me that much smarter.” You’re a fighter!

So, whether it feels like the world is out to get you or it feels like nothing is going right, remember the outcome is up to you. It’s okay to have a rough week, learn from it and keep pushing forward. We must experience bad things to appreciate the good things.

Thank you for reading Pretty, Young & Motivated today. I really enjoyed writing this post, and I hope you are able to pull something from it. Be sure to follow PYM on Instagram to catch more updates: @pym_blog. Also, subscribe via email to catch new post updates faster. There is lots to come in the next few weeks, stay tuned. Happy Thursday.

You got this, girl.

xo, Lyss

Monday Mojo

Hello Beautiful Soul,

I want to start a brand new series that I will update every few weeks, but it will focus on giving my readers that Monday Motivation they need to kick start the work week. These posts will be short and sweet, but hopefully enough to jump start your day. I will try to focus these posts on inspiring quotes and words. I hope you are able to utilize these posts and share them with your friends! Let’s kick off this series with the topic of making your goals less about money and success but more about living the life you want to.

When we create goals or measure success, many of us include wealth in this category. We are successful once we are swimming in cash and at our dream job, right!? Although that is a great position to be in, it is not always the life you want to live. The magic of achieving your goals is the journey to them, reaching your dreams will not be this fast track to success. It may actually take you years to actually get to the job you want to be in or achieve a similar large goal, but on the way there you may find yourself manifesting in brand new opportunities you never dreamed of. Opportunities that will ultimately shape your life in new ways and lead you down new paths.

I read a quote the other day that said: “I crave a life filled with magic in the smallest of things” and this quote really stood out to me for a couple of reasons. One of them being the idea of finding magic in the little things, we always focus our minds on the big things; the destination, the final goal or the end result. What about the moments in between, the ones we think don’t matter? These moments actually create the magic that makes the end goal so fulfilling. “Living the life you want to” goes beyond fulfilling life goals, but filling the gaps with magical moments that fill your soul with happiness.

When I actually take the time to enjoy the little moments, or embrace the world around me, I feel more connected with myself and the goals that I am able to accomplish. That may sound cheesy or weird, but I am a true believer of it.

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Basically, today’s Mojo is to motivate you to find the small things in your day that make it amazing. Achieving your goals is amazing, but being able to enjoy the process will make the end result that much more fulfilling. Some people like to recognize the little things by keeping a journal that they can record some daily successes in. Sometimes, I write down mine, but usually I just take a moment at the end of the day to appreciate the little things. I want you all to work hard and hustle for your big goals, but I want you all to also stop and smell the roses from time to time. I know all my readers are amazing individuals that can accomplish anything they put their minds to, don’t forget that!

Thank you all for reading today’s Monday Mojo, I hope you are able to use this new series for some weekly motivation and inspiration. Never forget each week is a brand new opportunity to create and accomplish amazing things. That is my purpose behind these little posts, they can just be a way to kick start your week and help you move toward your goals in a positive way. Let me know if you enjoy these posts! If you are new to Pretty, Young & Motivated, be sure to stick around and check out the site. Thanks!

Happy Monday.

xo, Lyss