Patience, A Key to Success

Hello Beautiful People,

Patience… If I’m being honest, this is something I lack. I’m always expecting things to happen fast, no time wasted. When in reality, this is not realistic. I’m working on that though. I’ve always believed everything happens for a reason and it will all make sense at some point, but then the whole impatient thing gets in the way.

When something negative happens, I can sometimes react as if it’s the end of the world. Some of this roots from my anxiety, some of it roots from my ambition. Being ambitious and driven is great, but so is being patient. Too many times I get discouraged because something exciting and great isn’t happening right now. I always have an urge to be doing something big.

The past few months have been a roller coaster for me, in all honesty. I try to stay positive and patient but then I’m so easily knocked back to the trenches.

“Ugh, why can’t I shake this feeling!”

The answer is not only in patience but also in perspective. Yes, negative things have happened in my life lately but not everyday has been negative. Also, there are people out there who have it way worse than me. That doesn’t change how I feel, but it can at least change my perspective.

What’s My Point?

My point is that in life, the things we want will not occur over night. We too often look at successful people and think “they’re lucky, they reached success overnight”. When this is far from the truth. Successful people are the ones who have endured the ultimate struggles and challenges in life. They are the ones who have been patient with the process and actually enjoyed the process of growth.

These periods of negativity can get us down, but they also guide us to where we need to go. If life was always perfect and always happening, we would never appreciate the successes. Patience is what teaches us appreciation for not only the successful moments but also the rough moments. The ones that got us to where we are today.

As a college student in my final year, there is more pressure to figure my life out RIGHT NOW than ever before. Yes, I should get an idea of where and who I want to be, but I shouldn’t put so much pressure on myself that it ruins present moments.

I think this is something a lot of college students experience at this time, especially close to the holidays. We all want to be able to tell Aunt Sally about the all jobs we have lined up and the person we are going to marry, but it’s just not realistic. We need patience.

I need patience. I need to calm the F down and realize everything will work out. Although I say I believe “everything happens for a reason”, I still lack patience sometimes.

I may sound like a hypocrite, and you may be wondering why you’re even listening to me. But, here is why:

I get it. I’m in it. I know you’ve been there too! We all get impatient with life from time to time. We want our dream job now, we want to travel now, we want everything NOW. Perhaps this what our generation has come to; we’ve become use to the fact that we can access people and information at any given time. While this is all true, we must stop to realize that life doesn’t work like the internet.

Our dream jobs won’t happen for 10+ years probably, and our travels will be unknown, not planned. If you’re able to achieve any of these goals quickly, good for you. If not, you’re not doing something wrong. Life moves at different paces for everyone. The successes of others do not have to dampen yours, in fact they do not dampen yours at all. Your success is up to you; it’s about the hard work and patience you put in to achieve it.

Back to why you are listening to me, I am seeing this first hand. I see it in myself and I see it in the students I’m around everyday. We all think we have to have it figured out right now. We don’t. Life is short, but it’s also so long. It will go by fast but doors will continue to open for you along the way. Don’t let fear of timing ruin your dreams.

I write this today because I have felt so much anxiety and pressure to have it all figured out this semester, so much so that I have depleted my own creativity and goals. I have seen the stress that impatience has caused me. After meeting new friends and listening to everyones story, I am learning I am not alone in my struggle. I’m learning that no one has it together, not even the professionals.

This worry and fear has only prohibited me from achieving my full happy-self. It’s impacted my health and my sleep patterns. We are energized by our passions. Don’t let stress be the thing to kill that energy. Healthy stress is good, it propels us towards our goals. Anxious, worry stress is not. It ruins our goals.

Stay focused, remain patient and enjoy the process. Do things that make you happy. Spend time with those who lift you up. Network with new people because you want to not because you feel like you have to. Step out of your comfort zone. Visit new cities and explore new talents. Dare I say, experience struggle. These are the things that will teach you patience and strength.

These skills will make you most successful, not more school work or another internship. If you can passionately express your experiences and true self to an employer that will be more beneficial. If you live your life shamelessly and authentically, then you will find peace and happiness. The destination you desire is amazing, but the process is the fun part.

Thank you for reading PYM today. I have started a monthly newsletter from Pretty, Young & Motivated, you can subscribe by sharing your email in the box on the right of the page. This newsletter will contain a round up of monthly posts, blog announcements, positive quotes, books and blogs to read, and more! Lastly, I am working on a huge fashion post, so stay tuned for that.

xo, Lyss

To the Girl with a Broken Heart

Hello Beautiful,

I’m writing this blog for all the girls who have had their hearts broken or who currently are working through a heart break. Although I am not in this situation currently, I have been there and I know it hurts.

The sleepless nights. The fake smiles. And the tears, so many tears.

Crying in the shower. Playing sad songs on repeat. Breaking down when a specific song comes on in the car. Your heart physically hurts and your insides feel twisted. For some, it’s the worst pain they’ve experienced. Medicine doesn’t take away this pain. It is a deep pain in your gut and the only cure is time.

To the girl with the broken heart, this is only temporary. This pain and aching in your heart will not last forever. Whoever put you in this place will feel the pain too, maybe not today but in time.

To the girl with the broken heart, it’s okay to cry. It’s okay to not be okay, just don’t get stuck in that dark place. Keep moving forward and grow your strength. You are so strong!

To the girl with the broken heart, he doesn’t deserve you. You are worth so much and anyone willing to hurt you does not deserve your attention. It’s okay to love someone who walks away, but know your own worth. You deserve someone who thinks the world of you!

To the girl with the broken heart, it will get better. It may not feel that way right now, but tough times don’t last, tough people do. You are so tough, this is just a rough patch. Don’t let it drag you down.

I’ve been there before, multiple times actually. You just have to understand the process of life. Yes, it’s hard in the moment and it doesn’t feel like it will get better. But it does. I promise you it does!

It makes you a fighter!

Here’s the pep talk:

Your first option to get your badass vibes back is to listen to Fighter by Christina Aguilera. This is my comeback jam!

Other option is read my next few lines.

You are hurting right now. I understand your pain and I feel it too. But, you are more than this. You have made it through every other heart break before this, and you’ve made through every other tough obstacle. Now here you are, still alive and thriving!

This moment in your life is so small in the grand scheme of things. You will look back on this period as a growing period. Your strength is being tested in these tough moments. They do not define you though. I want you to break down, get angry and cry. Let it out! Just know when to pull your big girl pants up and keep killing it.

You are a beautiful, strong and smart. Whoever broke your heart will regret it or whatever broke your heart will only get better in time. Take care of your bright, happy and creative soul. Take this time to focus on self-care and self-love. Shameless self-love. You are important to so many and your life is important. You have a purpose and this heart break is not that purpose, it is simply a bump in the road.

So, pick yourself up out of that shower or off your bed. Shut off the mushy sad BS music and play this playlist. Maybe even do the power pose because you rock!

My Broken Heart Comeback Playlist:

  1. Fighter – Christina Aguilera
  2. Sorry Not Sorry – Demi Lovato
  3. Bad at Love – Halsey
  4. Confident – Demi Lovato
  5. How Far I’ll Go – Alessia Cara (Yes, the song from Moana)
  6. Lush Life – Zara Larsson
  7. Man! I Feel Like a Woman – Shania Twain
  8. New Rules – Dua Lipa
  9. No Scrubs – TLC
  10. Roar – Katy Perry
  11. Dog Days Are Over – Florence and the Machine
  12. That’s My Girl – Fifth Harmony
  13. We Are Never Getting Back Together – T. Swift
  14. Stronger – Britney Spears
  15. Survivor – Destiny’s Child

*If you are seriously considering hurting yourself, you should seek professional help or call 1-800-273-8255. You matter and there are people here to help you. You are not alone in this fight! It is okay to talk to someone and it’s okay not to be okay, but don’t give up.

As I mentioned, I am completely happy right now but I have been there and I know the pain. There is always a quote that comes to mind when I experience these hard times – “Don’t forget you are human, it’s okay to have a meltdown, just don’t unpack and live there. Cry it out and then refocus on where you are headed.”

Once again, these situations are temporary even when they do not feel that way. Remember your best moments and do your best to work through the tough ones. Think about all of the things that have shaped the person you are today, some of the most defining growth periods are probably during or after a tough time. It’s the worlds shitty way of testing our strengths.

Thank you for reading PYM! I hope this post helped you, if you have experienced this. Make this week wonderful, your happiness is up to you.

xo, Lyss

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This is a little vulgar, but it’s resonates with me!

 

Lessons From a Weekend of Camping

Hello Beautiful People,

This past weekend I took a camping trip to the northern part of Michigan with my boyfriend, and it was an adventure to say the least. Of course with any adventure like this there is bound to be a little bit of chaos.

We arrived early at D.H Day Campground on Friday morning in order to get a spot, this campground is famous for its amazing location near Sleeping Bear Dunes and M-22. The campground was quaint and right off the shore of Lake Michigan. We quickly learned that there were no showers or real toilets (just some holes in the ground). This is how our weekend filled with adventure began.

Let me give you a quick run down of the weekend. We hiked dunes for about 2.5 miles to reach this beautiful coastline and then 2.5 miles back. It was worth the view but the hike through rolling 400 feet sand dunes was intense. We showered in ice cold Lake Michigan because what else could we do. We were basically disconnected from reality thanks to bad cell service, which this actually a blessing. We drove around trying to find a fishing spot, found one but didn’t get a single bite. To top off the adventures of David + Alyssa, we got a flat tire on the drive home.

As you can probably tell, we were never bored!

Here’s what I learned…

Work together:

One of the biggest lessons I learned from this trip was where David and I worked well together, and where we didn’t. When I was complaining about hiking the dunes, he pushed me through until the end. When my car got that flat tire he calmed me down and told me it would be okay. We had a few tiff’s but nothing we couldn’t talk through. We were able to smoothly set up our campsite, split the expenses and enjoy our time. Ultimately, I think it made us stronger and showed us where we need to help each other more.

Love yourself:

Due to the lack of running water and mirrors, I went all natural this past weekend, maybe too natural with the whole lake shower thing. I learned that my beauty is not defined by beauty tools and products, but by happiness and the smile on my face. I loved every picture that I took this past weekend and the only make up I was wearing was a sunburn and old mascara. Being out in the woods, without a care in the world, taught me how unimportant make up is and how important adventure and happiness is. I was focused on comfort and fun!

Appreciate all things:

Since I was not connected to my phone the whole weekend, nor was I able to properly shower, I learned to appreciate even the little things. Coming home, I was thankful for a hot shower and hot tea. Being away from home and reality, allowed me to focus my time on the important things like exploring new places and loving on my man. It really showed me the raw parts of life, the parts that make it good. Sure, I love a solid shower and getting all ready for the day, but there is nothing more important than the raw happiness you can find under the stars in the middle of nowhere with someone you love. You appreciate those moments much more than the ones you lack.

I never thought a short-weekend trip could teach me so much, but I am so grateful for the things I learned. Though the weekend has it’s moments of chaos, everything turned out okay and life continues on. I really did enjoy every minute, even the chaotic ones. I just had to share this with all of you because it’s incredible what stepping out of the norm can teach you.

Thank you for reading PYM today! Check out more pictures by following me on Instagram @blogger_alyssa.

Be a Happy Camper.

xo,

Lyss

Live Your Life, Shamelessly

Hello Beautiful Souls,

Everyday you wake up, you have the opportunity to do something amazing with that day. The choice is completely up to you.

When you wake up, you can be upset at the world and groan about going into work. This kind of mindset will create a negative space around you and you may even see more negativity start to come your way.

Another option would be to wake up with a purpose, tell yourself to seize the day and try something new. This mindset will most likely bring you lots of happiness and positive vibes throughout the day. It’s called Law of Attraction, believe it or don’t, but it’s legit.

How does this relate to living your life shamelessly, you ask?

Most of the time, we are held back by our fears of judgement and what others may think of us. We inhibit our abilities to grow because we don’t want to look weird or out-of-place. The thing is though, every person that has ever made a difference in this world was weird and out-of-place. They encountered many failures and climbed many mountains. They didn’t wake up innovators, creators or influencers; they became them.

This relates to the attitude you choose to have on a daily basis because you can wake up and let your fears hold you back or you can live your life shamelessly and be the weird one. The weird ones are the leaders and doer’s of our society.

One of my bosses shared this short Ted Talk with us during my first week at my internship. It was some “weird” guy dancing around by himself but he was surrounded by a crowd of people. Of course, he got dirty looks and quite a few glares. Then something happened, another guy jumped up and started to dance like a maniac too; and another one followed. Eventually there was a whole crowd of people dancing and no one felt weird about it.

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The lesson here is that someone has to be brave enough to step outside of their normal comfort zone and be the werido that starts a movement. It can be scary to put yourself out there, especially all by yourself. Once you embrace this idea of being comfortable with being uncomfortable, you will watch yourself blossom into this magical human. People will no longer judge you, and even if they do, you will not worry about this anymore because you’re confident in who you are.

Coming back to the law of attraction idea, your confidence and self-assurance will create this positive vibe around you. People may be intimidated by you, but more often than not, they will be inspired by you.

 

Today, and everyday, I just want you to live the life that makes you happy regardless of what others think. You only have one life to live, don’t waste it worrying about what people might think of you. Spend it being 100% yourself and enjoying every freaking moment. Thank you for reading and have cheerful day!

Do what makes you happy!

xo, Lyss

Realizing the Beauty of Life

Hello Lovely People,

Today I wanted to write freely on a topic that came to mind yesterday.

 

Yesterday, I spent the day with my boyfriend hiking the Rosy Mound dune near Lake Michigan. The weather was just perfect for this, we were goofing around on the trail and just enjoying each others company. When we reached this lookout point, we crossed paths with this grandpa and grandson duo. They were also were enjoying the warm Michigan weather (which is rare!). The difference between us and them was the fact that the young boy was blind and his grandpa was guiding him through the trail, up and down the many stairs. As the young boy reached the beach lookout area, where we were resting, he grew with excitement when he heard the waves. They took a seat near us and continued to converse about different things.

The reason I am sharing this is because sometimes we take the simplest things for granted and we complain about so many small things. This young boy who is unable to even see the beauty of the beach was completely excited and positive about the experience. He spoke with so much spirit and he was very curious about many things. His attitude for life made me realize how much some of us take life for granted.

This is not a post to make you feel bad or guilty, it’s to bring attention to the possibilities we have in life. Everyday we face hardships, some greater than others, be sure to prioritize the important things. Some hardships and negative situations aren’t worth your strength and stress. Some of us are more lucky than others and that doesn’t mean we should be guilty, it means we should realize the life we have in front of us and live it fully and passionately.

That little boy doesn’t let his sight stop him from seeing the world and exploring. He is still curious to learn even though he may not be able to see things like we do. The lesson I take from him is to never stop being curious about life, no matter what tries to stand in your way. Whether it’s people, disabilities or your own doubts; never let something stop you from exploring and enjoying this wonderful life.

We all have the chance to create a beautiful life, and everyday you wake up you decide what you are going to do to make your day great or awful. Live with passion and spread positive vibes to everyone you meet.

Thanks for reading my random post but if you have had a similar encounter that has made you thankful for the life you have or made you realize the real beauty in life, please share it in the comments!

Create a life you love.

xo, Lyss