Darling, You Should Just Go for It.

Hello Babes,

Before Thanksgiving, I applied for this really amazing job opportunity at a local boutique. The position entailed styling, merchandising, blogging, fashion…basically all things I love. I thought this job would be perfect for me. At first, I was hesitant to apply because I am only 21 and the job required many diverse skills. I wondered if I would just be overlooked. However, I preceded and applied.

I was offered an interview, which lead to a second interview. I was beyond thrilled to have this opportunity in front of me. It made my heart so happy. Lately, I have been feeling a little lost on my career path. As graduation draws closer for me, I wonder where I even want to be. I love fashion and I want to make an impact in my job, but where and what does that mean for my career?

So, these feelings of who I want to be have been swirling in my mind. I get hectic and wonder if I’m doing too much or maybe too little. Am I behind? This kind of mindset has made me feel a little burnt out and very uninspired. That’s why this job opportunity has really sparked the flame in my soul. It almost seemed too good to be true, everything about it was just ideal for what I love and what I want to do.

This week I received the news that I got the job. I haven’t been this excited and happy in quite awhile. My glass is overflowing with gratitude. This opportunity is what inspired my last post about manifesting positive thoughts. I envisioned myself in this position and I thought positively about receiving the job, and I truly felt as though this helped me achieve this goal. That’s why I write this post, in connection with How to Manifest Positive Thoughts.

Darling, just f*cking go for it.

There is a bracelet in the boutique that says this. I looked at it while I was in the store officially accepting the job, and although it is slightly vulgar language, I LOVED it.

As I said, I was weary of applying for the position when I first saw the posting because I figured I was not going to be good enough. However, I was exactly what the owner was looking for. This isn’t a post to toot my own horn, it’s to tell you to just f’ing go for it. Whatever you’re sort of, kind of thinking about doing – JUST DO IT. (Not endorsed by Nike)

Commit to making the decision to try. Taking the first step is the hardest part. The worst thing that will happen is you’ll be told no, but at least you tried. Failing is better than not trying at all. Through failure you learn more about yourself and more about where you’re supposed to be. Don’t take failure as something personal, it could just be a sign from the universe that you don’t belong there. Don’t doubt your abilities until you try.

Y’all know I’m a girl of many quotes, so in relation to this post, I found a quote that reads “One life. Just one. Why aren’t we running like we are on fire towards our wildest dreams?

For real, why not?

You get one life to make completely your own, so why not take the chance to do something great. Your life is a blank canvas and the paths you take create the art that covers that canvas. Making the decision to go big and just try will change your life. In order to make the life you want, you must make the decision to try, and even possibly fail. As always, I am constantly working on my own stuff too. Of course I still get caught up in the rules of the world, but don’t forget you’re life is completely up to you. Remembering this helps keep me grounded.

I just wanted to share my own experience to bring attention to how often we doubt ourselves when really we can achieve so much greatness if we allowed ourselves to take the necessary risks. It’s easier, and almost more comfortable, to just say we can’t do something. But think about all the things you could do, if you gave yourself the chance. Stop wasting time worrying about the “what if’s” and just f*cking go for it. You deserve greatness!

As always, thank you for reading PYM.

xo, Lyss

How to Manifest Positive Thoughts

Hello Happy Souls,

If you’re like me, you too believe in the Law of Attraction. This is a theory that explains how the energy we emit into the universe is then given back to us in other forms. We are able to create our reality through our thoughts and actions. We create this reality through something called manifestation.

I’m not an expert on this, but I can explain manifestation as a subconscious thought that can alter our energies. For example, have you ever woken up late and rushed off to work or school, and then you notice your day gets progressively worse? You spill your morning coffee, you miss the bus or you forget something at home. This is because once your day started off on a negative note, your mind allowed it to continue, subconsciously. This is how I see manifestation. It’s not a super power, you can’t just use it to change every situation. It’s something you must learn.

Anyway, as I said, I’m not an expert on the subject. I’m just sharing what I know about the theory, and what I do know is positive thoughts and actions can be manifested. It’s all about how you build the space around you.

I’m learning how this law works because of my own life experiences. As you have probably picked up on, my life the past few months has been messy. In some sense, I could not control this but in others, I could. I allowed myself to snowball into negativity, through my words and thoughts. It’s one thing to say “I’ll be happy today” or “I’ll be positive”. But, if you are constantly dwelling on the negative energies and complaining about your situation, then you are only producing more negativity. That’s why I am learning that being positive is more than telling myself to be positive, it goes deeper, into my subconscious.

That’s why I am sharing a few tips for manifesting positive thoughts. If you have experienced any of the situations described above, these should help change your mindset.

Create a vision board:

I just recreated my own vision board this past weekend. A vision board is something you create to visualize your goals and dreams. For mine, I use positive quotes, pictures and other little sentiments. A vision board allows you to see your goals and manifest them. I put my board right in front of my desk. This allows me to see it everyday and see the goals I am working toward. I like using this technique because you can always rearrange and edit your board as needed. Nothing is stuck, just like in life.

Surround yourself with positive beings:

This is something I’m sure you see everywhere and every blogger says it. “Your vibe attracts your tribe”. Yeah, yeah, yeah…we get it. Well, more deeply, this means the people around you should be authentic. These are the people who make an effort to be in your life, and the ones who understand when you are busy. They are supportive of your goals and values, even if they maybe aren’t their own. These people do not discuss other people negatively, they discuss ideas and dreams. These are the kind of people you want in your life. They will bring you more happiness and more positive vibes.

Don’t speak harshly of yourself (or others):

I mentioned how when I fall into a negative state I can sometimes complain and bitch about my situation. I mean this is not abnormal to do, but it is often why these negative thoughts continue to live with us. When you apologize for who you are or you speak badly about yourself, you are creating more negativity around you. This also applies to how you speak about other people. Being judgmental does not create good vibes. You don’t have the right to tell others how to live, nor do they have the right to tell you that. Be kind to yourself and be kind to others.

Complain less:

This one is a big one, it’s also the hardest one to control. We live in a world of problems and complaints, especially given today’s political situation. Have you ever tried to go a whole day without complaining? This applies to even not saying the weather sucks or I hate school. These are all complaints. Another part is complaining about being stressed, sick or worried. This can sometimes create more of that negative energy. Don’t bring attention to your worries or stress, just like in meditation, notice the thoughts and let them pass by.

The best way to approach this is by trying to see the good in all things. So, if you feel like complaining, think of a bright side to that situation. It may feel cheesy at first, but that’s why this one is important, it’s the most powerful. When you begin to change the way you speak, which relates to the one above, you will realize the world around you change. This one allows good people to come into your life, it inspires more dreams and goals for your vision board and it makes you all around happier.


As mentioned in the beginning of the post, we create our realities through our thoughts and actions. How we choose to speak, how we choose to think and how we choose to live; all of these things create our reality. They create the energies around us.

I hope all this energy stuff makes sense, it’s a newer concept to me and through the practice of yoga + meditation, I’m learning more about controlling it. Understanding these things has helped me learn more about myself and become more self-aware. That’s why I am sharing. I want you to learn how to remove negatives from your life and create your best life ever.

What energy will you create today?

Thank you for reading PYM today. I sent out the December Newsletter, so check those inboxes or subscribe now. I hope your week is filled with positive energy 🙂

xo, Lyss

5 Steps to Improve Your Mental Health

Hello Darlings,

Physical health is super important to living a happy and healthy life, which I’ve mentioned before. Almost more important than physical health though is mental health. You should have a healthy balance of both, but I think we too often forget about taking care of ourselves mentally.

A friend shared something with me yesterday that really stood out to me. It was a list of things this girl (from social media or another blog) did in the last year to improve her own mental health. After reading through it, I was inspired to share some of her ideas and some of my own. Once again, I think mental health is too often swept under the rug. It’s a real thing and it’s real important.

As someone who struggles with anxiety on a daily basis, it can be difficult to take a step back and take time to recharge. Being anxious is mentally exhausting, your mind just goes and you can’t just snap your fingers to stop it. It picks apart every detail of every situation, it’s like an argument with myself in my own head, if that makes any sense.

Sharing these ways to improve mental health is not only important to me but it should be important to you too, even if you do not struggle with a mental illness. Being proactive and mentally sharp is always great.

Realize Your Worth

This one can be a tough one, and it should not be. It’s tough because we tend to be very self critical. It’s okay to learn from your mistakes and know where you can improve, but it should never diminish your self-worth. You must be confident and know what you are worth not only to others but to yourself.

This is also like having self-respect. Know what you deserve and know when it’s time to walk away from something. You are worth so much and you deserve to be treated that way. Be aware of yourself, improve and make changes but never say sorry for who you are. Practicing this and avoiding extreme self-criticism will be step number one towards improving your mental health.

Take Care of Yourself

I read something recently that said “self-love isn’t just face masks and bubble baths.” And I thought this was so true. Although those things can be part of your self-care routine, they are not necessarily “self-love”. Taking care of yourself means allowing time to do things you want, giving yourself grace when things don’t work out and exercising your mind in a positive way to combat stress and anxious feelings.

Self-love and self-care means becoming mentally strong, becoming aware of your flaws and accepting them and working on your strengths and weaknesses. Self-love is recognizing your worth, building your own confidence and putting yourself first when needed. All of this comes by taking proper care of yourself. It’s okay to stay in on Friday night, if you need to. It’s okay to take a day to yourself or not respond to texts. You don’t owe anyone anything, your overall health is most important.

Cut Out Any Negativity

It’s okay to cut negative relationships, groups, thoughts and whatever else out of your life. Think of your mind as a garden; do you want lots of weeds strangling and preventing beautiful flowers to grow or do you want a colorful, lively garden? The weeds in your mental garden are the negative things. Don’t be afraid to be your own gardener and nourish your garden.

We get scared to walk away from things because they are comfortable, but you should not allow something to stay in your life if it is not positively impacting you. Allow yourself to let go of negativity and move on.

Learn to Take a Step Back

It’s easy to react quickly to certain actions or situations, but know when to take a step back. If you are someone who battles with anxiety or a similar mental illness, it can be easy to jump to conclusions and react in an extreme way. Make it a habit to allow yourself time to step back, analyze the situation appropriately (not overthink) and return to the problem/situation with a clear perspective.

This is a tip anyone can use in stressful or overwhelming situations. Humans can react rashly in high stress or high emotional situations. Learning to take breath and approach problems with a clear head will most likely make life run smoother. I know, personally, that anxiety can make my whole body shake and sweat. I kind of clam up. Therefore, stepping back for me also means taking time to calm down and just breathe. I’m a busy student and some days my anxiety overcomes me, which makes me have to take a step back.

Listen to Your Body

You’ve heard this one before on my blog but it covers a lot of ground. First, you should listen to your body in the sense of diet. Feeding your body with nutrients and proper portions allows you to have maximum energy and brain function. Really fresh food is wonderful. Water is also highly important to a healthy, functioning body.

Beyond what you are putting in your body, listening to your body also means getting enough sleep and relaxing when needed. It can also mean taking a hot shower or bath. It can be exercising to relieve stress. Whatever it may be, always be aware of your body’s needs. This is one that I continue to work on everyday. It doesn’t happen over night but it is a process of learning how your body is currently reacting to your routine compared to when you make healthy changes.

Your body is really your machine; treat it with care and show it some love.


These five things really resonated with me and they are things I continue to work on myself. I wanted to curate a list of my own. You can do the same, take my list and reinvent it for yourself.

I’ll say it again: mental health should not be forgotten about, it should be understood and taken care of. Mental health is important for everyone, whether you struggle with an illness or not, being mentally resilient is key.

Thank you for reading PYM. I appreciate you making it part of your day, and I hope to see you again soon.

xo, Lyss

My 5 Ways to Cope with Anxiety

Hello Lovely Humans,

I’ve recently began to write about my experience with anxiety. You may have read my last post on anxiety called “I’m Anxious Right Now”. I want to follow up with this post by sharing the ways I cope with anxiety. Anxiety is tough and it’s a battle many people fight behind the scenes, everyday.

I don’t think we realize how many people are actually struggling with anxiety because most anxious feelings are mental. Overthinking, worrying, analyzing, etc. Sometimes we break down and then people notice we are having anxiety. But in reality, it never really goes away.

If you’re anxious, I’ve got a couple ways you can try to fight it.

Lavender Essential Oil

Lavender oil is something that I use to calm my nerves and relax. I carry it with me in my purse and I use it every night before bed. You can put a few drops on your pillow or rub on your temples and on the bottom of your feet. When I lay down for the night, I take a few deep breaths and think about releasing the negatives in each exhale. If you’re not sold on it, it’s also great for bug bites and breakouts.

Herbal Tea

It’s not just the tea that will help calm you. Grabbing a warm mug and just taking a few deep breaths can calm your mind. Take this moment to breathe and relax. Think about each breathe and each sip. Don’t focus on your anxiety, focus on your breaths + enjoying the tea. My favorite tea is Lemon + Ginger Herbal tea.

Exercise

This one may differ from person to person but my best coping mechanism is running. Getting a solid sweaty session in helps clear my mind and ease my nerves. I throw in my headphones and just go. It’s not about speed or distance, just clearing my head. Most of the time though, I run my best mile time when I’m anxious. That’s a positive, right?

Hot Shower or Bath

Taking a hot shower or bath can really relax your whole body. When you are anxious you can tend to clench your teeth or tense up your muscles. A hot bath will relax your mind and body. Play some calming music to assist the process.

Sleep

Sometimes the best way to calm your mind and ease the overthinking is just by sleeping. Take a nap or get a good nights rest to take some of the mental pressure off. Use lavender oil to assist in relaxing. Don’t use sleep to avoid doing daily life activities or to shut your feelings out. Use it wisely!

These are my best coping mechanisms when I am experiencing high anxiety. Maybe you have a few of your own, do whatever you can to ease your anxious mind. Although I struggle with anxiety day-to-day, I always try to remain positive and use these methods to fight back. That’s all you can do when you are experiencing this. I know people will tell you to “relax” and “it will be okay” and they’re right, but it doesn’t always help.

Be optimistic, even in the darkest moments. Life is up and down, it’s not a flat road. Accept this, accept your flaws and keep pushing. Everyone has their own demons.

Thank you for reading PYM today! Share this post because you never know who may need this.

xo, Lyss

It’s All About Perspective

 

Hello Lovely People,

I’m so glad you opened this post because today’s topic is something I think we can all relate to.

Perspective.

Life is all about perspective. Each of us experience many different things and it’s not what happens to us that matters but how we handle it that shows our true character. Lately, you may have noticed that I have been experiencing some lows, and if you have not noticed, let me fill you in briefly.

My grandfather is very ill and his time is now limited. My relationship with my dad isn’t great. I’ve lost a couple close friends. Blah, blah, blah. Stuff like this has been occurring in my life over the past few months. Tiring, yes but not the end of the world.

If I’m being honest, it’s made me be a little down in the deeps lately, which is not like me. But, I’ve realized I can change this. I could change this by changing my perspective on most of these things.

Once again, life is about how we handle the things that come our way rather than the actual things. I can continue to let this stuff take up negative space in my head or I can stop and see the positives in my life. Although life throws us all a solid set of challenges, it also has many beautiful moments that we cannot neglect in times of negativity.

Take time to appreciate the little things around you:

  • The sun peeking through the blinds each morning
  • A cup of coffee on a chilly morning
  • Watching the clouds move above you
  • Favorite songs
  • Looking up at the stars
  • A hot shower after a long day
  • Compliments from a stranger
  • The rain hitting your skin

It can be hard to step back and appreciate these things sometimes but it is important to. Appreciating the little things makes the big things not so “big”. Each of us encounter struggles and challenges in our lives, and these things can take a toll on us. Become aware of the good around you.

I understand life can get hectic sometimes but you have to be able to separate that in your mind. Far more good things happen throughout our lives than bad. Take time to accept what’s happening to you but don’t stay in that low place. Move forward with a grateful heart.

Thank you for reading PYM! I’m planning some new projects that I will share with you guys in the upcoming months. Stay tuned.

xo, Lyss