I’m Anxious Right Now

Hello Beautiful People,

I wanted to have an honest moment with all of you. Many of you may know that I struggle with anxiety from time to time. I have talked about this in more recent posts, but I thought I would be 100% real with you today.

Right now at this very moment, I am anxious.

Why you may ask?

That’s the problem with anxiety, you can’t always define the cause. Sometimes I am able to figure out where it is rooting from but most of the time it is unknown. That’s why it kind of makes one feel crazy. Anxiety gets under your skin, you feel it in your gut. It’s like being nervous about nothing.

It’s caring too much and it’s thinking too much.

You fear things that aren’t even happening. For example, right now I am feeling like people are annoyed with me; like they don’t want to be around me. So naturally, I am pushing away people that are close to me. I don’t want to be annoying and bothersome. My anxiety can take over and cause me to overthink even the smallest things. And that’s what is happening currently.

It’s wanting to fix something that’s not even a problem yet.

You feel alone, even when you’re not. You push people away (accidentally) because you’re scared of getting hurt. When in reality, nobody is leaving you. It’s all in your head. People ask what’s wrong and you can’t explain it because it doesn’t even make sense in your own head.

That’s anxiety.

Most of the time I wish I did’t have to deal with this monster in my head but let me tell you a few things that anxiety has done for me.

Anxiety has made me love more deeply. I invest myself completely into a person because I think about every little thing. I don’t like conflict, so I do my best to make everyone happy and I always consider other peoples feelings. Sometimes before my own.

Anxiety has made me a planner. This is one of those things that can go both ways. In some sense, you don’t want to over plan and ruin the moment. But, planning has made me the driven, ambitious person I am today. Since I do think about every aspect,  I am able to formulate a plan to accommodate many outcomes. Downfall of this trait is unmet expectations cause disappointment. You win some and lose some!

Anxiety has motivated me in many ways. At times, it can take over my mood and cause me to be in a real funk. But, the next day I have the option to make it a great day or let anxiety win. It all around has made me a stronger person.

Anxiety makes me stronger inside because it forces me to be completely self-aware at all times.

Anxiety allows me to read others very well. That is a gift of anxiety, I can determine if people are good or bad people pretty early on.

These are just a few ways I can describe anxiety. Creating this post has actually helped me internalize my feelings. Sometimes writing out your thoughts helps ease the anxious feeling. It allows you to see what you are thinking. If you are someone who struggles with anxiety, know that you are not alone and everything will be okay, even though it may not feel that way in the moment.

Don’t be afraid to reach out and get help. You are most important, so take care of yourself!

Thank you for reading PYM today. I hope this post is able to help those who also struggle with anxiety find peace in the fact that they are not alone, and offer a perspective of anxiety for those who may not understand it.

Remember: Everything will work out.

xo, Lyss

My 5 Tips to Get Healthy + Happy

Hello Beautiful,

Getting healthy means more than just eating a salad or going for a run. Getting healthy includes having a healthy mental state and healthy relationships. Being healthy also means being happy. When you restrict yourself to a diet or counting calories, you can damage your perception of what being healthy really means.

When you begin to research ways to be healthy and happy, you have to accommodate yourself. It’s easy to look at someone super fit and healthy and say I am going to do that. But, you have to be aware that everybody is different. Literally, every “body” functions differently and must be nourished in various ways.

Disclaimer: I’m not a health expert and I’m not perfect. These things I am sharing are things I continue to work on everyday. I’m not a pro, but that’s the point of working on yourself. You don’t ever stop, it’s a continuous exercise until it becomes a habit. Nobody is perfect. We are all working towards becoming the best versions of ourselves.

With that being said, I just want to share the top 5 things that helped me get inspired to live a more healthy lifestyle. Once again, I am still working on these things daily until they become a habit.

Eat Yummy Food!
Wait! What? Yes, I said eat yummy food. Yummy food that will nourish your body and give you energy. Food is a key factor to becoming healthy, what you put into your body determines your overall health. You want to eat foods that energize you and are filled with good nutrients. Foods that are fresh and not processed. I know how difficult it can be to eat clean on a college budget, but it is possible. (grocery shopping haul to come!)

The key to eating fresh and clean is finding recipes you like, and finding meals that work for you. Everyone has different tastes and learning to eat healthy takes some trial and error. Do research, try new things and repeat.

Progress is still Progress
Something I have learned in my healthy living journey is that no matter the progress you make, it is still progress. Every baby step will eventually add up to big leaps. The little victories should still be celebrated because when you put any journey into perspective, you realize that every piece counts. It all adds up to equal the final product.

Celebrate your small wins, and never lose faith because you aren’t “making progress” because you are!

Listen to your Body
Learn what your body wants and how it reacts to different foods and exercises. I sort of explained this in the first point, but this practice is the best way to achieve a healthy lifestyle. I’ve mentioned the YouTuber, Sarah’s Day before on my blog because she was part of my inspiration to get back to working on myself. Listen to your body is her motto. She lives by this method and I believe it is an effective method too. I think this because our body tells us how it feels in different cues, think about when you’ve ate a really sugary donut or something, how did you feel? I know when I eat too much sugar in a day, my tummy hurts. That’s when you listen to your body. How is it functioning? Are you properly digesting your food? How do you feel?

All of these things describe what it means to listen to your body. You don’t have to count calories to be healthy, you can simply buy good food and see how you feel. Same goes for working out, you don’t have to follow a plan; just do what feels best and works for your body. If you need a day to rest, relax and enjoy some tea…do it. LISTEN TO YOUR BODY!

Do What You Want
In regards to exercise, do what you want. What I mean by this is you do not have to follow everyone else. Sure, there are millions of workout plans on the internet and videos to buy. But, just do what feels right for you and works for you. Everyone is different and our bodies can react differently to certain workouts. Of course, you can still do your research and try out new methods but don’t hold yourself to one regimen. I personally enjoy high-intensity exercises! I’m not much for lifting weights, but sometimes I do it to change up my routine.

When it comes to being healthy and exercising, just know that your lifestyle is completely up to you. You do not have to be or do anything you don’t want to.

Love Yourself + Your Beauty
Trust me, I know what a battle it can be to wake up everyday and just be obsessed with yourself. It’s not possible. We all have insecurities we struggle with and we must face them everyday. The trick is to realize the everyone has them, even the most perfect people. You may think it’s just you, but there are thousands of people who probably struggle with similar things.

I’ve explained this in recent post, but you have to realize that beauty is different in everyone’s eyes. Flowers are pretty, but so are sunsets. Flowers don’t take any beauty away from the sunset. Same goes for you. Just because you don’t look like the models you see on social media, doesn’t mean you’re less beautiful.

In order to truly live a healthy + happy life, you must love yourself and work on becoming comfortable with who you are. You are so unique and beautiful. Embrace your flaws, know that they make you who you are. Fall in love with the process of getting healthy and being happy. Find new ways to make yourself happy everyday. Never stop learning more about yourself.

I hope from this post you can takeaway a few things. One being to get to know yourself and learn what is best for your body. Do your research, try new things and keep working hard. Another takeaway is loving yourself through the process. Every day throws something new at us, learn to go with the flow of things and trust the process. Some days will be quiet days spent in a cafe and other days will be spent smashing a workout in the gym. It’s about balance.

Lastly, remember that part of being healthy and happy includes taking care of your mind too. Don’t overwhelm yourself with a strict schedule or crazy diets. Take time to journal, drink tea and read a good book. It also means finding time to spend with people you love, people who inspire you. That may not be a point above, but it’s equally important. Your health goes beyond muscle tone.

Looking for more posts like this? Check out 20 Things to a Happy + Healthy Life, Farm Fresh Salad Recipe or I’m not Perfect, I Know.

Thank you for reading PYM today. I know some of this may have been slightly repetitive but these are the things that have helped me understand what it meant to be “healthy”, and hopefully thy can help you too.

xo, Lyss

Farm Fresh Salad Recipe

Hello Darlings,

This past Saturday I spent the morning at the local farmers market in Grand Rapids. I picked up lots of fresh + local goodies. It was such a quaint and quiet morning spent alone, I really enjoyed it.

I thought I would share what I got with you and give you my current favorite salad recipe, made from some of the things I picked up at the market.

First, I picked up a coffee from a local coffee shop that I love (Madcap Coffee for the local readers). I adore the setting and vibes of the shop, and the lattes are always perfect. Then, I headed to the massive Fulton Street farmers market. There were a bunch of farmers and vendors to look through, I was overwhelmed with my options. So, I did a walk through first before purchasing any goodies.

Here’s what I got:

  • 3 zucchini for $1
  • 2 [huge] cucumbers for $1
  • Bouquet of sunflowers for $5
  • A little succulent for $2.50
  • Bag of mixed greens for $5

All adding up to just $14.50 – Talk about a steal!

There were lots of other affordable and fresh items that I chose not to buy this time because I am about leave for a trip. If you would be interested in a full Farmers Market haul, let me know in the comments. For this time around, the salad is made up of a mix of farm fresh and grocery store bought.

My Salad Recipe

Ingredients:

  • Mixed Greens (my fave includes spinach, arugula + romaine)
  • Tuna (or chicken)
  • Half of an avocado
  • Diced cucumbers
  • Baby tomatoes
  • Shredded carrot
  • Diced onion
  • Herb + Garlic for taste (salt-free)
  • Apple cider vinegar for dressing

First, I washed the salad mix I picked up from the market. Then I chopped up all the goodies for the toppings. I added all the veggies to the top, then added tuna. Once that was done, I added seasoning (garlic + herb) and dressing (apple cider vinegar). Voila! Yummy + fresh salad to fill you tummy!

*The green shows which items were bought at the market. Though there are only two in this recipe, carrots, avocado, tomatoes, onion, fresh herbs and even chicken were available at this market. once again, I did not purchase these items this time due to an upcoming vacation.

This salad mix has been one of my go-to’s lately. It’s very filling and tasty.

After eating my salad, I re-potted the little succulent I bought and named it “Hazel”. How cute is she?!

I’m looking forward to my next trip to the market and I plan to buy lots more. Do you like visiting the local market? What’s your favorite recipe to make from it? Share below!

Thank you for reading today + I wish you a week of happiness. Smash your goals and be kind to everyone.

xo, Lyss

 

“Easy for You to Say, You’re Skinny”

Hello Beautiful Babes,

I’ve heard this line many many times in my life. When I start to get healthy and work out more consistently, people tell me it’s easy for me because I’m skinny. I can see where they are coming from, and I understand their reasoning behind it. But, it’s not easy for me because I’m skinny.

I have been working on my health and fitness over the past few months, which you can probably tell if you’ve been following me.

First off, I am not doing this to lose weight or be “skinny”. I am doing this to feel healthy. When I am strong and my body is healthy I feel more confident and happy.

When people start their fitness journey, they usually begin because they are inspired by something. For some it may be weight lose, for others it may just be to build muscle tone. Everyone starts for different reasons; therefore we cannot judge people’s lifestyle based on their size.

Yes, you’re correct. In today’s society, I am skinny. I won the gene pool lottery…?

Not true! 

My background

My family health history is quite lengthy actually. From diabetes and arthritis to even cancer, I am not “lucky”. Everyone has a choice in life though, and how you treat your body has a big impact on your health and future.

For most of my childhood, I did dance and gymnastics. I was also a very active child; always playing outside, riding my bike and running around with my pets. This background set me up for a healthy body. I also never ate a bunch of candy or drank sugary drinks, I wasn’t raised in that environment. My mom didn’t deprive me of candy, I just never was the kid that drank soda and ate candy on the reg. I loved water! (lame, I know)

I began focusing on my health more over the past few months because I was feeling sick after almost every meal. I couldn’t figure out the problem and why I was feeling this way. Then, I did some research and realized my diet could have a big impact on that. Working out has also helped me keep everything moving smooth through my digestive system. Growing up, I was always active and my body still thrives on that activity to function properly.

The eating habits and lifestyle you are raised with can impact how you take care of yourself now. Not everyone has the same background as me, nor does anyone have the same as you. That’s why you can’t look at someone who is skinny and assume they have it easy. The good news is you can always change your current lifestyle. You are not tied to your habits.

Being skinny doesn’t make building muscle and eating healthy any easier for me. I still have to be conscious about my food choices and listen to my body’s needs.

If you are struggling to find peace with your body and don’t know where to start, do your research. Learn about what works for you and what feels good. Keep a journal about how you feel not only externally but internally. Don’t force a lifestyle, just find one that you can find peace and happiness with. Feel free to contact me as well. I’m not an expert but I have battled with some of my own self-image issues, including body shaming.

Women of all sizes deal with these types of issues, you’re not alone. Skinny, “fat”, large or small; we are all just trying to be the best version of ourselves.

Thank you for reading PYM!

xo, Lyss

I’m Not Perfect, I Know

Hello Lovely People,

In a world of picture perfect people, thanks to social media; we are all held to an unobtainable standard. I believe women struggle with this a little more than the fellas, but we all experience it.

“It”, referring to the feeling of never being enough.

We get caught up comparing ourselves and our accomplishments to others. It’s easy to do in a society where everyone shares their lives on the internet. You get a new shirt and you’re happy, but then you see your friend just got a new car. This feeling of envy can kick in.

You were completely content with your purchase of $15 until you saw someone had something better. You then think: “oh, well I can’t afford that, I must not be good enough or successful enough”.

The cycle begins. It’s vicious too!

You don’t mean to be jealous or envious of other people but it’s hard not to be when their “perfect” lives are always in your face.

Truth: Their lives are not perfect. How do I know this?

Well because just like us, they’re human. We all try to post our best pictures and post on our best days, when really, there are a lot of low quality pictures and low quality days. As a society, we like to share the good stuff.

I have anxiety. Many people may not know this about me but they do know that I “like a plan”. It’s not that I like a plan but I get anxiety when I don’t know what to expect. It makes me overthink and worry, why? I couldn’t tell you. It just happens mentally.

I started to share some of struggles (with anxiety) on Instagram and Facebook, being 100% honest and it was a hit. Not in the sense that I got this fancy attention for it and all these followers, but I had people personally message me telling me they struggled with the same things. REAL PEOPLE. The ones that even shared pictures of their perfect lives.

See! No one is perfect, we just like to put on a front that makes people think we are. It’s safer because we’re less vulnerable in that state.

I’m not saying every time you log on to social media you need to share your true feelings. Just be aware that everyone else has similar battles in their lives, we just don’t always see them.

And a side note. Rather than focusing on what people are doing around you and on social media, focus on your goals and your accomplishments. Whether you just got a new shirt or a new car, you are not any greater or less than those around you.

Everyone has flaws, they may not be the same as yours but they’re there. And if you think about it, your flaws are only defined by you. How other people view them is completely up to them. How you define your flaws may be how someone else defines your beauty. One of my favorite quotes that I came across recently, explains this all so well:

“Just because you don’t look like somebody who you think is attractive doesn’t mean you are’t attractive. Flowers are pretty, but so are sunsets and they look nothing alike.”  

Thank you for checking out Pretty, Young and Motivated today! I have officially created a YouTube channel that will go along with this blog. It is under my name Alyssa Waid, but it is an addition to the PYM family. Check it out here!

You too have a picture perfect life, it’s just about the angle you look at it.

xo, Lyss