What’s Project Comeback?

Hello Pretty People,

If you follow me on social media, you’ll notice that every once in awhile I share snaps or photos of my “project comeback”. You may wonder what I mean by that. Project Comeback is a term I have picked up to refer to the time I use to get my life back on track.

Life gets busy. We can lose track of working out, eating healthy and all around, taking care of ourselves. It happens!

That was last week for me. It’s easy to fall into this and it’s also okay to fall into this. We are human and we do not have to stick to anything that’s uncomfortable. I started back at university this week, which means a change in my schedule. And I say a new schedule calls for new goals!

To me, project comeback isn’t just about getting back in the gym or eating a salad. It’s about getting a clear vision of my goals and doing what it takes to accomplish them. Sometimes that means adjusting my goals and going back to the basics! I’m going to share some of the steps I take to focus my mindset and get my sh*t together.

My Project Comeback

Set New Goals: My schedule has taken a complete 180 from what I was doing this past summer. Therefore, I am setting new goals to accommodate this schedule. I’m also starting my final year of college, that alone calls for some serious goal setting! Time to put the big girl pants on.

Setting new goals is always a refreshing way to refocus yourself and get inspired. If you’re ever feeling a little out of whack, try setting new goals.

Drink More Water: My skin is taking an end of the summer plunge. I did not get as much vitamin D as I would’ve liked this summer, and my skin can agree. Drinking water (lots of water) will rejuvenate the skin and it’s great for your health. Try to drink a glass when you wake up and one before bed.

In general, drinking more water always helps my skin and my energy levels.

Schedule Time to Workout: Working out is not for everyone but I’m not asking that you go to the gym and lift weights. Just get your blood moving. Take a morning walk, do 50 push ups or take a swim. Whatever fits in your lifestyle, do that!

Sometimes I’m not working out to build muscle or lose weight, I’m doing it to cure my anxiety or relieve my stress.

Get Some Sleep: I love sleep! I know how easy it can be to binge watch a tv show or stay up late on your phone, but really try to catch some z’s. Sleep helps your skin, digestion and energy. It’s okay to take a few late nights, however sticking to a sleep schedule will benefit you so much.

Make Time to Blog: Make time to do what you love. This one is personal to me because I have neglected making the proper time to sit down and really write. I love creating content for my readers and it’s a way for me to release some of my own thoughts. Take time to do the things that bring you happiness.

These are just a few of the things that I do to get my life back together. There are days, even weeks, where things just tumble out of control. It’s okay, splurge a little. Just take care of yourself and know when it’s time to get it together.

I challenge you to create your own Project Comeback because we all have off days and we all deserve time to splurge. It’s all about the balance, babes!

You’ve got this!

xo, Lyss

I’m Anxious Right Now

Hello Beautiful People,

I wanted to have an honest moment with all of you. Many of you may know that I struggle with anxiety from time to time. I have talked about this in more recent posts, but I thought I would be 100% real with you today.

Right now at this very moment, I am anxious.

Why you may ask?

That’s the problem with anxiety, you can’t always define the cause. Sometimes I am able to figure out where it is rooting from but most of the time it is unknown. That’s why it kind of makes one feel crazy. Anxiety gets under your skin, you feel it in your gut. It’s like being nervous about nothing.

It’s caring too much and it’s thinking too much.

You fear things that aren’t even happening. For example, right now I am feeling like people are annoyed with me; like they don’t want to be around me. So naturally, I am pushing away people that are close to me. I don’t want to be annoying and bothersome. My anxiety can take over and cause me to overthink even the smallest things. And that’s what is happening currently.

It’s wanting to fix something that’s not even a problem yet.

You feel alone, even when you’re not. You push people away (accidentally) because you’re scared of getting hurt. When in reality, nobody is leaving you. It’s all in your head. People ask what’s wrong and you can’t explain it because it doesn’t even make sense in your own head.

That’s anxiety.

Most of the time I wish I did’t have to deal with this monster in my head but let me tell you a few things that anxiety has done for me.

Anxiety has made me love more deeply. I invest myself completely into a person because I think about every little thing. I don’t like conflict, so I do my best to make everyone happy and I always consider other peoples feelings. Sometimes before my own.

Anxiety has made me a planner. This is one of those things that can go both ways. In some sense, you don’t want to over plan and ruin the moment. But, planning has made me the driven, ambitious person I am today. Since I do think about every aspect,  I am able to formulate a plan to accommodate many outcomes. Downfall of this trait is unmet expectations cause disappointment. You win some and lose some!

Anxiety has motivated me in many ways. At times, it can take over my mood and cause me to be in a real funk. But, the next day I have the option to make it a great day or let anxiety win. It all around has made me a stronger person.

Anxiety makes me stronger inside because it forces me to be completely self-aware at all times.

Anxiety allows me to read others very well. That is a gift of anxiety, I can determine if people are good or bad people pretty early on.

These are just a few ways I can describe anxiety. Creating this post has actually helped me internalize my feelings. Sometimes writing out your thoughts helps ease the anxious feeling. It allows you to see what you are thinking. If you are someone who struggles with anxiety, know that you are not alone and everything will be okay, even though it may not feel that way in the moment.

Don’t be afraid to reach out and get help. You are most important, so take care of yourself!

Thank you for reading PYM today. I hope this post is able to help those who also struggle with anxiety find peace in the fact that they are not alone, and offer a perspective of anxiety for those who may not understand it.

Remember: Everything will work out.

xo, Lyss

“Easy for You to Say, You’re Skinny”

Hello Beautiful Babes,

I’ve heard this line many many times in my life. When I start to get healthy and work out more consistently, people tell me it’s easy for me because I’m skinny. I can see where they are coming from, and I understand their reasoning behind it. But, it’s not easy for me because I’m skinny.

I have been working on my health and fitness over the past few months, which you can probably tell if you’ve been following me.

First off, I am not doing this to lose weight or be “skinny”. I am doing this to feel healthy. When I am strong and my body is healthy I feel more confident and happy.

When people start their fitness journey, they usually begin because they are inspired by something. For some it may be weight lose, for others it may just be to build muscle tone. Everyone starts for different reasons; therefore we cannot judge people’s lifestyle based on their size.

Yes, you’re correct. In today’s society, I am skinny. I won the gene pool lottery…?

Not true! 

My background

My family health history is quite lengthy actually. From diabetes and arthritis to even cancer, I am not “lucky”. Everyone has a choice in life though, and how you treat your body has a big impact on your health and future.

For most of my childhood, I did dance and gymnastics. I was also a very active child; always playing outside, riding my bike and running around with my pets. This background set me up for a healthy body. I also never ate a bunch of candy or drank sugary drinks, I wasn’t raised in that environment. My mom didn’t deprive me of candy, I just never was the kid that drank soda and ate candy on the reg. I loved water! (lame, I know)

I began focusing on my health more over the past few months because I was feeling sick after almost every meal. I couldn’t figure out the problem and why I was feeling this way. Then, I did some research and realized my diet could have a big impact on that. Working out has also helped me keep everything moving smooth through my digestive system. Growing up, I was always active and my body still thrives on that activity to function properly.

The eating habits and lifestyle you are raised with can impact how you take care of yourself now. Not everyone has the same background as me, nor does anyone have the same as you. That’s why you can’t look at someone who is skinny and assume they have it easy. The good news is you can always change your current lifestyle. You are not tied to your habits.

Being skinny doesn’t make building muscle and eating healthy any easier for me. I still have to be conscious about my food choices and listen to my body’s needs.

If you are struggling to find peace with your body and don’t know where to start, do your research. Learn about what works for you and what feels good. Keep a journal about how you feel not only externally but internally. Don’t force a lifestyle, just find one that you can find peace and happiness with. Feel free to contact me as well. I’m not an expert but I have battled with some of my own self-image issues, including body shaming.

Women of all sizes deal with these types of issues, you’re not alone. Skinny, “fat”, large or small; we are all just trying to be the best version of ourselves.

Thank you for reading PYM!

xo, Lyss

I’m Not Perfect, I Know

Hello Lovely People,

In a world of picture perfect people, thanks to social media; we are all held to an unobtainable standard. I believe women struggle with this a little more than the fellas, but we all experience it.

“It”, referring to the feeling of never being enough.

We get caught up comparing ourselves and our accomplishments to others. It’s easy to do in a society where everyone shares their lives on the internet. You get a new shirt and you’re happy, but then you see your friend just got a new car. This feeling of envy can kick in.

You were completely content with your purchase of $15 until you saw someone had something better. You then think: “oh, well I can’t afford that, I must not be good enough or successful enough”.

The cycle begins. It’s vicious too!

You don’t mean to be jealous or envious of other people but it’s hard not to be when their “perfect” lives are always in your face.

Truth: Their lives are not perfect. How do I know this?

Well because just like us, they’re human. We all try to post our best pictures and post on our best days, when really, there are a lot of low quality pictures and low quality days. As a society, we like to share the good stuff.

I have anxiety. Many people may not know this about me but they do know that I “like a plan”. It’s not that I like a plan but I get anxiety when I don’t know what to expect. It makes me overthink and worry, why? I couldn’t tell you. It just happens mentally.

I started to share some of struggles (with anxiety) on Instagram and Facebook, being 100% honest and it was a hit. Not in the sense that I got this fancy attention for it and all these followers, but I had people personally message me telling me they struggled with the same things. REAL PEOPLE. The ones that even shared pictures of their perfect lives.

See! No one is perfect, we just like to put on a front that makes people think we are. It’s safer because we’re less vulnerable in that state.

I’m not saying every time you log on to social media you need to share your true feelings. Just be aware that everyone else has similar battles in their lives, we just don’t always see them.

And a side note. Rather than focusing on what people are doing around you and on social media, focus on your goals and your accomplishments. Whether you just got a new shirt or a new car, you are not any greater or less than those around you.

Everyone has flaws, they may not be the same as yours but they’re there. And if you think about it, your flaws are only defined by you. How other people view them is completely up to them. How you define your flaws may be how someone else defines your beauty. One of my favorite quotes that I came across recently, explains this all so well:

“Just because you don’t look like somebody who you think is attractive doesn’t mean you are’t attractive. Flowers are pretty, but so are sunsets and they look nothing alike.”  

Thank you for checking out Pretty, Young and Motivated today! I have officially created a YouTube channel that will go along with this blog. It is under my name Alyssa Waid, but it is an addition to the PYM family. Check it out here!

You too have a picture perfect life, it’s just about the angle you look at it.

xo, Lyss

3 Intense Sweaty Workouts

Hello Fit Babes:

Sticking to a workout routine can really show results and push you in your fitness journey, but that can potentially get boring at times. That’s why it’s important to add in some intense, body shocking workouts. These will break your normal routine and work new muscle groups, which will hopefully show more results. I thought I could share a couple of my favorite intense workouts that I do when I really want to sweat. I also do these workouts when I feel bloated or sluggish, it really kicks my body back into gear. These are great to add to your routine, but they aren’t meant to be done everyday.

Intense Workout #1 | Hey Miss New Booty

You’ll need a gym with a stair master!

StairMaster: 15-20 minutes

3 to 5 minute warm up |  Level: 8-10

3 to 5 sprints for 30 second each | Level: 20 or your personal max

*Break for 30 seconds to 1 minute between each. The sprints truly burn but you have to push through at least 3 to really reap the benefits of this exercise.

3 sets of kickbacks for 30 seconds | Level: 8

*This is a booty burner, simply kick each leg back and step on every other step.

3 sets of 30 second side climb | Level: 13

*Walking sideways on each side counts as one set.

You may also take breaks in between the other exercises, but I usually do a set of kickbacks combined with the sideways walking then take a small break. Do what’s best for your fitness level. I usually complete a few intense ab exercises after too!

Intense Workout #2 | The Girl Next Door

Utilize your neighborhood or local park for this one!

8-10 hill climbs | Try to do this pretty continuous

1 to  2 mile run/walk | Try to run for the whole 1st mile

10-15 stair sprints | Do five then take a 1 minute break, repeat until you reach 10 or 15

Workout #3 | Sweaty Yogi

Attend a hot yoga class!

Hot yoga is actually such a sweaty, intense workout, especially if you partake in a vinyasa session. Vinyasa is a constant movement through different yoga poses. I remember when I first did one of these classes, I left dripping sweat and I was sore for the next two days. It literally shocked my body. I LOVED IT!

Thank you for checking out Pretty, Young & Motivated today. I hope you are able to try some of these workouts and see some serious results. Share your favorite intense workouts with me in the comments! I’d love to try some of yours too. Happy Monday!

Let’s get sweaty!

xo, Lyss