“Easy for You to Say, You’re Skinny”

Hello Beautiful Babes,

I’ve heard this line many many times in my life. When I start to get healthy and work out more consistently, people tell me it’s easy for me because I’m skinny. I can see where they are coming from, and I understand their reasoning behind it. But, it’s not easy for me because I’m skinny.

I have been working on my health and fitness over the past few months, which you can probably tell if you’ve been following me.

First off, I am not doing this to lose weight or be “skinny”. I am doing this to feel healthy. When I am strong and my body is healthy I feel more confident and happy.

When people start their fitness journey, they usually begin because they are inspired by something. For some it may be weight lose, for others it may just be to build muscle tone. Everyone starts for different reasons; therefore we cannot judge people’s lifestyle based on their size.

Yes, you’re correct. In today’s society, I am skinny. I won the gene pool lottery…?

Not true! 

My background

My family health history is quite lengthy actually. From diabetes and arthritis to even cancer, I am not “lucky”. Everyone has a choice in life though, and how you treat your body has a big impact on your health and future.

For most of my childhood, I did dance and gymnastics. I was also a very active child; always playing outside, riding my bike and running around with my pets. This background set me up for a healthy body. I also never ate a bunch of candy or drank sugary drinks, I wasn’t raised in that environment. My mom didn’t deprive me of candy, I just never was the kid that drank soda and ate candy on the reg. I loved water! (lame, I know)

I began focusing on my health more over the past few months because I was feeling sick after almost every meal. I couldn’t figure out the problem and why I was feeling this way. Then, I did some research and realized my diet could have a big impact on that. Working out has also helped me keep everything moving smooth through my digestive system. Growing up, I was always active and my body still thrives on that activity to function properly.

The eating habits and lifestyle you are raised with can impact how you take care of yourself now. Not everyone has the same background as me, nor does anyone have the same as you. That’s why you can’t look at someone who is skinny and assume they have it easy. The good news is you can always change your current lifestyle. You are not tied to your habits.

Being skinny doesn’t make building muscle and eating healthy any easier for me. I still have to be conscious about my food choices and listen to my body’s needs.

If you are struggling to find peace with your body and don’t know where to start, do your research. Learn about what works for you and what feels good. Keep a journal about how you feel not only externally but internally. Don’t force a lifestyle, just find one that you can find peace and happiness with. Feel free to contact me as well. I’m not an expert but I have battled with some of my own self-image issues, including body shaming.

Women of all sizes deal with these types of issues, you’re not alone. Skinny, “fat”, large or small; we are all just trying to be the best version of ourselves.

Thank you for reading PYM!

xo, Lyss

I’m Not Perfect, I Know

Hello Lovely People,

In a world of picture perfect people, thanks to social media; we are all held to an unobtainable standard. I believe women struggle with this a little more than the fellas, but we all experience it.

“It”, referring to the feeling of never being enough.

We get caught up comparing ourselves and our accomplishments to others. It’s easy to do in a society where everyone shares their lives on the internet. You get a new shirt and you’re happy, but then you see your friend just got a new car. This feeling of envy can kick in.

You were completely content with your purchase of $15 until you saw someone had something better. You then think: “oh, well I can’t afford that, I must not be good enough or successful enough”.

The cycle begins. It’s vicious too!

You don’t mean to be jealous or envious of other people but it’s hard not to be when their “perfect” lives are always in your face.

Truth: Their lives are not perfect. How do I know this?

Well because just like us, they’re human. We all try to post our best pictures and post on our best days, when really, there are a lot of low quality pictures and low quality days. As a society, we like to share the good stuff.

I have anxiety. Many people may not know this about me but they do know that I “like a plan”. It’s not that I like a plan but I get anxiety when I don’t know what to expect. It makes me overthink and worry, why? I couldn’t tell you. It just happens mentally.

I started to share some of struggles (with anxiety) on Instagram and Facebook, being 100% honest and it was a hit. Not in the sense that I got this fancy attention for it and all these followers, but I had people personally message me telling me they struggled with the same things. REAL PEOPLE. The ones that even shared pictures of their perfect lives.

See! No one is perfect, we just like to put on a front that makes people think we are. It’s safer because we’re less vulnerable in that state.

I’m not saying every time you log on to social media you need to share your true feelings. Just be aware that everyone else has similar battles in their lives, we just don’t always see them.

And a side note. Rather than focusing on what people are doing around you and on social media, focus on your goals and your accomplishments. Whether you just got a new shirt or a new car, you are not any greater or less than those around you.

Everyone has flaws, they may not be the same as yours but they’re there. And if you think about it, your flaws are only defined by you. How other people view them is completely up to them. How you define your flaws may be how someone else defines your beauty. One of my favorite quotes that I came across recently, explains this all so well:

“Just because you don’t look like somebody who you think is attractive doesn’t mean you are’t attractive. Flowers are pretty, but so are sunsets and they look nothing alike.”  

Thank you for checking out Pretty, Young and Motivated today! I have officially created a YouTube channel that will go along with this blog. It is under my name Alyssa Waid, but it is an addition to the PYM family. Check it out here!

You too have a picture perfect life, it’s just about the angle you look at it.

xo, Lyss

3 Intense Sweaty Workouts

Hello Fit Babes:

Sticking to a workout routine can really show results and push you in your fitness journey, but that can potentially get boring at times. That’s why it’s important to add in some intense, body shocking workouts. These will break your normal routine and work new muscle groups, which will hopefully show more results. I thought I could share a couple of my favorite intense workouts that I do when I really want to sweat. I also do these workouts when I feel bloated or sluggish, it really kicks my body back into gear. These are great to add to your routine, but they aren’t meant to be done everyday.

Intense Workout #1 | Hey Miss New Booty

You’ll need a gym with a stair master!

StairMaster: 15-20 minutes

3 to 5 minute warm up |  Level: 8-10

3 to 5 sprints for 30 second each | Level: 20 or your personal max

*Break for 30 seconds to 1 minute between each. The sprints truly burn but you have to push through at least 3 to really reap the benefits of this exercise.

3 sets of kickbacks for 30 seconds | Level: 8

*This is a booty burner, simply kick each leg back and step on every other step.

3 sets of 30 second side climb | Level: 13

*Walking sideways on each side counts as one set.

You may also take breaks in between the other exercises, but I usually do a set of kickbacks combined with the sideways walking then take a small break. Do what’s best for your fitness level. I usually complete a few intense ab exercises after too!

Intense Workout #2 | The Girl Next Door

Utilize your neighborhood or local park for this one!

8-10 hill climbs | Try to do this pretty continuous

1 to  2 mile run/walk | Try to run for the whole 1st mile

10-15 stair sprints | Do five then take a 1 minute break, repeat until you reach 10 or 15

Workout #3 | Sweaty Yogi

Attend a hot yoga class!

Hot yoga is actually such a sweaty, intense workout, especially if you partake in a vinyasa session. Vinyasa is a constant movement through different yoga poses. I remember when I first did one of these classes, I left dripping sweat and I was sore for the next two days. It literally shocked my body. I LOVED IT!

Thank you for checking out Pretty, Young & Motivated today. I hope you are able to try some of these workouts and see some serious results. Share your favorite intense workouts with me in the comments! I’d love to try some of yours too. Happy Monday!

Let’s get sweaty!

xo, Lyss

How to Throw Kindness like Confetti

Hello Pretty People:

As I was thinking about what to write next for you guys, I was thinking about the topic of paying it forward and being kind to one another. This topic isn’t unfamiliar on PYM and I don’t expect to change that. In the wake of the recent events in Manchester, I think a post on kindness is needed more than ever. As hate continues to spread through our world, we must push back with more kindness and positivity.

A sad reality of terrorism is that there is no real way to stop attacks because they come unexpectedly. That’s probably the point but we must combat these acts of evil with acts of kindness. As I mentioned, promoting kindness and positivity is not a new concept on my blog but it is time to take it to the next level. I think life is just easier when you are kind to everyone and you are positive about every situation.

So, I decided to share five easy ways to be kind on a daily basis.

5 Ways to be Kind

Compliment (not just appearance):

It’s easy to compliment someone’s appearance, but it’s more meaningful to compliment their character or something they have chosen to be. Rather than commenting on appearance, something they don’t necessarily have control of, compliment their style or their personality. Examples could be “you’re so thoughtful” or “it’s really nice to see you today”. These are slightly different compliments that can really change someone’s day.

Buy someone’s coffee:

As a college student my budget doesn’t always account for this one; but when you are able to, it’s an easy way to brighten someone’s day. It’s always a surprise when someone does this for me, and it usually encourages me to pass on the good vibes to others.

Tell people you are thankful for them:

A lesson we can take from tragic events like the other night is life is too short. It’s hard to grasp that concept that everyday is not promised. On the days you do think of how precious life is, remember to thank those who are close to you. Tell people you are thankful for them. Even if you are at work and someone helps you complete a task, let them know how grateful you are to work with them. It’s nice to know you are wanted and your efforts are noticed.

Share your favorite positive quote:

I love finding positive quotes on Pinterest and sharing them with my friends and family. I love the inspirational and motivational power that a quote can have. It’s always nice when friends share quotes with me too because I feel like they always come at the best times. It’s hard to constantly motivate and inspire yourself. This is why it feels good to have that support from friends and family.

Say “I love you”:

In life, we are constantly searching for love and acceptance from others, whether we would like to admit it or not. It is what we were rewarded with as kids and as we grow up we continue to seek that love. Don’t pass up a chance to say “I love you” to the people who may need to hear it. Everyday we all struggle to be the best person we can be in hopes we will be recognized by the ones we love. Don’t miss your chance to share the love and let someone know how special they are to you. Don’t be so afraid of love.

These are just some of my favorite ways to spread a little kindness to the people around me. Being kind isn’t too hard, and when you are kind to others they tend to keep the kindness ball rolling.

Although there may be hate in our world, I challenge you to fight it with kindness. I challenge you to implement one of these things above and see how many people’s days you can brighten by doing so.

Throw kindness like confetti.

xo, Lyss

*My heart goes out to those impacted by the Manchester attack. I understand the tragedy of this event and I would never wish it upon my worst enemy.

 

How to Get Motivated to Workout

Hello Babes,

Over the past few months, I have had little to no motivation to workout since my schedule was so busy. I think this low motivation mindset is very easy to fall into when life picks up and we get distracted from ourselves. I know how much of a struggle it can be to dig deep and find the urge to workout. What’s the point, right?

Well, over the past two weeks I have finally been getting back into the swing of things and I am feeling 110% better. I feel like my mood has been elevated, I am able to relieve my daily stress and my digestion has been better too. Obviously it’s only been a week, so there are no major changes yet but I already notice the difference in the way my body feels.

My 4 tips for finding motivation to workout

Find a workout that works: When you are beginning to workout again it can be hard to find which workouts work for your body. The best way to learn is by trying many different types of workouts. I was a cheerleader for almost 9 years, and after quitting, it took me some time to figure out what worked for me. I have found that variations within my workout really worked for me, things like resistance training has been the most beneficial for me. When I am using my own body in a workout rather than machines, I feel more accomplished in my workouts.

Start small: It’s hard to just jump right into intense workouts, so start small and then work your way up. Starting small can refer back to the first tip, which is finding what works for you. Do your research and learn what would work best for your body and lifestyle.

Find inspiration: When you are stuck in a rut and do not want to workout, it’s best to find a reason to start again. Whether this is finding a role model that inspires you and motivates you or if it’s simply finding a valid reason to just do it. For me, I was inspired by Sarah’s Day on YouTube because she talked about her personal issues prior to getting healthy and fit, things such as acne and digestion, which related to the problems I was having. This made me think maybe adding a workout into my daily schedule may help.

Do it for yourself: If you cannot find a good enough reason to start, then just do it for yourself. Working out for even 15 minutes a day will boost your mood and improve digestion. It can also help you get better sleep. No matter what, adding a little sweat to your day can improve so much. Get inspired and get motivated!

These are just a few things that have motivated me to jump back into working out. So far, I am feeling amazing and I’m so glad I found motivation to start again. I just started my own fitness journey, so I understand the struggle of starting again. As long as you find a purpose for it in your life, you will succeed. Never push yourself to workout if it does not feel right or you’re doing it just to please others. You must workout for yourself or you will never be pleased with the results.

I’m so happy that you decided to stop by PYM and read this post today. I hope it can help you find that fire from within to start doing what’s best for your body. If you want specific posts from me, feel free to suggest in the comments or via email. I would love to chat with you and hear your thoughts.

Find your motivation!

xo, Lyss