How to Throw Kindness like Confetti

Hello Pretty People:

As I was thinking about what to write next for you guys, I was thinking about the topic of paying it forward and being kind to one another. This topic isn’t unfamiliar on PYM and I don’t expect to change that. In the wake of the recent events in Manchester, I think a post on kindness is needed more than ever. As hate continues to spread through our world, we must push back with more kindness and positivity.

A sad reality of terrorism is that there is no real way to stop attacks because they come unexpectedly. That’s probably the point but we must combat these acts of evil with acts of kindness. As I mentioned, promoting kindness and positivity is not a new concept on my blog but it is time to take it to the next level. I think life is just easier when you are kind to everyone and you are positive about every situation.

So, I decided to share five easy ways to be kind on a daily basis.

5 Ways to be Kind

Compliment (not just appearance):

It’s easy to compliment someone’s appearance, but it’s more meaningful to compliment their character or something they have chosen to be. Rather than commenting on appearance, something they don’t necessarily have control of, compliment their style or their personality. Examples could be “you’re so thoughtful” or “it’s really nice to see you today”. These are slightly different compliments that can really change someone’s day.

Buy someone’s coffee:

As a college student my budget doesn’t always account for this one; but when you are able to, it’s an easy way to brighten someone’s day. It’s always a surprise when someone does this for me, and it usually encourages me to pass on the good vibes to others.

Tell people you are thankful for them:

A lesson we can take from tragic events like the other night is life is too short. It’s hard to grasp that concept that everyday is not promised. On the days you do think of how precious life is, remember to thank those who are close to you. Tell people you are thankful for them. Even if you are at work and someone helps you complete a task, let them know how grateful you are to work with them. It’s nice to know you are wanted and your efforts are noticed.

Share your favorite positive quote:

I love finding positive quotes on Pinterest and sharing them with my friends and family. I love the inspirational and motivational power that a quote can have. It’s always nice when friends share quotes with me too because I feel like they always come at the best times. It’s hard to constantly motivate and inspire yourself. This is why it feels good to have that support from friends and family.

Say “I love you”:

In life, we are constantly searching for love and acceptance from others, whether we would like to admit it or not. It is what we were rewarded with as kids and as we grow up we continue to seek that love. Don’t pass up a chance to say “I love you” to the people who may need to hear it. Everyday we all struggle to be the best person we can be in hopes we will be recognized by the ones we love. Don’t miss your chance to share the love and let someone know how special they are to you. Don’t be so afraid of love.

These are just some of my favorite ways to spread a little kindness to the people around me. Being kind isn’t too hard, and when you are kind to others they tend to keep the kindness ball rolling.

Although there may be hate in our world, I challenge you to fight it with kindness. I challenge you to implement one of these things above and see how many people’s days you can brighten by doing so.

Throw kindness like confetti.

xo, Lyss

*My heart goes out to those impacted by the Manchester attack. I understand the tragedy of this event and I would never wish it upon my worst enemy.

 

How to Get Motivated to Workout

Hello Babes,

Over the past few months, I have had little to no motivation to workout since my schedule was so busy. I think this low motivation mindset is very easy to fall into when life picks up and we get distracted from ourselves. I know how much of a struggle it can be to dig deep and find the urge to workout. What’s the point, right?

Well, over the past two weeks I have finally been getting back into the swing of things and I am feeling 110% better. I feel like my mood has been elevated, I am able to relieve my daily stress and my digestion has been better too. Obviously it’s only been a week, so there are no major changes yet but I already notice the difference in the way my body feels.

My 4 tips for finding motivation to workout

Find a workout that works: When you are beginning to workout again it can be hard to find which workouts work for your body. The best way to learn is by trying many different types of workouts. I was a cheerleader for almost 9 years, and after quitting, it took me some time to figure out what worked for me. I have found that variations within my workout really worked for me, things like resistance training has been the most beneficial for me. When I am using my own body in a workout rather than machines, I feel more accomplished in my workouts.

Start small: It’s hard to just jump right into intense workouts, so start small and then work your way up. Starting small can refer back to the first tip, which is finding what works for you. Do your research and learn what would work best for your body and lifestyle.

Find inspiration: When you are stuck in a rut and do not want to workout, it’s best to find a reason to start again. Whether this is finding a role model that inspires you and motivates you or if it’s simply finding a valid reason to just do it. For me, I was inspired by Sarah’s Day on YouTube because she talked about her personal issues prior to getting healthy and fit, things such as acne and digestion, which related to the problems I was having. This made me think maybe adding a workout into my daily schedule may help.

Do it for yourself: If you cannot find a good enough reason to start, then just do it for yourself. Working out for even 15 minutes a day will boost your mood and improve digestion. It can also help you get better sleep. No matter what, adding a little sweat to your day can improve so much. Get inspired and get motivated!

These are just a few things that have motivated me to jump back into working out. So far, I am feeling amazing and I’m so glad I found motivation to start again. I just started my own fitness journey, so I understand the struggle of starting again. As long as you find a purpose for it in your life, you will succeed. Never push yourself to workout if it does not feel right or you’re doing it just to please others. You must workout for yourself or you will never be pleased with the results.

I’m so happy that you decided to stop by PYM and read this post today. I hope it can help you find that fire from within to start doing what’s best for your body. If you want specific posts from me, feel free to suggest in the comments or via email. I would love to chat with you and hear your thoughts.

Find your motivation!

xo, Lyss

 

 

No Rain, No Flowers

Hello Beautiful Souls,

The title of today’s post is a quote that I came across the other day, very simply put, “no rain, no flowers”. Although this quote is short and sweet, I think it has a massive meaning. Thinking about it in terms of life, you realize without the bad days you cannot grow. Just like flowers, we need rainy days to grow. Rainy days can be rough, they are gloomy and long. But, once the storm passes and the clouds part, flowers bloom and the sun shines.

In life, we have long, bad days that drag us down and put us in a mood. We also have great days, where positive vibes fill our environment and life is just beautiful. That’s life, a battle of good days and bad days. The key to conquering these ups and downs is staying positive and optimistic, even through the bad days. When you are constantly positive, it becomes routine and it is harder to fall into a negative mood. You must take the bad days and figure out how to grow from them.

This past week I came across a very inspiring YouTuber, Sarah’s Day, who is very into health and fitness. She has inspired me to get back to focusing on what I am putting into my body and gaining my strength back. Since I have retired from cheer, I have noticed a decrease in my muscle tone. This past week I began working out again and really listening to what my body wants. I have been feeling more energized and happier this week.

Getting back into working out is a perfect example of “no rain, no flowers”. Without a challenge, you won’t see results. When you begin working out, you may not see any change right away but when you stay positive and stick to it, you will notice the changes. The journey to becoming fit and healthy is never simple, but once you begin to notice results, you feel better and you feel inspired to continue.

This process is life. Some days you will face challenges and you won’t feel 100%, other days you will feel on top of the world and completely happy. Once you learn to ride the roller coaster of life, it becomes a little easier to stay positive. So, always remember without rain, there are no flowers. Enjoy what life hands you and fall in love of the process of becoming your best self.

Thank you all for reading today’s post. I hope you have a grace filled week and I am planning a post for Thursday, so stay tuned for that.

xo, Lyss

 

8 Things You Should Stop Doing Right Now

Hello Cuties,

Ever feel like things aren’t going your way? Do you ever throw yourself a pity party? Well, trust me, I know how that goes. Sometimes we just get in a funk, and it feels like nothing good is coming our way. This is common towards the end of the semester as we begin to approach summer. Lately, I have realized a lot of negativity running through my life. As we know, the way we think can impact our surroundings; and honestly, I have been throwing a pity party for myself these days.

Well, after some thought and a few inspirational quotes, I decided to figure out what my problem was. Why am I feeling like this? So, I created a list of things I am going to stop doing and stop allowing to take up mental space. I thought I would share this list with you as well:

  1. Stop comparing: This is number one for a reason. Stop comparing yourself to others, you are not them and they are not you. You cannot expect to be in their place when you do not even know the challenges they may have had to go through to get there. Everyone has a story that shapes them, wishing to be someone else won’t make things better, it will just inhibit you from achieving your own goals. Sure, look up to people and gather ideas on how you will make the most of your life, but don’t compare your chapter 1 to someone else chapter 15.
  2. Stop worrying about what’s next: I am the worst at this one, it’s always about what’s next. What about right now? Why not live for now and let life work on its own. Yes, make goals and plans but if they fail to turn out, don’t give up. Everything will work out how it’s supposed to, so don’t create unnecessary worry in your mind.
  3. Stop negative thoughts: Easier said than done. Block out all negative thoughts and people. Negativity only creates a toxic environment for you. Life is a little bit easier when you are positive, good things start to come your way and people can’t hate someone who is always positive. Your positivity will start to spread to others as well!
  4. Stop being selfish: Now this does not mean neglect self-love, y’all know I am a proud supporter of self-love. Stop being selfish means stop only thinking about yourself in your relationships. Friendship is made up of give and take, when you think about the people you interact with, think about what they may want. This includes friends, family and even strangers. Understand where they may be coming from and be supportive.
  5. Stop giving up: Stop giving up on things that don’t work out on the first try. I know how easy it may be to give up and move on, but if something is important to you, you shouldn’t give up on it. Things won’t always work out on the first try. The path to success is not straight, so you must anticipate a few challenges before you reach your goals. Don’t give up yet!
  6. Stop hating your body: I know you may not be where you’d like to be with your “body goals” but stop degrading yourself. Take care of yourself and be healthy, but don’t be ashamed of your shape. Everyone is given a different body, relating back to number one, don’t compare your look to someone else’s. Just love yourself and be proud of the skin you’re in.
  7. Stop wasting your time: Stop wasting your time on things that don’t matter. It is easy to get carried away on a Netflix binge or caught up on pointless drama, but stop spending your time on things that don’t benefit you or make you happy. Life is too short to waste time on things that aren’t making you happy.
  8. Stop making an excuse: Every day we wake up, we have the option to live life to the fullest that day or just go through the motions. When you make excuses, you are prohibiting yourself from greatness. You cannot grow or become the person you want if you continue to make excuses for yourself. Don’t make excuses, make moves!

Life is too short to be wasting your precious time on silly things, focus more on the good and less on what’s not working. Working on stopping some of these actions will not only give you peace of mind, but it will also free up some mental space for positive and happy thoughts. Don’t let these things hold you back from greatness. You must seize every day and learn to let the little things go.

This list is just one I came up with on my own, but you should think about creating one for yourself. I made this list based off my current life, so maybe creating your own can give you a better perspective of where you want to be. Before I made this list, I made a list of my short term goals, then I thought about how I would go about achieving them and what I had to stop doing in order to do so.

Thank you all so much for reading today’s post! Please share this with your friends and family. You can subscribe on the right side of the page to receive updates on my posts. It is Monday and it is a new week, so wake up and kick ass. If you’re a student, 3-4 more weeks left in this semester…YOU CAN DO IT!

Happy Monday!

xo, Lyss

 

Stories + Spaces: Self-Love

Hello Lovely People,

It’s time for this month’s Stories + Spaces and the topic is “Self-Love.” You’ve probably noticed my last few posts have been related to self-love, and I have to be honest, my self-love routine has taken a back seat due to my busy schedule this semester. Over the past few weeks, this lack of self care has begun to catch up with me. I’ve been breaking out every week due to stress, illness is creeping up on me and my sleep schedule is out of whack.

Although I love being busy and investing my time into many things, it catches up to you. Sadly, when we get busy I think the first thing we neglect is ourselves. After constantly breaking out and feeling under the weather, I realized it’s time to take care of myself first.

This post could not have come at a better time! I am working on refocusing my attention and taking care of my well-being. Tessa constructed this post and she asked us three questions.

Why is self-love important?

In my opinion, self-love is important because it gives us confidence and makes us happier. When you look up the definition of self-love, you may see synonyms like conceit or narcissism. I find this to be so disheartening. Self-love should not be looked at as a selfish act. Self-love is not about being too into yourself or being selfish; it’s about taking care of your mind, body and spirit. It’s interest in your own well-being, and is that really narcissistic?

Self-love is important to your health, it promotes good energy and a mindful life. Taking care of yourself is crucial to keeping your passions inspired and keeping your vibes positive. Never look at self-love as something negative or selfish. You can still love yourself and spread love to others. Actually, people who are more confident in themselves, are more likely to be kind to others because they are comfortable with themselves. When you are comfortable with who you are, you don’t worry about what others look like or what they think. It’s freeing!

How I promote self-love in my life?

As I mentioned in the beginning of the post, my self-love routine has been a little off lately. But, since I have been feeling this way, I decided to take a step back and focus on myself more. These are a few of the ways that I take care of my mind and body.

  1. Drink tea: Tea is great for many different things; immune system, energy, skin, etc. Drinking tea is healthy & yummy!
  2.  Lavender essential oil: This has been my go-to for everything. I use this on my breakouts, pillowcase (stress reliever) and in my hair (dry scalp). It is the best thing ever!
  3. Taking a run: When I find the time (and the weather is nice), I love to get outside and run. This relieves my stress and boosts my mood.
  4. Getting my nails done: Lately, I have found getting my nails done really helps boost my confidence. It makes me feel pretty and look professional.
  5. Read positive quotes:  I love finding quotes on Pinterest and sharing them with my girl friends.
  6. Sleep: Sleep is so important to me. It keeps me functioning and it’s important to give your mind a rest.
  7. Taking care of my skin: This has been a never ending battle lately, but I always remove all my makeup and wash my face each night. I like to moisturize my face each night too, especially during the winter months.

This isn’t really a bullet point but just a statement on promoting self-love and that is speaking positively about yourself. When you speak negatively about yourself to others and to yourself, it promotes negativity in your life. Never compare yourself and be confident in who you are.

What I love most about myself?

Who I am and where I come from. A lot of people don’t know that I use to be a tomboy growing up; I raced motorcycles, caught gaint frogs and built forts until I was about 13. People see me as a girly girl and all into fashion, which is partly true, but I come from a lot more than just that. I’d like to thing my life as been on the end of a little crazy but nothing to complain about because I believe it has all made me who I am today.

My past has made me work hard for every single one of my goals, it has taught me to have a kind heart but not to take shit from anyone. I always give people second chances, but never a third. Ambition and passionate are words that describe my attitude toward many things in life. I love that I had the opportunity to grow up playing outdoors, doing ballet and racing dirt bikes, it made me tough. So, what I love most about myself is who I am because of my past and what I’ve become because of it.

Everyday and everything is a lesson, what you learn from it is up to you. You can make it negative or you can make it positive, the choice is yours.

I really enjoyed writing this post, especially during this busy time of my life. It’s always nice to remind yourself that self-love is important. Be sure to check out the other girl’s posts too! I will link their blogs below.

Tessa | Simply Tess

Ally | A Touch of Tulle

Paige | Where the Wildflowers Are

Thank you for reading today! Stay tuned for more posts from PYM. I apologize for only posting once a week sometimes, my schedule is insane and I barely have time for homework. Thank you for sticking around and I hope your week is amazing.

Happy Monday.

xo, Lyss