Patience, A Key to Success

Hello Beautiful People,

Patience… If I’m being honest, this is something I lack. I’m always expecting things to happen fast, no time wasted. When in reality, this is not realistic. I’m working on that though. I’ve always believed everything happens for a reason and it will all make sense at some point, but then the whole impatient thing gets in the way.

When something negative happens, I can sometimes react as if it’s the end of the world. Some of this roots from my anxiety, some of it roots from my ambition. Being ambitious and driven is great, but so is being patient. Too many times I get discouraged because something exciting and great isn’t happening right now. I always have an urge to be doing something big.

The past few months have been a roller coaster for me, in all honesty. I try to stay positive and patient but then I’m so easily knocked back to the trenches.

“Ugh, why can’t I shake this feeling!”

The answer is not only in patience but also in perspective. Yes, negative things have happened in my life lately but not everyday has been negative. Also, there are people out there who have it way worse than me. That doesn’t change how I feel, but it can at least change my perspective.

What’s My Point?

My point is that in life, the things we want will not occur over night. We too often look at successful people and think “they’re lucky, they reached success overnight”. When this is far from the truth. Successful people are the ones who have endured the ultimate struggles and challenges in life. They are the ones who have been patient with the process and actually enjoyed the process of growth.

These periods of negativity can get us down, but they also guide us to where we need to go. If life was always perfect and always happening, we would never appreciate the successes. Patience is what teaches us appreciation for not only the successful moments but also the rough moments. The ones that got us to where we are today.

As a college student in my final year, there is more pressure to figure my life out RIGHT NOW than ever before. Yes, I should get an idea of where and who I want to be, but I shouldn’t put so much pressure on myself that it ruins present moments.

I think this is something a lot of college students experience at this time, especially close to the holidays. We all want to be able to tell Aunt Sally about the all jobs we have lined up and the person we are going to marry, but it’s just not realistic. We need patience.

I need patience. I need to calm the F down and realize everything will work out. Although I say I believe “everything happens for a reason”, I still lack patience sometimes.

I may sound like a hypocrite, and you may be wondering why you’re even listening to me. But, here is why:

I get it. I’m in it. I know you’ve been there too! We all get impatient with life from time to time. We want our dream job now, we want to travel now, we want everything NOW. Perhaps this what our generation has come to; we’ve become use to the fact that we can access people and information at any given time. While this is all true, we must stop to realize that life doesn’t work like the internet.

Our dream jobs won’t happen for 10+ years probably, and our travels will be unknown, not planned. If you’re able to achieve any of these goals quickly, good for you. If not, you’re not doing something wrong. Life moves at different paces for everyone. The successes of others do not have to dampen yours, in fact they do not dampen yours at all. Your success is up to you; it’s about the hard work and patience you put in to achieve it.

Back to why you are listening to me, I am seeing this first hand. I see it in myself and I see it in the students I’m around everyday. We all think we have to have it figured out right now. We don’t. Life is short, but it’s also so long. It will go by fast but doors will continue to open for you along the way. Don’t let fear of timing ruin your dreams.

I write this today because I have felt so much anxiety and pressure to have it all figured out this semester, so much so that I have depleted my own creativity and goals. I have seen the stress that impatience has caused me. After meeting new friends and listening to everyones story, I am learning I am not alone in my struggle. I’m learning that no one has it together, not even the professionals.

This worry and fear has only prohibited me from achieving my full happy-self. It’s impacted my health and my sleep patterns. We are energized by our passions. Don’t let stress be the thing to kill that energy. Healthy stress is good, it propels us towards our goals. Anxious, worry stress is not. It ruins our goals.

Stay focused, remain patient and enjoy the process. Do things that make you happy. Spend time with those who lift you up. Network with new people because you want to not because you feel like you have to. Step out of your comfort zone. Visit new cities and explore new talents. Dare I say, experience struggle. These are the things that will teach you patience and strength.

These skills will make you most successful, not more school work or another internship. If you can passionately express your experiences and true self to an employer that will be more beneficial. If you live your life shamelessly and authentically, then you will find peace and happiness. The destination you desire is amazing, but the process is the fun part.

Thank you for reading PYM today. I have started a monthly newsletter from Pretty, Young & Motivated, you can subscribe by sharing your email in the box on the right of the page. This newsletter will contain a round up of monthly posts, blog announcements, positive quotes, books and blogs to read, and more! Lastly, I am working on a huge fashion post, so stay tuned for that.

xo, Lyss

How to Throw Kindness like Confetti

Hello Pretty People:

As I was thinking about what to write next for you guys, I was thinking about the topic of paying it forward and being kind to one another. This topic isn’t unfamiliar on PYM and I don’t expect to change that. In the wake of the recent events in Manchester, I think a post on kindness is needed more than ever. As hate continues to spread through our world, we must push back with more kindness and positivity.

A sad reality of terrorism is that there is no real way to stop attacks because they come unexpectedly. That’s probably the point but we must combat these acts of evil with acts of kindness. As I mentioned, promoting kindness and positivity is not a new concept on my blog but it is time to take it to the next level. I think life is just easier when you are kind to everyone and you are positive about every situation.

So, I decided to share five easy ways to be kind on a daily basis.

5 Ways to be Kind

Compliment (not just appearance):

It’s easy to compliment someone’s appearance, but it’s more meaningful to compliment their character or something they have chosen to be. Rather than commenting on appearance, something they don’t necessarily have control of, compliment their style or their personality. Examples could be “you’re so thoughtful” or “it’s really nice to see you today”. These are slightly different compliments that can really change someone’s day.

Buy someone’s coffee:

As a college student my budget doesn’t always account for this one; but when you are able to, it’s an easy way to brighten someone’s day. It’s always a surprise when someone does this for me, and it usually encourages me to pass on the good vibes to others.

Tell people you are thankful for them:

A lesson we can take from tragic events like the other night is life is too short. It’s hard to grasp that concept that everyday is not promised. On the days you do think of how precious life is, remember to thank those who are close to you. Tell people you are thankful for them. Even if you are at work and someone helps you complete a task, let them know how grateful you are to work with them. It’s nice to know you are wanted and your efforts are noticed.

Share your favorite positive quote:

I love finding positive quotes on Pinterest and sharing them with my friends and family. I love the inspirational and motivational power that a quote can have. It’s always nice when friends share quotes with me too because I feel like they always come at the best times. It’s hard to constantly motivate and inspire yourself. This is why it feels good to have that support from friends and family.

Say “I love you”:

In life, we are constantly searching for love and acceptance from others, whether we would like to admit it or not. It is what we were rewarded with as kids and as we grow up we continue to seek that love. Don’t pass up a chance to say “I love you” to the people who may need to hear it. Everyday we all struggle to be the best person we can be in hopes we will be recognized by the ones we love. Don’t miss your chance to share the love and let someone know how special they are to you. Don’t be so afraid of love.

These are just some of my favorite ways to spread a little kindness to the people around me. Being kind isn’t too hard, and when you are kind to others they tend to keep the kindness ball rolling.

Although there may be hate in our world, I challenge you to fight it with kindness. I challenge you to implement one of these things above and see how many people’s days you can brighten by doing so.

Throw kindness like confetti.

xo, Lyss

*My heart goes out to those impacted by the Manchester attack. I understand the tragedy of this event and I would never wish it upon my worst enemy.

 

Be Kind to One Another

Hello Pretty People,

Today I want to just make a quick post about the importance of being kind to one another. This topic has kind of been on my mind a lot lately, and I did not properly prepare another post for today, so this is what I am choosing to write about. I also apologize for not posting on Thursday, it has been a busy time for me and I never want to post just to post. I only have 3 weeks left in my semester, therefore I will be insanely busy but I will continue to post when possible. Thank you for being understanding and let’s jump into today’s topic:

Everyday people go through things that no one has a clue about. You may be surrounded by a bunch of friends and family but that doesn’t mean they know all the battles going on in your mind. This time of the year is difficult for some people, not everyone has a significant other or a family to surround themselves with. It’s important for us to remember this when we are interacting with people.

Mental illness is not something people share openly with others, they are often hidden behind smiles and laughter. Depression and anxiety are two that I can relate with; I feel like I have never been severely impacted by them but enough to understand the mental state of others who are affected by them. You can be completely “happy” with your life, but the moment you are alone a war breaks out in your mind. Anxiety is this game of questions: Did I finish this? Did I do that? Is she mad at me? What is wrong with me? It’s this constant feeling of high stress. Depression is more of an exhausted state, you can run 50 miles or sleep all day and still feel the same exhaustion. It also can be compared to drowning, you feel nothing and you are just quiet. These are only my interpretations, they are not fact.

People think these illnesses are a joke or not a big deal. For you, this may be true but for others it is a daily battle. This is why being kind is important. So, before you cause a ruckus in someone else’s life, make sure you are aware of the battles they might be fighting within.

Another factor is where people come from. There is so much we do not know about the individuals around us. We do not know where they come from or what they value. They may have an ill family member or maybe their parents just got divorced. These are other things that many people do not openly share, and you must keep in mind that you don’t know the battles they may be fighting at home.

There is a lot of crazy things going on in the world, from the election madness to the Ohio State shooting that took place today, there is plenty of hate to be spread. Why not spread some kindness? The world could always use more kindness, even if that just means smiling at a stranger. You never know what a smile could do to that person’s day. It’s easy to get wrapped up in the negativity, but combat the negativity with positive vibes. I probably sound like some crazy hippy over here, but it is honestly the best way to bring more happiness into the world around you.

Ellen Degeneres ends every show with the statement “be kind to one another” and I think that is such a simple and important message to the world. It’s easy to throw the blame on someone else or act in anger, but before you do, step back and try to see life from the other person’s perspective. It may look like rainbows and butterflies on the surface, but underneath there could be so much more. Life is a tough crowd, just be kind and spread love, and you will get through it.

The holidays are a beautiful time to spread love and kindness, but some people struggle through this time of the year. Just keep that in mind! I hope this post was interesting and helpful. If you liked this post, be sure to share it with others. Thank you for reading PYM today!

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Happy Monday.

xo, Lyss

*Side note: If you are battling mental illness or have thoughts of suicide you should reach out to someone. There are people who will help you fight this battle. You are not alone!