Patience, A Key to Success

Hello Beautiful People,

Patience… If I’m being honest, this is something I lack. I’m always expecting things to happen fast, no time wasted. When in reality, this is not realistic. I’m working on that though. I’ve always believed everything happens for a reason and it will all make sense at some point, but then the whole impatient thing gets in the way.

When something negative happens, I can sometimes react as if it’s the end of the world. Some of this roots from my anxiety, some of it roots from my ambition. Being ambitious and driven is great, but so is being patient. Too many times I get discouraged because something exciting and great isn’t happening right now. I always have an urge to be doing something big.

The past few months have been a roller coaster for me, in all honesty. I try to stay positive and patient but then I’m so easily knocked back to the trenches.

“Ugh, why can’t I shake this feeling!”

The answer is not only in patience but also in perspective. Yes, negative things have happened in my life lately but not everyday has been negative. Also, there are people out there who have it way worse than me. That doesn’t change how I feel, but it can at least change my perspective.

What’s My Point?

My point is that in life, the things we want will not occur over night. We too often look at successful people and think “they’re lucky, they reached success overnight”. When this is far from the truth. Successful people are the ones who have endured the ultimate struggles and challenges in life. They are the ones who have been patient with the process and actually enjoyed the process of growth.

These periods of negativity can get us down, but they also guide us to where we need to go. If life was always perfect and always happening, we would never appreciate the successes. Patience is what teaches us appreciation for not only the successful moments but also the rough moments. The ones that got us to where we are today.

As a college student in my final year, there is more pressure to figure my life out RIGHT NOW than ever before. Yes, I should get an idea of where and who I want to be, but I shouldn’t put so much pressure on myself that it ruins present moments.

I think this is something a lot of college students experience at this time, especially close to the holidays. We all want to be able to tell Aunt Sally about the all jobs we have lined up and the person we are going to marry, but it’s just not realistic. We need patience.

I need patience. I need to calm the F down and realize everything will work out. Although I say I believe “everything happens for a reason”, I still lack patience sometimes.

I may sound like a hypocrite, and you may be wondering why you’re even listening to me. But, here is why:

I get it. I’m in it. I know you’ve been there too! We all get impatient with life from time to time. We want our dream job now, we want to travel now, we want everything NOW. Perhaps this what our generation has come to; we’ve become use to the fact that we can access people and information at any given time. While this is all true, we must stop to realize that life doesn’t work like the internet.

Our dream jobs won’t happen for 10+ years probably, and our travels will be unknown, not planned. If you’re able to achieve any of these goals quickly, good for you. If not, you’re not doing something wrong. Life moves at different paces for everyone. The successes of others do not have to dampen yours, in fact they do not dampen yours at all. Your success is up to you; it’s about the hard work and patience you put in to achieve it.

Back to why you are listening to me, I am seeing this first hand. I see it in myself and I see it in the students I’m around everyday. We all think we have to have it figured out right now. We don’t. Life is short, but it’s also so long. It will go by fast but doors will continue to open for you along the way. Don’t let fear of timing ruin your dreams.

I write this today because I have felt so much anxiety and pressure to have it all figured out this semester, so much so that I have depleted my own creativity and goals. I have seen the stress that impatience has caused me. After meeting new friends and listening to everyones story, I am learning I am not alone in my struggle. I’m learning that no one has it together, not even the professionals.

This worry and fear has only prohibited me from achieving my full happy-self. It’s impacted my health and my sleep patterns. We are energized by our passions. Don’t let stress be the thing to kill that energy. Healthy stress is good, it propels us towards our goals. Anxious, worry stress is not. It ruins our goals.

Stay focused, remain patient and enjoy the process. Do things that make you happy. Spend time with those who lift you up. Network with new people because you want to not because you feel like you have to. Step out of your comfort zone. Visit new cities and explore new talents. Dare I say, experience struggle. These are the things that will teach you patience and strength.

These skills will make you most successful, not more school work or another internship. If you can passionately express your experiences and true self to an employer that will be more beneficial. If you live your life shamelessly and authentically, then you will find peace and happiness. The destination you desire is amazing, but the process is the fun part.

Thank you for reading PYM today. I have started a monthly newsletter from Pretty, Young & Motivated, you can subscribe by sharing your email in the box on the right of the page. This newsletter will contain a round up of monthly posts, blog announcements, positive quotes, books and blogs to read, and more! Lastly, I am working on a huge fashion post, so stay tuned for that.

xo, Lyss

5 Steps to Improve Your Mental Health

Hello Darlings,

Physical health is super important to living a happy and healthy life, which I’ve mentioned before. Almost more important than physical health though is mental health. You should have a healthy balance of both, but I think we too often forget about taking care of ourselves mentally.

A friend shared something with me yesterday that really stood out to me. It was a list of things this girl (from social media or another blog) did in the last year to improve her own mental health. After reading through it, I was inspired to share some of her ideas and some of my own. Once again, I think mental health is too often swept under the rug. It’s a real thing and it’s real important.

As someone who struggles with anxiety on a daily basis, it can be difficult to take a step back and take time to recharge. Being anxious is mentally exhausting, your mind just goes and you can’t just snap your fingers to stop it. It picks apart every detail of every situation, it’s like an argument with myself in my own head, if that makes any sense.

Sharing these ways to improve mental health is not only important to me but it should be important to you too, even if you do not struggle with a mental illness. Being proactive and mentally sharp is always great.

Realize Your Worth

This one can be a tough one, and it should not be. It’s tough because we tend to be very self critical. It’s okay to learn from your mistakes and know where you can improve, but it should never diminish your self-worth. You must be confident and know what you are worth not only to others but to yourself.

This is also like having self-respect. Know what you deserve and know when it’s time to walk away from something. You are worth so much and you deserve to be treated that way. Be aware of yourself, improve and make changes but never say sorry for who you are. Practicing this and avoiding extreme self-criticism will be step number one towards improving your mental health.

Take Care of Yourself

I read something recently that said “self-love isn’t just face masks and bubble baths.” And I thought this was so true. Although those things can be part of your self-care routine, they are not necessarily “self-love”. Taking care of yourself means allowing time to do things you want, giving yourself grace when things don’t work out and exercising your mind in a positive way to combat stress and anxious feelings.

Self-love and self-care means becoming mentally strong, becoming aware of your flaws and accepting them and working on your strengths and weaknesses. Self-love is recognizing your worth, building your own confidence and putting yourself first when needed. All of this comes by taking proper care of yourself. It’s okay to stay in on Friday night, if you need to. It’s okay to take a day to yourself or not respond to texts. You don’t owe anyone anything, your overall health is most important.

Cut Out Any Negativity

It’s okay to cut negative relationships, groups, thoughts and whatever else out of your life. Think of your mind as a garden; do you want lots of weeds strangling and preventing beautiful flowers to grow or do you want a colorful, lively garden? The weeds in your mental garden are the negative things. Don’t be afraid to be your own gardener and nourish your garden.

We get scared to walk away from things because they are comfortable, but you should not allow something to stay in your life if it is not positively impacting you. Allow yourself to let go of negativity and move on.

Learn to Take a Step Back

It’s easy to react quickly to certain actions or situations, but know when to take a step back. If you are someone who battles with anxiety or a similar mental illness, it can be easy to jump to conclusions and react in an extreme way. Make it a habit to allow yourself time to step back, analyze the situation appropriately (not overthink) and return to the problem/situation with a clear perspective.

This is a tip anyone can use in stressful or overwhelming situations. Humans can react rashly in high stress or high emotional situations. Learning to take breath and approach problems with a clear head will most likely make life run smoother. I know, personally, that anxiety can make my whole body shake and sweat. I kind of clam up. Therefore, stepping back for me also means taking time to calm down and just breathe. I’m a busy student and some days my anxiety overcomes me, which makes me have to take a step back.

Listen to Your Body

You’ve heard this one before on my blog but it covers a lot of ground. First, you should listen to your body in the sense of diet. Feeding your body with nutrients and proper portions allows you to have maximum energy and brain function. Really fresh food is wonderful. Water is also highly important to a healthy, functioning body.

Beyond what you are putting in your body, listening to your body also means getting enough sleep and relaxing when needed. It can also mean taking a hot shower or bath. It can be exercising to relieve stress. Whatever it may be, always be aware of your body’s needs. This is one that I continue to work on everyday. It doesn’t happen over night but it is a process of learning how your body is currently reacting to your routine compared to when you make healthy changes.

Your body is really your machine; treat it with care and show it some love.


These five things really resonated with me and they are things I continue to work on myself. I wanted to curate a list of my own. You can do the same, take my list and reinvent it for yourself.

I’ll say it again: mental health should not be forgotten about, it should be understood and taken care of. Mental health is important for everyone, whether you struggle with an illness or not, being mentally resilient is key.

Thank you for reading PYM. I appreciate you making it part of your day, and I hope to see you again soon.

xo, Lyss

10 Affirmations for Monday

Hello Cuties,

I hope you all had a weekend filled with fun and relaxation. Monday is here, and that means a whole new week to accomplish your goals. Mondays can be long, but they also can be super productive!

As time ticks on, the pressure to start looking for jobs post graduation weighs on my mind. I’m sitting here saying, “what do I wanna be when I grow up?” By this time next year, I will be off into the real world, hopefully doing something I’m passionate about. But, right now, this pressure is causing me some anxiety. I’m too concerned with planning every moment, rather than just riding the waves.

I think a lot of students experience this pressure as they inch closer to graduation. It’s totally normal. I’ve been so busy with school stuff that I couldn’t even create a post last week. It’s killing my creative vibes. So, here I sit wondering what I should share with all of you. I decided to share affirmations. Not only for your use, but for mine also.

Monday is the start of a fresh week. A week you have complete control of. If you are student, take a deep breath and read the affirmations below. If you’re not in school, these still apply. Understand that whatever you are working toward, or even struggling through, will all work out.

10 Affirmations for Monday

I am enough.

I give up freely what is no longer serving me, I release it to make space for what inspires me.

I am creating a life of passion and purpose.

I am worthy of greatness.

I choose to be happy.

Today, I will take one step closer to my goals.

My creativity is a true expression of who I am.

My dreams are much greater than my fears.

All of my problems have a solution.

I am confident.

Ahhh…do you feel ready to tackle the week now?

You can write these affirmations down and read them off as needed. You can also write them on sticky notes and spread them around your home or office. Whatever it takes to keep you inspired and determined.

I understand more than anyone what it’s like to worry too much about the future. But, reading affirmations and quotes like these, calms my soul. Although I love a plan, I do truly believe in every thing working out. In the moment, it can be difficult to understand this but once you are able to take a step back you will see everything is okay. Tackle the big things first, then move through the small ones.

We all feel the pressure of life from time to time. Just don’t forget to breath and see the positives. Trust the process.

Thank you for reading Pretty, Young & Motivated. Make every action intentional this week!

xo, Lyss

 

Women Empowering Women

Hello Pretty People,

The other morning I attended a Women’s Leadership breakfast where a panel of accomplished women spoke on various topics. It was a very inspiring talk and it really resonated with me. The way these women took on difficult challenges to get in the positions they are in today was completely motivating.

As I listened and discussed with the women around me, I immediately thought of Pretty, Young & Motivated. I created this blog to empower other women. I want my writing to be a tool for you. A place you come when you need to be inspired and motivated. My passion is inspiring other women to realize their full potential.

During this breakfast, we discussed what leadership means to each of us. I think being a leader means you chose to be vulnerable. To be a leader, you must be willing to take the first step, even when it’s scary or uncomfortable. Leaders are the people who make everyone else comfortable. Leaders set examples, they are role models for a group or community. Leaders also empower others. They do not compete and they do not judge.

Real Talk

Ladies…I know we tend to be a little judgmental from time to time. Our society has taught us to compete with one another rather than empower each other. I know we feel like we have to compete with each other but guess what? If another female accomplishes something, that does not mean you cannot do the same. It may just not be the right timing for you. If you see a beautiful girl, that does not lessen your beauty.

Flowers are beautiful, but so are sunsets and they are nothing alike. 

Remember this. Flowers don’t stop growing just because the flower next to them is taller. Everyone is on their own journey and we all will experience different things in life.

The Point

Don’t compete with other women. You are still great. We are all great in our own ways. At this point of time, women need to stand together. As we move into the future, we are filling more leadership roles and defying traditions. Be who you want to be and take what is yours. Competing with other women will not benefit you or them. It really just defeats the process of creating more opportunities for women.

We rise together!

Females are strong, beautiful creatures. We are passionate and we listen to our hearts. Although this can be seen as sensitive by some, I believe following your heart creates more intentional actions. Passion will create more than plans ever will.

So, take initiative to be a leader for those around you. Men and women. Stand up for what you believe in. Women have enough critics, so offer compliments instead. Compliment their strength or bravery. Focus on the qualities of people. If we respect one another, it will set an example for others to do the same.

As females, it’s our job to stand up for one another. Together we are stronger.

xo, Lyss

21 Ways to Show Self-Love

Hello Happy Souls,

Yesterday was my 21st birthday, and it was such an amazing birthday weekend. I’m so thankful for the people around me and for all the warm regards I received. My heart is so full! I’m looking forward to what this year brings.

I didn’t really have too much time to just sit down and write a post for you all this weekend, but I had to share something with my lovely readers. To celebrate my birthday, I wanted to share a list of self-love tips that I think are super important, even if it’s not your b-day. Birthdays are fun, hey? You get a day of royal treatment and it leaves you feeling great. Why not live everyday feeling like a queen!?

21 ways to show some self-love:

  1. Smile. It helps, even if you are feeling down.
  2. Eat well. Fill your body with good energy boosting foods.
  3. Accept who you are. Don’t try to be anyone else, just love who you are.
  4. Drink water. Take care of your health + skin with a few cups of H2O.
  5. Understand you are enough. No matter how others perceive you, you’re amazing.
  6. Use essential oils. Lavender is my favorite to use for calming.
  7. Write yourself positive notes. I keep these in my agenda + on my mirror.
  8. Surround yourself with happy people. Happy people = Positive vibes
  9. Journal your feelings. Sometimes it feels good to write it out.
  10. Take a bath. Light a candle + just relax your soul.
  11. Celebrate small wins. Everything counts, the small wins add up to big wins in the end.
  12. Be patient. Everything will work out, just wait.
  13. Do something you love. Spend time on things that bring you joy.
  14. Exercise. Get active, it helps relieve stress and release endorphins.
  15. Make time for yourself. It’s important to spend time with yourself.
  16. Don’t compare. This is a game you’ll never win.
  17. Buy yourself a fancy drink. A smoothie, a pressed-juice, a latte, anything!
  18. Find your happy place. A place you can be yourself and clear your head.
  19. Let go of negativity. It only holds you back from greatness.
  20. Find something to be grateful for. Everyday.
  21. Forgive yourself. Don’t hold on to bad feelings, move on.

I hope these small tips remind you that everyday should feel like your birthday. You are amazing and important. Taking care of yourself is imperative to living a happy and healthy life. If you cannot love yourself, it will be hard for others to love you too.

Everyone is different. We see the world differently, we see beauty differently. So, why hold our own standards to those of society? We’re all just making it through our own life, worry less about trying to please others and more about doing things that brings you happiness. People and opportunities will fall into place once you allow yourself to live to your full potential.

It’s a new week to be great. Happy Monday!

xo, Lyss