5 Steps to Improve Your Mental Health

Hello Darlings,

Physical health is super important to living a happy and healthy life, which I’ve mentioned before. Almost more important than physical health though is mental health. You should have a healthy balance of both, but I think we too often forget about taking care of ourselves mentally.

A friend shared something with me yesterday that really stood out to me. It was a list of things this girl (from social media or another blog) did in the last year to improve her own mental health. After reading through it, I was inspired to share some of her ideas and some of my own. Once again, I think mental health is too often swept under the rug. It’s a real thing and it’s real important.

As someone who struggles with anxiety on a daily basis, it can be difficult to take a step back and take time to recharge. Being anxious is mentally exhausting, your mind just goes and you can’t just snap your fingers to stop it. It picks apart every detail of every situation, it’s like an argument with myself in my own head, if that makes any sense.

Sharing these ways to improve mental health is not only important to me but it should be important to you too, even if you do not struggle with a mental illness. Being proactive and mentally sharp is always great.

Realize Your Worth

This one can be a tough one, and it should not be. It’s tough because we tend to be very self critical. It’s okay to learn from your mistakes and know where you can improve, but it should never diminish your self-worth. You must be confident and know what you are worth not only to others but to yourself.

This is also like having self-respect. Know what you deserve and know when it’s time to walk away from something. You are worth so much and you deserve to be treated that way. Be aware of yourself, improve and make changes but never say sorry for who you are. Practicing this and avoiding extreme self-criticism will be step number one towards improving your mental health.

Take Care of Yourself

I read something recently that said “self-love isn’t just face masks and bubble baths.” And I thought this was so true. Although those things can be part of your self-care routine, they are not necessarily “self-love”. Taking care of yourself means allowing time to do things you want, giving yourself grace when things don’t work out and exercising your mind in a positive way to combat stress and anxious feelings.

Self-love and self-care means becoming mentally strong, becoming aware of your flaws and accepting them and working on your strengths and weaknesses. Self-love is recognizing your worth, building your own confidence and putting yourself first when needed. All of this comes by taking proper care of yourself. It’s okay to stay in on Friday night, if you need to. It’s okay to take a day to yourself or not respond to texts. You don’t owe anyone anything, your overall health is most important.

Cut Out Any Negativity

It’s okay to cut negative relationships, groups, thoughts and whatever else out of your life. Think of your mind as a garden; do you want lots of weeds strangling and preventing beautiful flowers to grow or do you want a colorful, lively garden? The weeds in your mental garden are the negative things. Don’t be afraid to be your own gardener and nourish your garden.

We get scared to walk away from things because they are comfortable, but you should not allow something to stay in your life if it is not positively impacting you. Allow yourself to let go of negativity and move on.

Learn to Take a Step Back

It’s easy to react quickly to certain actions or situations, but know when to take a step back. If you are someone who battles with anxiety or a similar mental illness, it can be easy to jump to conclusions and react in an extreme way. Make it a habit to allow yourself time to step back, analyze the situation appropriately (not overthink) and return to the problem/situation with a clear perspective.

This is a tip anyone can use in stressful or overwhelming situations. Humans can react rashly in high stress or high emotional situations. Learning to take breath and approach problems with a clear head will most likely make life run smoother. I know, personally, that anxiety can make my whole body shake and sweat. I kind of clam up. Therefore, stepping back for me also means taking time to calm down and just breathe. I’m a busy student and some days my anxiety overcomes me, which makes me have to take a step back.

Listen to Your Body

You’ve heard this one before on my blog but it covers a lot of ground. First, you should listen to your body in the sense of diet. Feeding your body with nutrients and proper portions allows you to have maximum energy and brain function. Really fresh food is wonderful. Water is also highly important to a healthy, functioning body.

Beyond what you are putting in your body, listening to your body also means getting enough sleep and relaxing when needed. It can also mean taking a hot shower or bath. It can be exercising to relieve stress. Whatever it may be, always be aware of your body’s needs. This is one that I continue to work on everyday. It doesn’t happen over night but it is a process of learning how your body is currently reacting to your routine compared to when you make healthy changes.

Your body is really your machine; treat it with care and show it some love.


These five things really resonated with me and they are things I continue to work on myself. I wanted to curate a list of my own. You can do the same, take my list and reinvent it for yourself.

I’ll say it again: mental health should not be forgotten about, it should be understood and taken care of. Mental health is important for everyone, whether you struggle with an illness or not, being mentally resilient is key.

Thank you for reading PYM. I appreciate you making it part of your day, and I hope to see you again soon.

xo, Lyss

How to Get Motivated to Workout

Hello Babes,

Over the past few months, I have had little to no motivation to workout since my schedule was so busy. I think this low motivation mindset is very easy to fall into when life picks up and we get distracted from ourselves. I know how much of a struggle it can be to dig deep and find the urge to workout. What’s the point, right?

Well, over the past two weeks I have finally been getting back into the swing of things and I am feeling 110% better. I feel like my mood has been elevated, I am able to relieve my daily stress and my digestion has been better too. Obviously it’s only been a week, so there are no major changes yet but I already notice the difference in the way my body feels.

My 4 tips for finding motivation to workout

Find a workout that works: When you are beginning to workout again it can be hard to find which workouts work for your body. The best way to learn is by trying many different types of workouts. I was a cheerleader for almost 9 years, and after quitting, it took me some time to figure out what worked for me. I have found that variations within my workout really worked for me, things like resistance training has been the most beneficial for me. When I am using my own body in a workout rather than machines, I feel more accomplished in my workouts.

Start small: It’s hard to just jump right into intense workouts, so start small and then work your way up. Starting small can refer back to the first tip, which is finding what works for you. Do your research and learn what would work best for your body and lifestyle.

Find inspiration: When you are stuck in a rut and do not want to workout, it’s best to find a reason to start again. Whether this is finding a role model that inspires you and motivates you or if it’s simply finding a valid reason to just do it. For me, I was inspired by Sarah’s Day on YouTube because she talked about her personal issues prior to getting healthy and fit, things such as acne and digestion, which related to the problems I was having. This made me think maybe adding a workout into my daily schedule may help.

Do it for yourself: If you cannot find a good enough reason to start, then just do it for yourself. Working out for even 15 minutes a day will boost your mood and improve digestion. It can also help you get better sleep. No matter what, adding a little sweat to your day can improve so much. Get inspired and get motivated!

These are just a few things that have motivated me to jump back into working out. So far, I am feeling amazing and I’m so glad I found motivation to start again. I just started my own fitness journey, so I understand the struggle of starting again. As long as you find a purpose for it in your life, you will succeed. Never push yourself to workout if it does not feel right or you’re doing it just to please others. You must workout for yourself or you will never be pleased with the results.

I’m so happy that you decided to stop by PYM and read this post today. I hope it can help you find that fire from within to start doing what’s best for your body. If you want specific posts from me, feel free to suggest in the comments or via email. I would love to chat with you and hear your thoughts.

Find your motivation!

xo, Lyss

 

 

8 Things You Should Stop Doing Right Now

Hello Cuties,

Ever feel like things aren’t going your way? Do you ever throw yourself a pity party? Well, trust me, I know how that goes. Sometimes we just get in a funk, and it feels like nothing good is coming our way. This is common towards the end of the semester as we begin to approach summer. Lately, I have realized a lot of negativity running through my life. As we know, the way we think can impact our surroundings; and honestly, I have been throwing a pity party for myself these days.

Well, after some thought and a few inspirational quotes, I decided to figure out what my problem was. Why am I feeling like this? So, I created a list of things I am going to stop doing and stop allowing to take up mental space. I thought I would share this list with you as well:

  1. Stop comparing: This is number one for a reason. Stop comparing yourself to others, you are not them and they are not you. You cannot expect to be in their place when you do not even know the challenges they may have had to go through to get there. Everyone has a story that shapes them, wishing to be someone else won’t make things better, it will just inhibit you from achieving your own goals. Sure, look up to people and gather ideas on how you will make the most of your life, but don’t compare your chapter 1 to someone else chapter 15.
  2. Stop worrying about what’s next: I am the worst at this one, it’s always about what’s next. What about right now? Why not live for now and let life work on its own. Yes, make goals and plans but if they fail to turn out, don’t give up. Everything will work out how it’s supposed to, so don’t create unnecessary worry in your mind.
  3. Stop negative thoughts: Easier said than done. Block out all negative thoughts and people. Negativity only creates a toxic environment for you. Life is a little bit easier when you are positive, good things start to come your way and people can’t hate someone who is always positive. Your positivity will start to spread to others as well!
  4. Stop being selfish: Now this does not mean neglect self-love, y’all know I am a proud supporter of self-love. Stop being selfish means stop only thinking about yourself in your relationships. Friendship is made up of give and take, when you think about the people you interact with, think about what they may want. This includes friends, family and even strangers. Understand where they may be coming from and be supportive.
  5. Stop giving up: Stop giving up on things that don’t work out on the first try. I know how easy it may be to give up and move on, but if something is important to you, you shouldn’t give up on it. Things won’t always work out on the first try. The path to success is not straight, so you must anticipate a few challenges before you reach your goals. Don’t give up yet!
  6. Stop hating your body: I know you may not be where you’d like to be with your “body goals” but stop degrading yourself. Take care of yourself and be healthy, but don’t be ashamed of your shape. Everyone is given a different body, relating back to number one, don’t compare your look to someone else’s. Just love yourself and be proud of the skin you’re in.
  7. Stop wasting your time: Stop wasting your time on things that don’t matter. It is easy to get carried away on a Netflix binge or caught up on pointless drama, but stop spending your time on things that don’t benefit you or make you happy. Life is too short to waste time on things that aren’t making you happy.
  8. Stop making an excuse: Every day we wake up, we have the option to live life to the fullest that day or just go through the motions. When you make excuses, you are prohibiting yourself from greatness. You cannot grow or become the person you want if you continue to make excuses for yourself. Don’t make excuses, make moves!

Life is too short to be wasting your precious time on silly things, focus more on the good and less on what’s not working. Working on stopping some of these actions will not only give you peace of mind, but it will also free up some mental space for positive and happy thoughts. Don’t let these things hold you back from greatness. You must seize every day and learn to let the little things go.

This list is just one I came up with on my own, but you should think about creating one for yourself. I made this list based off my current life, so maybe creating your own can give you a better perspective of where you want to be. Before I made this list, I made a list of my short term goals, then I thought about how I would go about achieving them and what I had to stop doing in order to do so.

Thank you all so much for reading today’s post! Please share this with your friends and family. You can subscribe on the right side of the page to receive updates on my posts. It is Monday and it is a new week, so wake up and kick ass. If you’re a student, 3-4 more weeks left in this semester…YOU CAN DO IT!

Happy Monday!

xo, Lyss

 

Fall Favorites

Hello Beautiful People,

We are right at the peak of the Fall season and I thought it would be fun to do a little run down of some of my favorite things from this season; such as my fashion faves and my favorite playlist. I find this post to be especially fitting for the weather here in Michigan today, it’s a breezy Fall day & I’m just over here wrapped in a blanket writing this post. So let’s get started:

Favorite Fall Fashion Pieces:

  1. Adidas Originals: These have been my all time favorite casual shoes this season, they match almost any outfit.
  2. TOM Suede Wedges: These are another one of my favorite shoes for the Fall season. They are a great way to spice up any outfit and give it a “Fall” feel.
  3. American Eagle Boyfriend Jeans-This is just my favorite brand of jeans, but a pair of distressed boyfriend jeans are one of my favorite garments for the Fall.
  4. Blanket Scarf: Must I say more? (I did not add a link because you can find these almost anywhere)
  5. Kate Spade Tote: Kate Spade always has the best selection of simple and elegant totes, this is the perfect place to find your Fall hangbag. I received a satchel for my birthday from Kate and I love everything about it.

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Favorite Playlist:

These songs have been on constant replay for me the past couple of weeks, and yes, I added some throwbacks in the mix. I love old songs!

Favorite Reads:

  1. Vogue October Issue
  2. Vogue November Issue
  3. Paris Street Style: A Guide to Effortless Chic
  4. Kinfolk Magazine
  5. Pretty Happy-Kate Hudson

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These are just a few of the books/magazines I have been reading through this Fall. This is where I find a lot of my inspiration for blog posts, outfits and room decor. I love to draw inspiration from Fashion magazines and incorporate it into my own style. I also subscribed to Vogue this Fall and that was a great decision, I love receiving the new issue every month in the mail.

Other Favorites:

  1. LUSH Cup O’Coffee Face Mask: My love for coffee continues into my beauty products, big fan of this face mask! It not only has little coffee beans in it to exfoliate your skin but the caffeine really wakes up your skin.
  2. The Sparrows Coffee & Newsstand: I enjoy visiting various cafe’s in the Grand Rapids area and this has been one of my favorite finds this Fall. I went one time last year but I have found myself there more this season.
  3. Rimmel London Lipstick: I get the color “Tower of Mauve” (240), this is my first lip color for the Fall. It’s like an amber/brown color.
  4. Becca Highlight & Blush: My best friend got me this as a gift for my birthday & I love it so much. It’s the perfect color combo for Fall, and any occasion really. Shout out to Danielle.
  5. Victoria’s Secret Tease Perfume

Thank you all for reading this short little favorites post! I would love to hear what your favorite things have been this season in the comments below or on social media. Check out Pretty, Young & Motivated on Instagram & Twitter for daily inspiration and updates on posts. Don’t forget to subscribe too! I hope you all have a fantastic Monday and a week filled with greatness, Happy Monday.

New Week, New Goals.

xo, Lyss