Are You Busy or Productive?

Hello Happy Souls,

As the end of the semester nears, I can’t help but feel a little pressure and stress. Deadlines are approaching and time is ticking. For some, graduation is only a few weeks away. Although these times are very exciting, they can be very exhausting as well. I’ve noticed myself feeling mentally exhausted, and sometimes physically fatigued as well.

I’m learning that some of this exhaustion comes from my anxiety and thinking way too much. But, I’m also seeing that I feel overwhelmingly “busy”. I cannot seem to balance things, why is it so tough?

Well, there is a difference between being busy and being productive. There are many times when we become stressed out because we are overwhelmed with things. Some things that should not stress us out. Things that are not benefiting us or adding value to our lives. Things that are stressful and annoying to us. This is being busy. Busy is unhealthy.

Being productive means you move with intention. Each of your actions throughout the day are intentional. You are mindful of what you are doing and you are present in the moment. Plan your day but allow yourself to go with the flow. You are able accomplish big and small tasks. This is productive.

Can you think of where this relates in your own life? Ask yourself, are you busy or productive?

I know that I have been way more busy than productive lately. It has killed my creativity, slowed my motivation and spiked my anxiety. Being productive makes your day feel more accomplished and valuable.

I’ve started to attend a yoga class to help lower my stress and combat my anxious feelings. During one of the classes, the instructor said something that really resonated with me. She was talking about how so many people say they do not partake in yoga because they don’t have the time. This made me recall all the times I have said I don’t have time for things like exercise, yoga or meditation. Then, she said that after they started the practice (yoga), they found they were actually wasting a lot of their time watching Netflix or being on social media.

This made me step back from what I was doing with my life to evaluate what things that are heavy and wasting my time versus what things are adding value to my life and bringing me joy. I quickly realized that I do not have time for things that bring me stress. Of course there will always be day-to-day, unavoidable life stressors, but any extra stress must be removed.

For me, personally, stress only negatively impacts my health and mental state. It makes me very overwhelmed; therefore, I must do things that are meaningful and intentional or I become busy.

Once again, there are going to be stresses in life we cannot stop from happening, however, removing the ones we can control only creates more room for positivity. This is my point. You can choose to be busy with tasks that stress you out or you can choose to be productive with tasks that motivate you.

My Challenge for You:

If you are reading this post today, I challenge you to make a list of you daily activities. Anything from Netflix bingeing to reading a book. Then, examine what items on your list may be bringing negative stress in to your life.

  • Can you remove something?
  • Is there something you’ve been wanting to do but haven’t had the “time”?
  • Are you motivated to finish your current to-do list?
  • Are you making time for yourself?

These are just a few of the things I have asked myself lately. These questions have made me understand my current situation and where I need some auditing in my routine. I’ve been wanting to start yoga and meditation for over 3 years now, and now I’ve finally started. I dropped the BS and figured out what was needed in my life.

Challenge yourself to start something new, and do it for yourself. Try something that scares you! It’s okay to let go of anything that no longer suits you. Remove negative stress and add more positive stuff. Understand that this is your life and it’s yours to make. Tomorrow is not promised, so why live in the future. I am learning that living in a future mindset creates anxiety and stress. Enjoy the present moments of your life. Start making decisions for yourself and start doing the things you want.

I hope you can realize some of your own stressors after reading this post and begin thinking about where you could make changes. Thank you for reading PYM. Stay on the look out for the December newsletter coming out next week. If you want to subscribe, you can do so on the right of this page.

xo, Lyss

I’m Anxious Right Now

Hello Beautiful People,

I wanted to have an honest moment with all of you. Many of you may know that I struggle with anxiety from time to time. I have talked about this in more recent posts, but I thought I would be 100% real with you today.

Right now at this very moment, I am anxious.

Why you may ask?

That’s the problem with anxiety, you can’t always define the cause. Sometimes I am able to figure out where it is rooting from but most of the time it is unknown. That’s why it kind of makes one feel crazy. Anxiety gets under your skin, you feel it in your gut. It’s like being nervous about nothing.

It’s caring too much and it’s thinking too much.

You fear things that aren’t even happening. For example, right now I am feeling like people are annoyed with me; like they don’t want to be around me. So naturally, I am pushing away people that are close to me. I don’t want to be annoying and bothersome. My anxiety can take over and cause me to overthink even the smallest things. And that’s what is happening currently.

It’s wanting to fix something that’s not even a problem yet.

You feel alone, even when you’re not. You push people away (accidentally) because you’re scared of getting hurt. When in reality, nobody is leaving you. It’s all in your head. People ask what’s wrong and you can’t explain it because it doesn’t even make sense in your own head.

That’s anxiety.

Most of the time I wish I did’t have to deal with this monster in my head but let me tell you a few things that anxiety has done for me.

Anxiety has made me love more deeply. I invest myself completely into a person because I think about every little thing. I don’t like conflict, so I do my best to make everyone happy and I always consider other peoples feelings. Sometimes before my own.

Anxiety has made me a planner. This is one of those things that can go both ways. In some sense, you don’t want to over plan and ruin the moment. But, planning has made me the driven, ambitious person I am today. Since I do think about every aspect,  I am able to formulate a plan to accommodate many outcomes. Downfall of this trait is unmet expectations cause disappointment. You win some and lose some!

Anxiety has motivated me in many ways. At times, it can take over my mood and cause me to be in a real funk. But, the next day I have the option to make it a great day or let anxiety win. It all around has made me a stronger person.

Anxiety makes me stronger inside because it forces me to be completely self-aware at all times.

Anxiety allows me to read others very well. That is a gift of anxiety, I can determine if people are good or bad people pretty early on.

These are just a few ways I can describe anxiety. Creating this post has actually helped me internalize my feelings. Sometimes writing out your thoughts helps ease the anxious feeling. It allows you to see what you are thinking. If you are someone who struggles with anxiety, know that you are not alone and everything will be okay, even though it may not feel that way in the moment.

Don’t be afraid to reach out and get help. You are most important, so take care of yourself!

Thank you for reading PYM today. I hope this post is able to help those who also struggle with anxiety find peace in the fact that they are not alone, and offer a perspective of anxiety for those who may not understand it.

Remember: Everything will work out.

xo, Lyss