My 5 Ways to Cope with Anxiety

Hello Lovely Humans,

I’ve recently began to write about my experience with anxiety. You may have read my last post on anxiety called “I’m Anxious Right Now”. I want to follow up with this post by sharing the ways I cope with anxiety. Anxiety is tough and it’s a battle many people fight behind the scenes, everyday.

I don’t think we realize how many people are actually struggling with anxiety because most anxious feelings are mental. Overthinking, worrying, analyzing, etc. Sometimes we break down and then people notice we are having anxiety. But in reality, it never really goes away.

If you’re anxious, I’ve got a couple ways you can try to fight it.

Lavender Essential Oil

Lavender oil is something that I use to calm my nerves and relax. I carry it with me in my purse and I use it every night before bed. You can put a few drops on your pillow or rub on your temples and on the bottom of your feet. When I lay down for the night, I take a few deep breaths and think about releasing the negatives in each exhale. If you’re not sold on it, it’s also great for bug bites and breakouts.

Herbal Tea

It’s not just the tea that will help calm you. Grabbing a warm mug and just taking a few deep breaths can calm your mind. Take this moment to breathe and relax. Think about each breathe and each sip. Don’t focus on your anxiety, focus on your breaths + enjoying the tea. My favorite tea is Lemon + Ginger Herbal tea.

Exercise

This one may differ from person to person but my best coping mechanism is running. Getting a solid sweaty session in helps clear my mind and ease my nerves. I throw in my headphones and just go. It’s not about speed or distance, just clearing my head. Most of the time though, I run my best mile time when I’m anxious. That’s a positive, right?

Hot Shower or Bath

Taking a hot shower or bath can really relax your whole body. When you are anxious you can tend to clench your teeth or tense up your muscles. A hot bath will relax your mind and body. Play some calming music to assist the process.

Sleep

Sometimes the best way to calm your mind and ease the overthinking is just by sleeping. Take a nap or get a good nights rest to take some of the mental pressure off. Use lavender oil to assist in relaxing. Don’t use sleep to avoid doing daily life activities or to shut your feelings out. Use it wisely!

These are my best coping mechanisms when I am experiencing high anxiety. Maybe you have a few of your own, do whatever you can to ease your anxious mind. Although I struggle with anxiety day-to-day, I always try to remain positive and use these methods to fight back. That’s all you can do when you are experiencing this. I know people will tell you to “relax” and “it will be okay” and they’re right, but it doesn’t always help.

Be optimistic, even in the darkest moments. Life is up and down, it’s not a flat road. Accept this, accept your flaws and keep pushing. Everyone has their own demons.

Thank you for reading PYM today! Share this post because you never know who may need this.

xo, Lyss

I’m Anxious Right Now

Hello Beautiful People,

I wanted to have an honest moment with all of you. Many of you may know that I struggle with anxiety from time to time. I have talked about this in more recent posts, but I thought I would be 100% real with you today.

Right now at this very moment, I am anxious.

Why you may ask?

That’s the problem with anxiety, you can’t always define the cause. Sometimes I am able to figure out where it is rooting from but most of the time it is unknown. That’s why it kind of makes one feel crazy. Anxiety gets under your skin, you feel it in your gut. It’s like being nervous about nothing.

It’s caring too much and it’s thinking too much.

You fear things that aren’t even happening. For example, right now I am feeling like people are annoyed with me; like they don’t want to be around me. So naturally, I am pushing away people that are close to me. I don’t want to be annoying and bothersome. My anxiety can take over and cause me to overthink even the smallest things. And that’s what is happening currently.

It’s wanting to fix something that’s not even a problem yet.

You feel alone, even when you’re not. You push people away (accidentally) because you’re scared of getting hurt. When in reality, nobody is leaving you. It’s all in your head. People ask what’s wrong and you can’t explain it because it doesn’t even make sense in your own head.

That’s anxiety.

Most of the time I wish I did’t have to deal with this monster in my head but let me tell you a few things that anxiety has done for me.

Anxiety has made me love more deeply. I invest myself completely into a person because I think about every little thing. I don’t like conflict, so I do my best to make everyone happy and I always consider other peoples feelings. Sometimes before my own.

Anxiety has made me a planner. This is one of those things that can go both ways. In some sense, you don’t want to over plan and ruin the moment. But, planning has made me the driven, ambitious person I am today. Since I do think about every aspect,  I am able to formulate a plan to accommodate many outcomes. Downfall of this trait is unmet expectations cause disappointment. You win some and lose some!

Anxiety has motivated me in many ways. At times, it can take over my mood and cause me to be in a real funk. But, the next day I have the option to make it a great day or let anxiety win. It all around has made me a stronger person.

Anxiety makes me stronger inside because it forces me to be completely self-aware at all times.

Anxiety allows me to read others very well. That is a gift of anxiety, I can determine if people are good or bad people pretty early on.

These are just a few ways I can describe anxiety. Creating this post has actually helped me internalize my feelings. Sometimes writing out your thoughts helps ease the anxious feeling. It allows you to see what you are thinking. If you are someone who struggles with anxiety, know that you are not alone and everything will be okay, even though it may not feel that way in the moment.

Don’t be afraid to reach out and get help. You are most important, so take care of yourself!

Thank you for reading PYM today. I hope this post is able to help those who also struggle with anxiety find peace in the fact that they are not alone, and offer a perspective of anxiety for those who may not understand it.

Remember: Everything will work out.

xo, Lyss

3 Intense Sweaty Workouts

Hello Fit Babes:

Sticking to a workout routine can really show results and push you in your fitness journey, but that can potentially get boring at times. That’s why it’s important to add in some intense, body shocking workouts. These will break your normal routine and work new muscle groups, which will hopefully show more results. I thought I could share a couple of my favorite intense workouts that I do when I really want to sweat. I also do these workouts when I feel bloated or sluggish, it really kicks my body back into gear. These are great to add to your routine, but they aren’t meant to be done everyday.

Intense Workout #1 | Hey Miss New Booty

You’ll need a gym with a stair master!

StairMaster: 15-20 minutes

3 to 5 minute warm up |  Level: 8-10

3 to 5 sprints for 30 second each | Level: 20 or your personal max

*Break for 30 seconds to 1 minute between each. The sprints truly burn but you have to push through at least 3 to really reap the benefits of this exercise.

3 sets of kickbacks for 30 seconds | Level: 8

*This is a booty burner, simply kick each leg back and step on every other step.

3 sets of 30 second side climb | Level: 13

*Walking sideways on each side counts as one set.

You may also take breaks in between the other exercises, but I usually do a set of kickbacks combined with the sideways walking then take a small break. Do what’s best for your fitness level. I usually complete a few intense ab exercises after too!

Intense Workout #2 | The Girl Next Door

Utilize your neighborhood or local park for this one!

8-10 hill climbs | Try to do this pretty continuous

1 to  2 mile run/walk | Try to run for the whole 1st mile

10-15 stair sprints | Do five then take a 1 minute break, repeat until you reach 10 or 15

Workout #3 | Sweaty Yogi

Attend a hot yoga class!

Hot yoga is actually such a sweaty, intense workout, especially if you partake in a vinyasa session. Vinyasa is a constant movement through different yoga poses. I remember when I first did one of these classes, I left dripping sweat and I was sore for the next two days. It literally shocked my body. I LOVED IT!

Thank you for checking out Pretty, Young & Motivated today. I hope you are able to try some of these workouts and see some serious results. Share your favorite intense workouts with me in the comments! I’d love to try some of yours too. Happy Monday!

Let’s get sweaty!

xo, Lyss

Just Start!

Hello Lovely Human:

Over the past couple of months, I have been really getting into becoming super healthy and fit. After I quit cheerleading back in 2015, I disliked going to the gym and my motivation to workout began to slip away. I would have spurts where I would workout for a couple of weeks but quickly get bored and just stop going. I couldn’t stick with it.

Well throughout this past semester, I became really lethargic and every meal I ate hurt my stomach. I couldn’t figure out the issue. Stress was probably one factor but there was more to the story. I also started to notice my muscle tone and strength deteriorate. That’s how I knew I had to make a change somewhere. It started out a slow process, but then I got completely inspired by an Australian YouTuber. Her positive message and motivation to live a healthy lifestyle truly inspired me.

I knew that was my moment. I had to make a change or I would continue to feel lethargic and weak. Within the first few weeks of working out and eating healthier, I saw a difference in my mood and my energy level. There were no serious changes, but a noticeable difference in how I felt.

Just Start!

The message for you today is: just start! No matter what goal you are trying to reach, the first step to success in that goal is simply starting.

I never thought I would finally get motivated enough to be excited about going to the gym or enjoy eating a salad for lunch. It’s all about figuring out what works for you and finding what motivates you to live a healthy lifestyle.

Yes, I have been more involved with fitness but beyond working out and getting lean, my focus is on feeling great and being happy. When you feel sick after almost every meal and you have zero energy, you aren’t happy. That’s what changed my mind and sparked my motivation. I could either continue to feel the way I did or I could make a change.

and now…

Today, it’s still a work in progress. I’m not jacked or ripped, I’m not super disciplined and I don’t always eat clean. I’m human and I’m not perfect. My goal isn’t to be crazy about my diet and body. It’s to be healthy and happy. I want to feel good, and sometimes eating pizza makes me feel good. A healthy lifestyle isn’t always about eating super clean and hitting the gym everyday, it’s what ever makes your body feel best.

So, my advice for you if you are thinking about starting your fitness journey or starting any goal really, just start. Once you begin, you will find inspiration or motivation that will continue to push you. Do it for yourself and do it because you want to.

Once you find that one thing that inspires you, you will began to see results. Many people fail at their goals because they enter with a negative attitude. If you are not enjoying the process, then you will not see results. It has been proven that when you find the process or activity to be pleasurable, you are more successful in reaching your goals.

Thank you so much for reading today! I hope your Monday is filled with coffee and good vibes.

Start somewhere.

xo, Lyss

8 Things You Should Stop Doing Right Now

Hello Cuties,

Ever feel like things aren’t going your way? Do you ever throw yourself a pity party? Well, trust me, I know how that goes. Sometimes we just get in a funk, and it feels like nothing good is coming our way. This is common towards the end of the semester as we begin to approach summer. Lately, I have realized a lot of negativity running through my life. As we know, the way we think can impact our surroundings; and honestly, I have been throwing a pity party for myself these days.

Well, after some thought and a few inspirational quotes, I decided to figure out what my problem was. Why am I feeling like this? So, I created a list of things I am going to stop doing and stop allowing to take up mental space. I thought I would share this list with you as well:

  1. Stop comparing: This is number one for a reason. Stop comparing yourself to others, you are not them and they are not you. You cannot expect to be in their place when you do not even know the challenges they may have had to go through to get there. Everyone has a story that shapes them, wishing to be someone else won’t make things better, it will just inhibit you from achieving your own goals. Sure, look up to people and gather ideas on how you will make the most of your life, but don’t compare your chapter 1 to someone else chapter 15.
  2. Stop worrying about what’s next: I am the worst at this one, it’s always about what’s next. What about right now? Why not live for now and let life work on its own. Yes, make goals and plans but if they fail to turn out, don’t give up. Everything will work out how it’s supposed to, so don’t create unnecessary worry in your mind.
  3. Stop negative thoughts: Easier said than done. Block out all negative thoughts and people. Negativity only creates a toxic environment for you. Life is a little bit easier when you are positive, good things start to come your way and people can’t hate someone who is always positive. Your positivity will start to spread to others as well!
  4. Stop being selfish: Now this does not mean neglect self-love, y’all know I am a proud supporter of self-love. Stop being selfish means stop only thinking about yourself in your relationships. Friendship is made up of give and take, when you think about the people you interact with, think about what they may want. This includes friends, family and even strangers. Understand where they may be coming from and be supportive.
  5. Stop giving up: Stop giving up on things that don’t work out on the first try. I know how easy it may be to give up and move on, but if something is important to you, you shouldn’t give up on it. Things won’t always work out on the first try. The path to success is not straight, so you must anticipate a few challenges before you reach your goals. Don’t give up yet!
  6. Stop hating your body: I know you may not be where you’d like to be with your “body goals” but stop degrading yourself. Take care of yourself and be healthy, but don’t be ashamed of your shape. Everyone is given a different body, relating back to number one, don’t compare your look to someone else’s. Just love yourself and be proud of the skin you’re in.
  7. Stop wasting your time: Stop wasting your time on things that don’t matter. It is easy to get carried away on a Netflix binge or caught up on pointless drama, but stop spending your time on things that don’t benefit you or make you happy. Life is too short to waste time on things that aren’t making you happy.
  8. Stop making an excuse: Every day we wake up, we have the option to live life to the fullest that day or just go through the motions. When you make excuses, you are prohibiting yourself from greatness. You cannot grow or become the person you want if you continue to make excuses for yourself. Don’t make excuses, make moves!

Life is too short to be wasting your precious time on silly things, focus more on the good and less on what’s not working. Working on stopping some of these actions will not only give you peace of mind, but it will also free up some mental space for positive and happy thoughts. Don’t let these things hold you back from greatness. You must seize every day and learn to let the little things go.

This list is just one I came up with on my own, but you should think about creating one for yourself. I made this list based off my current life, so maybe creating your own can give you a better perspective of where you want to be. Before I made this list, I made a list of my short term goals, then I thought about how I would go about achieving them and what I had to stop doing in order to do so.

Thank you all so much for reading today’s post! Please share this with your friends and family. You can subscribe on the right side of the page to receive updates on my posts. It is Monday and it is a new week, so wake up and kick ass. If you’re a student, 3-4 more weeks left in this semester…YOU CAN DO IT!

Happy Monday!

xo, Lyss