It’s All About Perspective

 

Hello Lovely People,

I’m so glad you opened this post because today’s topic is something I think we can all relate to.

Perspective.

Life is all about perspective. Each of us experience many different things and it’s not what happens to us that matters but how we handle it that shows our true character. Lately, you may have noticed that I have been experiencing some lows, and if you have not noticed, let me fill you in briefly.

My grandfather is very ill and his time is now limited. My relationship with my dad isn’t great. I’ve lost a couple close friends. Blah, blah, blah. Stuff like this has been occurring in my life over the past few months. Tiring, yes but not the end of the world.

If I’m being honest, it’s made me be a little down in the deeps lately, which is not like me. But, I’ve realized I can change this. I could change this by changing my perspective on most of these things.

Once again, life is about how we handle the things that come our way rather than the actual things. I can continue to let this stuff take up negative space in my head or I can stop and see the positives in my life. Although life throws us all a solid set of challenges, it also has many beautiful moments that we cannot neglect in times of negativity.

Take time to appreciate the little things around you:

  • The sun peeking through the blinds each morning
  • A cup of coffee on a chilly morning
  • Watching the clouds move above you
  • Favorite songs
  • Looking up at the stars
  • A hot shower after a long day
  • Compliments from a stranger
  • The rain hitting your skin

It can be hard to step back and appreciate these things sometimes but it is important to. Appreciating the little things makes the big things not so “big”. Each of us encounter struggles and challenges in our lives, and these things can take a toll on us. Become aware of the good around you.

I understand life can get hectic sometimes but you have to be able to separate that in your mind. Far more good things happen throughout our lives than bad. Take time to accept what’s happening to you but don’t stay in that low place. Move forward with a grateful heart.

Thank you for reading PYM! I’m planning some new projects that I will share with you guys in the upcoming months. Stay tuned.

xo, Lyss

To the Girl with “No Friends”

Hi There Beautiful,

As we begin to grow up and our lives begin to change, we notice that people come and go from our lives. From high school to college to post-college, our friends change. People walk out of our lives for various reasons, some unknown reasons.

For the past couple of years, I have struggled with trying to find a friend group. I couldn’t understand why I didn’t have many friends.

I have friends, of course. But, I feel I have never had a friend group that hangs out all the time. I have many friends but they are not one group of people. I’ll grab coffee with one, workout with the other and so on. It’s not like we all hang out at once. They come from various backgrounds.

Recently, I had two people walk out of my life for almost no reason. One girl said that I was too busy and didn’t make time for her, and the other straight up ditched me and gave no explanation. She completely ignored my texts.

Okay, I must be crazy!? Why did this just happen…

Well, as I always say, your vibe attracts your tribe. It also repels those who do not belong in your tribe. We can’t forget that it works in both ways. People are going to come and go in your life, but the real friends stick around. They don’t walk away just because you get busy.

Understand that life isn’t always about having a big friend group. It’s about surrounding yourself with genuinely good people who lift you up and support your dreams. As I said, the friends I do have come from various backgrounds. This makes my friends very dynamic. They each offer me something different. One inspires me to keep working toward my dreams because she is relentlessly working towards hers and she understands the hustle. Another is already kicking ass and she offers me so much motivation and wisdom.

Friend groups aren’t bad, but having less is sometimes more. Managing lots of friends can make you very stressed when you are hustling to make your dreams a reality and working hard everyday. When the timing is right, lots of friends will come into your life. When you need time to build yourself, your energy will weed out the ones who don’t understand that.

Just trust the process, and believe that everything happens for a reason. The people that walk away from you are not meant to be a part of your journey. We learn from those who come into our lives and we learn even more when they leave.

Understand that you don’t have to have a bunch of friends. 4 quarters are better than 100 pennies, remember that. You want to make valuable connections and you cannot do that when you are trying to nurture 100 different people.

Make an effort to be a good friend, invest in people and make meaningful connections; but don’t ever force a relationship that’s not meant to be. I’m learning to be a better friend, and I think we all are working on this. Be positive and confident, your vibes will guide you to the right people.

Thank you for reading PYM today!

Stay close to people who feel like sunlight.

xo, Lyss

 

Live Your Life, Shamelessly

Hello Beautiful Souls,

Everyday you wake up, you have the opportunity to do something amazing with that day. The choice is completely up to you.

When you wake up, you can be upset at the world and groan about going into work. This kind of mindset will create a negative space around you and you may even see more negativity start to come your way.

Another option would be to wake up with a purpose, tell yourself to seize the day and try something new. This mindset will most likely bring you lots of happiness and positive vibes throughout the day. It’s called Law of Attraction, believe it or don’t, but it’s legit.

How does this relate to living your life shamelessly, you ask?

Most of the time, we are held back by our fears of judgement and what others may think of us. We inhibit our abilities to grow because we don’t want to look weird or out-of-place. The thing is though, every person that has ever made a difference in this world was weird and out-of-place. They encountered many failures and climbed many mountains. They didn’t wake up innovators, creators or influencers; they became them.

This relates to the attitude you choose to have on a daily basis because you can wake up and let your fears hold you back or you can live your life shamelessly and be the weird one. The weird ones are the leaders and doer’s of our society.

One of my bosses shared this short Ted Talk with us during my first week at my internship. It was some “weird” guy dancing around by himself but he was surrounded by a crowd of people. Of course, he got dirty looks and quite a few glares. Then something happened, another guy jumped up and started to dance like a maniac too; and another one followed. Eventually there was a whole crowd of people dancing and no one felt weird about it.

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The lesson here is that someone has to be brave enough to step outside of their normal comfort zone and be the werido that starts a movement. It can be scary to put yourself out there, especially all by yourself. Once you embrace this idea of being comfortable with being uncomfortable, you will watch yourself blossom into this magical human. People will no longer judge you, and even if they do, you will not worry about this anymore because you’re confident in who you are.

Coming back to the law of attraction idea, your confidence and self-assurance will create this positive vibe around you. People may be intimidated by you, but more often than not, they will be inspired by you.

 

Today, and everyday, I just want you to live the life that makes you happy regardless of what others think. You only have one life to live, don’t waste it worrying about what people might think of you. Spend it being 100% yourself and enjoying every freaking moment. Thank you for reading and have cheerful day!

Do what makes you happy!

xo, Lyss

How to Throw Kindness like Confetti

Hello Pretty People:

As I was thinking about what to write next for you guys, I was thinking about the topic of paying it forward and being kind to one another. This topic isn’t unfamiliar on PYM and I don’t expect to change that. In the wake of the recent events in Manchester, I think a post on kindness is needed more than ever. As hate continues to spread through our world, we must push back with more kindness and positivity.

A sad reality of terrorism is that there is no real way to stop attacks because they come unexpectedly. That’s probably the point but we must combat these acts of evil with acts of kindness. As I mentioned, promoting kindness and positivity is not a new concept on my blog but it is time to take it to the next level. I think life is just easier when you are kind to everyone and you are positive about every situation.

So, I decided to share five easy ways to be kind on a daily basis.

5 Ways to be Kind

Compliment (not just appearance):

It’s easy to compliment someone’s appearance, but it’s more meaningful to compliment their character or something they have chosen to be. Rather than commenting on appearance, something they don’t necessarily have control of, compliment their style or their personality. Examples could be “you’re so thoughtful” or “it’s really nice to see you today”. These are slightly different compliments that can really change someone’s day.

Buy someone’s coffee:

As a college student my budget doesn’t always account for this one; but when you are able to, it’s an easy way to brighten someone’s day. It’s always a surprise when someone does this for me, and it usually encourages me to pass on the good vibes to others.

Tell people you are thankful for them:

A lesson we can take from tragic events like the other night is life is too short. It’s hard to grasp that concept that everyday is not promised. On the days you do think of how precious life is, remember to thank those who are close to you. Tell people you are thankful for them. Even if you are at work and someone helps you complete a task, let them know how grateful you are to work with them. It’s nice to know you are wanted and your efforts are noticed.

Share your favorite positive quote:

I love finding positive quotes on Pinterest and sharing them with my friends and family. I love the inspirational and motivational power that a quote can have. It’s always nice when friends share quotes with me too because I feel like they always come at the best times. It’s hard to constantly motivate and inspire yourself. This is why it feels good to have that support from friends and family.

Say “I love you”:

In life, we are constantly searching for love and acceptance from others, whether we would like to admit it or not. It is what we were rewarded with as kids and as we grow up we continue to seek that love. Don’t pass up a chance to say “I love you” to the people who may need to hear it. Everyday we all struggle to be the best person we can be in hopes we will be recognized by the ones we love. Don’t miss your chance to share the love and let someone know how special they are to you. Don’t be so afraid of love.

These are just some of my favorite ways to spread a little kindness to the people around me. Being kind isn’t too hard, and when you are kind to others they tend to keep the kindness ball rolling.

Although there may be hate in our world, I challenge you to fight it with kindness. I challenge you to implement one of these things above and see how many people’s days you can brighten by doing so.

Throw kindness like confetti.

xo, Lyss

*My heart goes out to those impacted by the Manchester attack. I understand the tragedy of this event and I would never wish it upon my worst enemy.

 

Realizing the Beauty of Life

Hello Lovely People,

Today I wanted to write freely on a topic that came to mind yesterday.

 

Yesterday, I spent the day with my boyfriend hiking the Rosy Mound dune near Lake Michigan. The weather was just perfect for this, we were goofing around on the trail and just enjoying each others company. When we reached this lookout point, we crossed paths with this grandpa and grandson duo. They were also were enjoying the warm Michigan weather (which is rare!). The difference between us and them was the fact that the young boy was blind and his grandpa was guiding him through the trail, up and down the many stairs. As the young boy reached the beach lookout area, where we were resting, he grew with excitement when he heard the waves. They took a seat near us and continued to converse about different things.

The reason I am sharing this is because sometimes we take the simplest things for granted and we complain about so many small things. This young boy who is unable to even see the beauty of the beach was completely excited and positive about the experience. He spoke with so much spirit and he was very curious about many things. His attitude for life made me realize how much some of us take life for granted.

This is not a post to make you feel bad or guilty, it’s to bring attention to the possibilities we have in life. Everyday we face hardships, some greater than others, be sure to prioritize the important things. Some hardships and negative situations aren’t worth your strength and stress. Some of us are more lucky than others and that doesn’t mean we should be guilty, it means we should realize the life we have in front of us and live it fully and passionately.

That little boy doesn’t let his sight stop him from seeing the world and exploring. He is still curious to learn even though he may not be able to see things like we do. The lesson I take from him is to never stop being curious about life, no matter what tries to stand in your way. Whether it’s people, disabilities or your own doubts; never let something stop you from exploring and enjoying this wonderful life.

We all have the chance to create a beautiful life, and everyday you wake up you decide what you are going to do to make your day great or awful. Live with passion and spread positive vibes to everyone you meet.

Thanks for reading my random post but if you have had a similar encounter that has made you thankful for the life you have or made you realize the real beauty in life, please share it in the comments!

Create a life you love.

xo, Lyss