I’m writing this blog for all the girls who have had their hearts broken or who currently are working through a heart break. Although I am not in this situation currently, I have been there and I know it hurts.
The sleepless nights. The fake smiles. And the tears, so many tears.
Crying in the shower. Playing sad songs on repeat. Breaking down when a specific song comes on in the car. Your heart physically hurts and your insides feel twisted. For some, it’s the worst pain they’ve experienced. Medicine doesn’t take away this pain. It is a deep pain in your gut and the only cure is time.
To the girl with the broken heart, this is only temporary. This pain and aching in your heart will not last forever. Whoever put you in this place will feel the pain too, maybe not today but in time.
To the girl with the broken heart, it’s okay to cry. It’s okay to not be okay, just don’t get stuck in that dark place. Keep moving forward and grow your strength. You are so strong!
To the girl with the broken heart, he doesn’t deserve you. You are worth so much and anyone willing to hurt you does not deserve your attention. It’s okay to love someone who walks away, but know your own worth. You deserve someone who thinks the world of you!
To the girl with the broken heart, it will get better. It may not feel that way right now, but tough times don’t last, tough people do. You are so tough, this is just a rough patch. Don’t let it drag you down.
I’ve been there before, multiple times actually. You just have to understand the process of life. Yes, it’s hard in the moment and it doesn’t feel like it will get better. But it does. I promise you it does!
It makes you a fighter!
Here’s the pep talk:
Your first option to get your badass vibes back is to listen to Fighter by Christina Aguilera. This is my comeback jam!
Other option is read my next few lines.
You are hurting right now. I understand your pain and I feel it too. But, you are more than this. You have made it through every other heart break before this, and you’ve made through every other tough obstacle. Now here you are, still alive and thriving!
This moment in your life is so small in the grand scheme of things. You will look back on this period as a growing period. Your strength is being tested in these tough moments. They do not define you though. I want you to break down, get angry and cry. Let it out! Just know when to pull your big girl pants up and keep killing it.
You are a beautiful, strong and smart. Whoever broke your heart will regret it or whatever broke your heart will only get better in time. Take care of your bright, happy and creative soul. Take this time to focus on self-care and self-love. Shameless self-love. You are important to so many and your life is important. You have a purpose and this heart break is not that purpose, it is simply a bump in the road.
So, pick yourself up out of that shower or off your bed. Shut off the mushy sad BS music and play this playlist. Maybe even do the power pose because you rock!
My Broken Heart Comeback Playlist:
- Fighter – Christina Aguilera
- Sorry Not Sorry – Demi Lovato
- Bad at Love – Halsey
- Confident – Demi Lovato
- How Far I’ll Go – Alessia Cara (Yes, the song from Moana)
- Lush Life – Zara Larsson
- Man! I Feel Like a Woman – Shania Twain
- New Rules – Dua Lipa
- No Scrubs – TLC
- Roar – Katy Perry
- Dog Days Are Over – Florence and the Machine
- That’s My Girl – Fifth Harmony
- We Are Never Getting Back Together – T. Swift
- Stronger – Britney Spears
- Survivor – Destiny’s Child
*If you are seriously considering hurting yourself, you should seek professional help or call 1-800-273-8255. You matter and there are people here to help you. You are not alone in this fight! It is okay to talk to someone and it’s okay not to be okay, but don’t give up.
As I mentioned, I am completely happy right now but I have been there and I know the pain. There is always a quote that comes to mind when I experience these hard times – “Don’t forget you are human, it’s okay to have a meltdown, just don’t unpack and live there. Cry it out and then refocus on where you are headed.”
Once again, these situations are temporary even when they do not feel that way. Remember your best moments and do your best to work through the tough ones. Think about all of the things that have shaped the person you are today, some of the most defining growth periods are probably during or after a tough time. It’s the worlds shitty way of testing our strengths.
Thank you for reading PYM! I hope this post helped you, if you have experienced this. Make this week wonderful, your happiness is up to you.