5 Steps to Improve Your Mental Health

Hello Darlings,

Physical health is super important to living a happy and healthy life, which I’ve mentioned before. Almost more important than physical health though is mental health. You should have a healthy balance of both, but I think we too often forget about taking care of ourselves mentally.

A friend shared something with me yesterday that really stood out to me. It was a list of things this girl (from social media or another blog) did in the last year to improve her own mental health. After reading through it, I was inspired to share some of her ideas and some of my own. Once again, I think mental health is too often swept under the rug. It’s a real thing and it’s real important.

As someone who struggles with anxiety on a daily basis, it can be difficult to take a step back and take time to recharge. Being anxious is mentally exhausting, your mind just goes and you can’t just snap your fingers to stop it. It picks apart every detail of every situation, it’s like an argument with myself in my own head, if that makes any sense.

Sharing these ways to improve mental health is not only important to me but it should be important to you too, even if you do not struggle with a mental illness. Being proactive and mentally sharp is always great.

Realize Your Worth

This one can be a tough one, and it should not be. It’s tough because we tend to be very self critical. It’s okay to learn from your mistakes and know where you can improve, but it should never diminish your self-worth. You must be confident and know what you are worth not only to others but to yourself.

This is also like having self-respect. Know what you deserve and know when it’s time to walk away from something. You are worth so much and you deserve to be treated that way. Be aware of yourself, improve and make changes but never say sorry for who you are. Practicing this and avoiding extreme self-criticism will be step number one towards improving your mental health.

Take Care of Yourself

I read something recently that said “self-love isn’t just face masks and bubble baths.” And I thought this was so true. Although those things can be part of your self-care routine, they are not necessarily “self-love”. Taking care of yourself means allowing time to do things you want, giving yourself grace when things don’t work out and exercising your mind in a positive way to combat stress and anxious feelings.

Self-love and self-care means becoming mentally strong, becoming aware of your flaws and accepting them and working on your strengths and weaknesses. Self-love is recognizing your worth, building your own confidence and putting yourself first when needed. All of this comes by taking proper care of yourself. It’s okay to stay in on Friday night, if you need to. It’s okay to take a day to yourself or not respond to texts. You don’t owe anyone anything, your overall health is most important.

Cut Out Any Negativity

It’s okay to cut negative relationships, groups, thoughts and whatever else out of your life. Think of your mind as a garden; do you want lots of weeds strangling and preventing beautiful flowers to grow or do you want a colorful, lively garden? The weeds in your mental garden are the negative things. Don’t be afraid to be your own gardener and nourish your garden.

We get scared to walk away from things because they are comfortable, but you should not allow something to stay in your life if it is not positively impacting you. Allow yourself to let go of negativity and move on.

Learn to Take a Step Back

It’s easy to react quickly to certain actions or situations, but know when to take a step back. If you are someone who battles with anxiety or a similar mental illness, it can be easy to jump to conclusions and react in an extreme way. Make it a habit to allow yourself time to step back, analyze the situation appropriately (not overthink) and return to the problem/situation with a clear perspective.

This is a tip anyone can use in stressful or overwhelming situations. Humans can react rashly in high stress or high emotional situations. Learning to take breath and approach problems with a clear head will most likely make life run smoother. I know, personally, that anxiety can make my whole body shake and sweat. I kind of clam up. Therefore, stepping back for me also means taking time to calm down and just breathe. I’m a busy student and some days my anxiety overcomes me, which makes me have to take a step back.

Listen to Your Body

You’ve heard this one before on my blog but it covers a lot of ground. First, you should listen to your body in the sense of diet. Feeding your body with nutrients and proper portions allows you to have maximum energy and brain function. Really fresh food is wonderful. Water is also highly important to a healthy, functioning body.

Beyond what you are putting in your body, listening to your body also means getting enough sleep and relaxing when needed. It can also mean taking a hot shower or bath. It can be exercising to relieve stress. Whatever it may be, always be aware of your body’s needs. This is one that I continue to work on everyday. It doesn’t happen over night but it is a process of learning how your body is currently reacting to your routine compared to when you make healthy changes.

Your body is really your machine; treat it with care and show it some love.


These five things really resonated with me and they are things I continue to work on myself. I wanted to curate a list of my own. You can do the same, take my list and reinvent it for yourself.

I’ll say it again: mental health should not be forgotten about, it should be understood and taken care of. Mental health is important for everyone, whether you struggle with an illness or not, being mentally resilient is key.

Thank you for reading PYM. I appreciate you making it part of your day, and I hope to see you again soon.

xo, Lyss

To the Girl with a Broken Heart

Hello Beautiful,

I’m writing this blog for all the girls who have had their hearts broken or who currently are working through a heart break. Although I am not in this situation currently, I have been there and I know it hurts.

The sleepless nights. The fake smiles. And the tears, so many tears.

Crying in the shower. Playing sad songs on repeat. Breaking down when a specific song comes on in the car. Your heart physically hurts and your insides feel twisted. For some, it’s the worst pain they’ve experienced. Medicine doesn’t take away this pain. It is a deep pain in your gut and the only cure is time.

To the girl with the broken heart, this is only temporary. This pain and aching in your heart will not last forever. Whoever put you in this place will feel the pain too, maybe not today but in time.

To the girl with the broken heart, it’s okay to cry. It’s okay to not be okay, just don’t get stuck in that dark place. Keep moving forward and grow your strength. You are so strong!

To the girl with the broken heart, he doesn’t deserve you. You are worth so much and anyone willing to hurt you does not deserve your attention. It’s okay to love someone who walks away, but know your own worth. You deserve someone who thinks the world of you!

To the girl with the broken heart, it will get better. It may not feel that way right now, but tough times don’t last, tough people do. You are so tough, this is just a rough patch. Don’t let it drag you down.

I’ve been there before, multiple times actually. You just have to understand the process of life. Yes, it’s hard in the moment and it doesn’t feel like it will get better. But it does. I promise you it does!

It makes you a fighter!

Here’s the pep talk:

Your first option to get your badass vibes back is to listen to Fighter by Christina Aguilera. This is my comeback jam!

Other option is read my next few lines.

You are hurting right now. I understand your pain and I feel it too. But, you are more than this. You have made it through every other heart break before this, and you’ve made through every other tough obstacle. Now here you are, still alive and thriving!

This moment in your life is so small in the grand scheme of things. You will look back on this period as a growing period. Your strength is being tested in these tough moments. They do not define you though. I want you to break down, get angry and cry. Let it out! Just know when to pull your big girl pants up and keep killing it.

You are a beautiful, strong and smart. Whoever broke your heart will regret it or whatever broke your heart will only get better in time. Take care of your bright, happy and creative soul. Take this time to focus on self-care and self-love. Shameless self-love. You are important to so many and your life is important. You have a purpose and this heart break is not that purpose, it is simply a bump in the road.

So, pick yourself up out of that shower or off your bed. Shut off the mushy sad BS music and play this playlist. Maybe even do the power pose because you rock!

My Broken Heart Comeback Playlist:

  1. Fighter – Christina Aguilera
  2. Sorry Not Sorry – Demi Lovato
  3. Bad at Love – Halsey
  4. Confident – Demi Lovato
  5. How Far I’ll Go – Alessia Cara (Yes, the song from Moana)
  6. Lush Life – Zara Larsson
  7. Man! I Feel Like a Woman – Shania Twain
  8. New Rules – Dua Lipa
  9. No Scrubs – TLC
  10. Roar – Katy Perry
  11. Dog Days Are Over – Florence and the Machine
  12. That’s My Girl – Fifth Harmony
  13. We Are Never Getting Back Together – T. Swift
  14. Stronger – Britney Spears
  15. Survivor – Destiny’s Child

*If you are seriously considering hurting yourself, you should seek professional help or call¬†1-800-273-8255. You matter and there are people here to help you. You are not alone in this fight! It is okay to talk to someone and it’s okay not to be okay, but don’t give up.

As I mentioned, I am completely happy right now but I have been there and I know the pain. There is always a quote that comes to mind when I experience these hard times – “Don’t forget you are human, it’s okay to have a meltdown, just don’t unpack and live there. Cry it out and then refocus on where you are headed.”

Once again, these situations are temporary even when they do not feel that way. Remember your best moments and do your best to work through the tough ones. Think about all of the things that have shaped the person you are today, some of the most defining growth periods are probably during or after a tough time. It’s the worlds shitty way of testing our strengths.

Thank you for reading PYM! I hope this post helped you, if you have experienced this. Make this week wonderful, your happiness is up to you.

xo, Lyss

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This is a little vulgar, but it’s resonates with me!

 

Picking Yourself Up After Hitting Rock Bottom

Hello Pretty People,

To be honest, I’m tired of talking about the negatives that have been occurring in my life. I’m in control of this, but I also like to share these struggles and low points because I think people need to realize we all have them. Trust me, I know it can feel like you’re alone during these times. But, you are not.

I’ve been super negative lately. My outlook has been pessimistic and my intentions have not been positive. I have allowed the negativity to take over my mind and body. I haven’t religiously exercised in almost 4 weeks, my eating has been “meh” and my attitude has been the worst of all.

Many of my readers come to PYM for inspiration and tips on living a happy life. Well, it hasn’t been that lately. I’m very sorry about that, but I think it’s important to share these hard times with all of you because I want you to know I am human too. I’m not going to create fake content to please everyone and make you believe my life is perfect. Because it’s not. No one has a perfect life, no matter how much you may think so.

So, as much as I want to drop the topic, I have to address it one more time because I have not been myself and it would be unfair of me to act that way. I write to share the highs and lows of life. If I only share the happy moments and the good stuff, you will probably just think “she’s lucky”. We all experience points in our life that feel like we are battling the demons alone. These past few weeks have been some of the lowest points of my life.

I’m not going to cover that up or try to make it something less than it is. I’ve experienced great pain in my heart.

Here’s the deal.

You can…scratch that, I can either pick myself up and move the fuck on or I can sit and suffer. It’s harsh and I’m sorry for the vulgar language, but it’s the truth. We all make this choice everyday. I do know how easy it can be to feed negativity with more negativity.

Hello!! That’s all I’ve been doing over here.

Another harsh reality…

You’ve only got you. You have to pick yourself up and dust yourself off. No one else is going to do it for you. Now, I’m not saying there aren’t people who will be there to support you or be a shoulder to cry on. But, at the end of the day when you’re alone and crying in the shower, you’re the only person who can pick yourself up. People can blab your ear off with mushy BS but you are the one in control. Until you realize that, you’ll spend your days crying and throwing yourself pity parties. This will make your life snowball out of control.

Crash your own (pity) party.

You are going to have to be the one to crash the party. No one will be able to do it for you. Once again, people can cheer you on and guide you in the right direction but you have to be the one to quit the BS.

I know when things actually suck, it’s tough to be a Positive Polly but you have to trick yourself. Your bad vibes will allow more bad vibes to feed into your energy. It sounds cheesy but it’s legit. If you can’t be positive about your own self, try to be super kind to others. Compliment your friends, buy a stranger coffee…do something that allows good vibes to flow. Getting caught up in lots of negativity is a vicious cycle you do not want to be a part of.

Cut the BS and don’t let negativity win. You are stronger than that!

This is the point I have reached, and slowly I am seeing the weight on my chest lift. I’m taking control of my attitude and the negatives I have allowed allowed to make home in my life. Although many of the negatives in my life the past few weeks have been out of my control, I have allowed them to occupy my mental space. Life does suck sometimes but listen carefully. I said SOMEtimes, not all times.

It’s okay to breakdown. It’s okay to not be okay. Life happens, our inner strength is tested. It can be hard to manage things on our own. Take the time you need to be sad and process the negatives, but don’t let them ruin your life. There is far more good in life than bad, even when it feels like the world is against you.

Cry it out, fix your mentality and move forward with a badass babe vibe. We’ve made it this far. Our strength will be tested time and time again, but each time it will be a little bit easier.

Don’t let a negative mindset hold you back. Most of all, never give up.

xo, Lyss

When Life Gets Busy

Hello Beautiful Souls,

Sometimes it’s hard to love ourselves fully. We all have bad days where we wake up feeling low. Lately I have been very busy, and as much as I enjoy being busy, it catches up to you. You forget to enjoy the small things and worry too much about what’s next. As you can probably notice, this has impacted my blogging too! Blogging is my way of being creative; it takes my thoughts and feelings about life and puts them into perspective for others to read and connect with. ¬†After taking some time off, I have realized it’s not always about consistency. Life is what you make it and to be honest, everyday won’t be amazing and extravagant, but everyday is a new chance to make it amazing and extravagant. Don’t lose sight of your goals when your stuck in that in-between.

If we always lived in the high moments of life, we would not appreciate life as much; the lows allow us to step back, adjust our perspectives and try again. The lows in life make us thankful for the highs. Too often we set ourselves to high standards that are not always obtainable. “Always be on time” “take 16 credits instead of 13” “Work two jobs” “post a blog post 3 times a week”.

No, no & no.

You do not have to do what society tells you to do because that’s when you become normal and you become everyone else. Society is not you. You are in charge of your feelings and thoughts, you must take care of yourself. Listen to what your soul wants. Take breaks, find a new inspiration, quit that second job, try something new. Do what YOU have to do, not what society wants you to do.

Blogging is how I share my thoughts with the world and whether 1,000 people read my posts or just one, my point is not to become famous or make money, it’s to create articles that resonate with just one person. If one person reads my post and it some how helps or inspires them, that’s all that matters to me. I obviously want to create posts for all types of people to read, but I’m done forcing unauthentic posts. I don’t write for followers or likes, I write to help other women (& sometimes men) feel inspired and empowered to be there own boss and take control of their lives. I’m no expert on life but I am an expert on being one of you: a human-being, aimlessly walking this earth and finding a purpose for this thing we call “life”.

Stop forcing things that are fake or unauthentic; whether it’s your style, personality or hobbies. Don’t create something just to fit in or appease others, do it for yourself and do it with purpose. Life is too short to be a copy of someone else.

My new goal is to post when it feels right, I will work on posting more frequently, but I will not force myself to write a post just to post it. Just like life is not consistent, my writing probably won’t be either. I want to provide worthy content for my readers and I want to make it worth my time in the process. I am sorry for taking such a long break from posting but I hope you understand. This blog is important to me because it is my way to express my feelings and thoughts, as well as reach out to those who need inspiration and motivation. Though I have been very busy, I am missing being able to take time to just write. I plan to take time each week to write for my blog and for myself.

Don’t get caught up in things that distract you from what you love. Once again, it’s okay to take a break. Every successful person must experience breaks, failures and challenges to become successful. These moments allow us to learn and grow. Thank you for sticking around during my break and as I always say…

Never give up!

xo, Lyss