5 Steps to Improve Your Mental Health

Hello Darlings,

Physical health is super important to living a happy and healthy life, which I’ve mentioned before. Almost more important than physical health though is mental health. You should have a healthy balance of both, but I think we too often forget about taking care of ourselves mentally.

A friend shared something with me yesterday that really stood out to me. It was a list of things this girl (from social media or another blog) did in the last year to improve her own mental health. After reading through it, I was inspired to share some of her ideas and some of my own. Once again, I think mental health is too often swept under the rug. It’s a real thing and it’s real important.

As someone who struggles with anxiety on a daily basis, it can be difficult to take a step back and take time to recharge. Being anxious is mentally exhausting, your mind just goes and you can’t just snap your fingers to stop it. It picks apart every detail of every situation, it’s like an argument with myself in my own head, if that makes any sense.

Sharing these ways to improve mental health is not only important to me but it should be important to you too, even if you do not struggle with a mental illness. Being proactive and mentally sharp is always great.

Realize Your Worth

This one can be a tough one, and it should not be. It’s tough because we tend to be very self critical. It’s okay to learn from your mistakes and know where you can improve, but it should never diminish your self-worth. You must be confident and know what you are worth not only to others but to yourself.

This is also like having self-respect. Know what you deserve and know when it’s time to walk away from something. You are worth so much and you deserve to be treated that way. Be aware of yourself, improve and make changes but never say sorry for who you are. Practicing this and avoiding extreme self-criticism will be step number one towards improving your mental health.

Take Care of Yourself

I read something recently that said “self-love isn’t just face masks and bubble baths.” And I thought this was so true. Although those things can be part of your self-care routine, they are not necessarily “self-love”. Taking care of yourself means allowing time to do things you want, giving yourself grace when things don’t work out and exercising your mind in a positive way to combat stress and anxious feelings.

Self-love and self-care means becoming mentally strong, becoming aware of your flaws and accepting them and working on your strengths and weaknesses. Self-love is recognizing your worth, building your own confidence and putting yourself first when needed. All of this comes by taking proper care of yourself. It’s okay to stay in on Friday night, if you need to. It’s okay to take a day to yourself or not respond to texts. You don’t owe anyone anything, your overall health is most important.

Cut Out Any Negativity

It’s okay to cut negative relationships, groups, thoughts and whatever else out of your life. Think of your mind as a garden; do you want lots of weeds strangling and preventing beautiful flowers to grow or do you want a colorful, lively garden? The weeds in your mental garden are the negative things. Don’t be afraid to be your own gardener and nourish your garden.

We get scared to walk away from things because they are comfortable, but you should not allow something to stay in your life if it is not positively impacting you. Allow yourself to let go of negativity and move on.

Learn to Take a Step Back

It’s easy to react quickly to certain actions or situations, but know when to take a step back. If you are someone who battles with anxiety or a similar mental illness, it can be easy to jump to conclusions and react in an extreme way. Make it a habit to allow yourself time to step back, analyze the situation appropriately (not overthink) and return to the problem/situation with a clear perspective.

This is a tip anyone can use in stressful or overwhelming situations. Humans can react rashly in high stress or high emotional situations. Learning to take breath and approach problems with a clear head will most likely make life run smoother. I know, personally, that anxiety can make my whole body shake and sweat. I kind of clam up. Therefore, stepping back for me also means taking time to calm down and just breathe. I’m a busy student and some days my anxiety overcomes me, which makes me have to take a step back.

Listen to Your Body

You’ve heard this one before on my blog but it covers a lot of ground. First, you should listen to your body in the sense of diet. Feeding your body with nutrients and proper portions allows you to have maximum energy and brain function. Really fresh food is wonderful. Water is also highly important to a healthy, functioning body.

Beyond what you are putting in your body, listening to your body also means getting enough sleep and relaxing when needed. It can also mean taking a hot shower or bath. It can be exercising to relieve stress. Whatever it may be, always be aware of your body’s needs. This is one that I continue to work on everyday. It doesn’t happen over night but it is a process of learning how your body is currently reacting to your routine compared to when you make healthy changes.

Your body is really your machine; treat it with care and show it some love.


These five things really resonated with me and they are things I continue to work on myself. I wanted to curate a list of my own. You can do the same, take my list and reinvent it for yourself.

I’ll say it again: mental health should not be forgotten about, it should be understood and taken care of. Mental health is important for everyone, whether you struggle with an illness or not, being mentally resilient is key.

Thank you for reading PYM. I appreciate you making it part of your day, and I hope to see you again soon.

xo, Lyss

Live Your Life, Shamelessly

Hello Beautiful Souls,

Everyday you wake up, you have the opportunity to do something amazing with that day. The choice is completely up to you.

When you wake up, you can be upset at the world and groan about going into work. This kind of mindset will create a negative space around you and you may even see more negativity start to come your way.

Another option would be to wake up with a purpose, tell yourself to seize the day and try something new. This mindset will most likely bring you lots of happiness and positive vibes throughout the day. It’s called Law of Attraction, believe it or don’t, but it’s legit.

How does this relate to living your life shamelessly, you ask?

Most of the time, we are held back by our fears of judgement and what others may think of us. We inhibit our abilities to grow because we don’t want to look weird or out-of-place. The thing is though, every person that has ever made a difference in this world was weird and out-of-place. They encountered many failures and climbed many mountains. They didn’t wake up innovators, creators or influencers; they became them.

This relates to the attitude you choose to have on a daily basis because you can wake up and let your fears hold you back or you can live your life shamelessly and be the weird one. The weird ones are the leaders and doer’s of our society.

One of my bosses shared this short Ted Talk with us during my first week at my internship. It was some “weird” guy dancing around by himself but he was surrounded by a crowd of people. Of course, he got dirty looks and quite a few glares. Then something happened, another guy jumped up and started to dance like a maniac too; and another one followed. Eventually there was a whole crowd of people dancing and no one felt weird about it.

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The lesson here is that someone has to be brave enough to step outside of their normal comfort zone and be the werido that starts a movement. It can be scary to put yourself out there, especially all by yourself. Once you embrace this idea of being comfortable with being uncomfortable, you will watch yourself blossom into this magical human. People will no longer judge you, and even if they do, you will not worry about this anymore because you’re confident in who you are.

Coming back to the law of attraction idea, your confidence and self-assurance will create this positive vibe around you. People may be intimidated by you, but more often than not, they will be inspired by you.

 

Today, and everyday, I just want you to live the life that makes you happy regardless of what others think. You only have one life to live, don’t waste it worrying about what people might think of you. Spend it being 100% yourself and enjoying every freaking moment. Thank you for reading and have cheerful day!

Do what makes you happy!

xo, Lyss

Holiday Outfit Guide: Christmas Time

Hello Babes,

I am beyond excited to share this post with all of you because it includes some of my favorite fashionable friends. You are in for a treat! I wanted to bring my friends into this post because everyone has a different sense of style, and I hope this post can meet some of your style tastes. This allows for you to see all sorts of winter fashion options if you are looking to switch up your wardrobe or if you need some outfit inspiration for that family Christmas party.

Some of the girls shared two looks with me, and other just shared one; I love all of their outfit choices! This guide is geared toward the winter season, but it is also perfect for those Christmas festivities with family and friends. I will first share the looks the girls shared with me, then I will share two of my own looks. Let’s get started:

Holiday Outfit Guide

Ivana: Polka Dots & Grey Hues

Ivana chose to pair an adorable polka dot sweater with an edgy leather jacket, she also added cold weather accessories to spice up the outfit look. I adore the hats with the pompoms on them, they add a chic style to any winter outfit. I met Ivana earlier this semester and I immediately loved her sense of style, it is trendy yet so unique. I love the way she can style any piece to perfection. I think the outfit she shared is perfect for that chilly day on campus or a stroll downtown. I absolutely love it!

Kolby: Cozy Flannel & Dark Wash Jeans

Kolby’s outfit is the perfect for a cold winter day; she layered a cozy flannel over a white shirt and topped the outfit off with the popular bean boots and a warm scarf. When you live in a chilly state like Michigan, this outfit is the ultimate go-to. It keeps you looking cute and cozy, while actually keeping you warm. I also met Kolby earlier this semester and I loved her style. I think that we have a very similar style, I would always catch her wearing some of my fashion favorites like flannels and statement necklaces. I was so excited when she agreed to participate in this post. I would define Kolby’s style as cute and casual; she always looks super cute and chic while always looking comfortable in everything she wears. I love that!

Festive Green Top & a Statement Necklace

The second outfit Kolby shared is perfect for going out to dinner with the family or spending some time shopping with the girls. I love the simplicity of this outfit, it is easy to pick out and go, but it has the statement necklace to spice it up. Adding a statement necklace to a plain shirt is the perfect way to give an outfit some finishing touches. I also like that she paired this outfit with tall rider boots. Another benefit of keeping it simple is the freedom to change up your shoe choice. You can pick any shoe that will meet your specific style.

Tessa: Layered Sweater & Bean Boots

Tessa loves to layer; Tessa is always wearing the most perfect outfits. She is the master of combining cozy & chic. In this picture she is pairing a denim button up with a cozy cable knit sweater. This is one of my favorite layering techniques. Unseen in this image, Tess is wearing dark wash jeans paired with bean boots. Like Kolby, she brings that cozy look to a chic level. Tessa is a very busy individual, and her Apple Watch is a huge staple piece to her wardrobe. I love that she has that signature piece as well; this makes her style so unique. I have known Tess for about 3 years, we use to cheer together at our university but now we are blogging besties. She always accomplishes a very stylish, finished look. Even when she is “bumming” it, she is totally put together. I adore her style and I often get inspiration for my own outfits from her. If you are more interested in her style and life, check out her personal blog at Simply Tess.

Lyss: Herrringbone Vest & Holiday Plaid Scarf

This is my new ultimate favorite outfit, it combines almost all of my favorite winter essentials. I absolutely love my blanket scarf because it is so warm and cozy. I highly recommend you purchase one. I actually borrowed this herringbone vest from my roomie and I fell in love with it. Vests are a key staple piece to your winter wardrobe. Along with the vest, I layered with my white knitted sweater and dark wash jeans. My boots resemble the popular bean boots but they are actually Sperry brand. I added my scarf in one look, but I also added one of my favorite statement necklaces to show you all the different possibilities with this outfit. I know I will be wearing this outfit a bunch on my holiday and out to winter activities. You can recreate this with your favorite sweater and any old vest.

Bright Flannel & Skater Skirt

Y’all know that I like to throw a fancy outfit in the mix. This is a great outfit for that holiday Christmas party or an evening out on the town. I have been styling similar outfits to this one for work, and I love them. In this specific look, I paired my favorite flannel with a black high-waisted skirt. Since it is chilly, and it finishes the look, I added black tights to the outfit. You can pair this with almost any boot or bootie, and of course, I paired mine with my favorite taupe wedges from TOMS shoes. I love this outfit and I will probably be wearing something similar to family holiday parties.

This post is my all time favorite because not only did I finally get to take my own outfit pictures but some of my fashionable friends were able to participate. I really hope you all love it as much as I do. Thank you for reading today and make sure you share this with all your fashionable friends. I would also love to hear which look is your favorite in the comments below. I apologize for the later posting times this week but it was final exam week here at my university. I have so many exciting posts prepared for the next few weeks, so make sure you subscribe to catch all the latest updates.

If you missed my last Single Girls Guide, check it out here!

If you want to check out the Thanksgiving Outfit Guide, click here!

Happy Holidays & Safe Travels.

xo, Lyss

How to Rebound After a Rough Week

Hello Babes,

Every once in a while we tend to fall into a slump; even the best of the best have bad days. Then, there are the weeks that feel never ending. It’s just one thing after another. Let’s just say that has been the past few days for me. I’m here at university, so classes are dwindling down but the stress is rising. Along with countless other things that have been thrown at me the past week, I am totally ready for it to be all over. We’ve all had these kind of weeks, right!?

Well, today I got the cure to rebounding from a crap week. This post is for all the girls out there that have had things being thrown at them non-stop and you still choose to wake up every day and kick ass. I got the tips and tricks for you to keep hustling and not letting the haters hold you back.

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Here are my 5 ways to rebound from a crap week:

  1. Take care of yourself: Sleep in. Treat yourself to your favorite meal. Enjoy a cup of coffee from your favorite coffee shop. Take a bath. Read a book or magazine. Take a walk, or a run. Drink a glass of wine, or five. Listen to your favorite playlist. Do whatever will awaken and refresh your soul. Taking care of yourself is the very first step to bouncing back from a rough week.
  2. Learn from your mistakes: Take whatever you experienced in the last week and turn it into something good. Every failure makes for a great lesson to be learned, perspective is everything. You must adjust your mindset to see the good in all situations, even after the most stressful and horrible week. We all have bumps in the road; the road to success is not always perfectly paved, it is in fact rather bumpy. Life throws us a lot of curve balls, and it’s not about what’s being thrown at you but it’s how you react to it. Don’t let the little things weigh too heavily on your mind, brush them off, learn from them and move on.
  3. Refocus your goals: After a crazy week, your goals can be a little disorganized. Even if they aren’t, this is a perfect way to get your mind refocused on what’s important. You may be feeling uninspired and unmotivated, and reevaluating your current goals will remind you of what you are working toward. Ask yourself if you are on track to accomplish these things you want, and if the answer is no, adjust accordingly.
  4. Get Motivated: Relating to the one above, use the past week as a motivator to do better the next week. Use the crap from the past week to motivate you toward your goals. I have been recently motivated to hustle a little harder and prove some people wrong. Don’t let other people’s thoughts influence how you think about yourself, but there is nothing wrong with a little motivation from some haters. Take no shit and continue slaying your goals.
  5. Remain Positive: Easier said than done, but this is the only way to truly combat the crappy week from continuing. Start each day with positive affirmations and write some of your favorite quotes in your agenda. This always helps me keep a positive mind. If you blame the universe, and just call yourself unlucky, the bad luck will continue. You have to see the positives! Staying positive relates to the part where you accept the mistakes and move forward. Understand that you cannot change them, and bad things are going to happen in life, but you have to just look yourself in the mirror and just say “things will get better”. You have to believe in that statement though. No situation is forever, remember that.

One bad week does not define you. Use these tips to get back on track. Every day is a new day to start new, use that opportunity to turn your luck around. Trust me, I know the struggle of trying to bounce back from a week of hell. The key is your mindset.

When you are out there hustling, people are going to get in the way and try to knock you down. The best way to fight that is by not fighting at all. Smile at the haters and thank them for the motivation to do better. If it’s your to do list that kicked your butt, take a step back and realize the things you are capable of handling. These bad weeks are the worst, but they show us our true strength. You can handle anything you put your mind to, hence the quote shared above. Turn on your tunes, grab a coffee and handle that shit.

When in doubt, remember the lyrics from Fighter by Christina Aguilera: “‘Cause it makes me that much stronger, makes me work a little bit harder. It makes me that much wiser. So thanks for making me a fighter. Made me learn a little bit faster, made my skin a little bit thicker, makes me that much smarter.” You’re a fighter!

So, whether it feels like the world is out to get you or it feels like nothing is going right, remember the outcome is up to you. It’s okay to have a rough week, learn from it and keep pushing forward. We must experience bad things to appreciate the good things.

Thank you for reading Pretty, Young & Motivated today. I really enjoyed writing this post, and I hope you are able to pull something from it. Be sure to follow PYM on Instagram to catch more updates: @pym_blog. Also, subscribe via email to catch new post updates faster. There is lots to come in the next few weeks, stay tuned. Happy Thursday.

You got this, girl.

xo, Lyss

You’re Beautiful The Way You Are

Hello Pretty People,

It’s time to address a problem that I have not only experienced, but overcome. I want to talk about the stigma girls in today’s society live with, which is the expectation to look beautiful and perfect. We are constantly competing with the girls around us, and honestly, I couldn’t tell you why we do it. It’s something we have watched our mothers and grandmothers do, and now we have carried it into our daily lives. It’s not like we wake up and automatically think “oh I have to look better than this girl”; but instinctively, we are quick to judge other girls.

I do this thing where I try to smile at everyone I pass, and you’d be surprised on how many dirty looks I get from girls. Most of the time, I think it is because I throw them off guard. It is just so natural for us to expect other girls to be mean to us, when in reality, we should be empowering each other. Girls have beautiful minds that work wonders but we constantly underestimating ourselves. Girls are often too worried about what someone else is saying rather than just not caring. These statements I am making are “in general” and given from my own experience of being a girl. I know everyone’s perspectives are different.

In the past year, I have faced a great deal of change and my life has been this transitioning period. Transitioning from this negative outlook I once had, to my new perspective that sees the power and beauty in every individual. A year ago, I walked around worrying about what others where thinking of me; was I enough for them? I went to cheer practicing knowing I would never be as small as the other girls, no matter how hard I tried. I let every little thing bother me because I was so worried about who I should be. This outlook not only made me see myself in a negative way, but it also made me look at others in a negative way. I knew that I had to change, and since then I have been slowly becoming a person I want to be. One that I am proud of.

First off, you have the power to change your life. If you don’t like something, change it! Don’t make excuses.

But, most importantly, do not stop loving yourself in the process. Change is good, it give us new perspectives and teaches us lessons. But, trying to become someone you’re not is an endless battle you will not win. This post today is for the girls out there that are stuck in this position where they think they are not enough and their beauty must meet society’s standards. Your beauty is unique and it is in fact, beautiful. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, this may make you feel worse for a moment but hear me through.

Just because one person has an opinion about you, does not mean that their opinion is valid. What others think or say about you, does not define who you are. You define who you are when you wake up in the morning and make the decision to be the best version of yourself.

Girls need to stop competing with each other and start encouraging each other. I cannot say this enough, but once we realize this, we will find peace with one another. The girl hate will vanish!

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After struggling with my own body image, I know what it is like to feel this way. I am here to tell you as my reader that you are enough, others opinions do not define you and your happiness is up to you. I cannot stress these three things enough because I know that they are the main reason you feel the way you do. When you place your happiness in the hands of others, you can’t expect it to be your own kind of happiness. When you let others opinions define you, you are letting their words rule you. You have to take charge of your own life. When you can understand that you are amazing without the thoughts and opinions of others, you will begin to live a life you love.

Thank you all for reading today! I really had to express my thoughts on this topic because I know the struggle of body image. Understand that you have to put yourself first and take care of not only your body, but your mind and spirit. It all works together. Just focus on being the best version of yourself and doing things that ultimately make you happy, the rest will follow. Worrying about others actions or thoughts will only slow down your progress, and ain’t nobody got time for that. Life’s short, just live it! Thank you all.

Much Love.

xo, Lyss

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