My 5 Ways to Cope with Anxiety

Hello Lovely Humans,

I’ve recently began to write about my experience with anxiety. You may have read my last post on anxiety called “I’m Anxious Right Now”. I want to follow up with this post by sharing the ways I cope with anxiety. Anxiety is tough and it’s a battle many people fight behind the scenes, everyday.

I don’t think we realize how many people are actually struggling with anxiety because most anxious feelings are mental. Overthinking, worrying, analyzing, etc. Sometimes we break down and then people notice we are having anxiety. But in reality, it never really goes away.

If you’re anxious, I’ve got a couple ways you can try to fight it.

Lavender Essential Oil

Lavender oil is something that I use to calm my nerves and relax. I carry it with me in my purse and I use it every night before bed. You can put a few drops on your pillow or rub on your temples and on the bottom of your feet. When I lay down for the night, I take a few deep breaths and think about releasing the negatives in each exhale. If you’re not sold on it, it’s also great for bug bites and breakouts.

Herbal Tea

It’s not just the tea that will help calm you. Grabbing a warm mug and just taking a few deep breaths can calm your mind. Take this moment to breathe and relax. Think about each breathe and each sip. Don’t focus on your anxiety, focus on your breaths + enjoying the tea. My favorite tea is Lemon + Ginger Herbal tea.

Exercise

This one may differ from person to person but my best coping mechanism is running. Getting a solid sweaty session in helps clear my mind and ease my nerves. I throw in my headphones and just go. It’s not about speed or distance, just clearing my head. Most of the time though, I run my best mile time when I’m anxious. That’s a positive, right?

Hot Shower or Bath

Taking a hot shower or bath can really relax your whole body. When you are anxious you can tend to clench your teeth or tense up your muscles. A hot bath will relax your mind and body. Play some calming music to assist the process.

Sleep

Sometimes the best way to calm your mind and ease the overthinking is just by sleeping. Take a nap or get a good nights rest to take some of the mental pressure off. Use lavender oil to assist in relaxing. Don’t use sleep to avoid doing daily life activities or to shut your feelings out. Use it wisely!

These are my best coping mechanisms when I am experiencing high anxiety. Maybe you have a few of your own, do whatever you can to ease your anxious mind. Although I struggle with anxiety day-to-day, I always try to remain positive and use these methods to fight back. That’s all you can do when you are experiencing this. I know people will tell you to “relax” and “it will be okay” and they’re right, but it doesn’t always help.

Be optimistic, even in the darkest moments. Life is up and down, it’s not a flat road. Accept this, accept your flaws and keep pushing. Everyone has their own demons.

Thank you for reading PYM today! Share this post because you never know who may need this.

xo, Lyss

It’s All About Perspective

 

Hello Lovely People,

I’m so glad you opened this post because today’s topic is something I think we can all relate to.

Perspective.

Life is all about perspective. Each of us experience many different things and it’s not what happens to us that matters but how we handle it that shows our true character. Lately, you may have noticed that I have been experiencing some lows, and if you have not noticed, let me fill you in briefly.

My grandfather is very ill and his time is now limited. My relationship with my dad isn’t great. I’ve lost a couple close friends. Blah, blah, blah. Stuff like this has been occurring in my life over the past few months. Tiring, yes but not the end of the world.

If I’m being honest, it’s made me be a little down in the deeps lately, which is not like me. But, I’ve realized I can change this. I could change this by changing my perspective on most of these things.

Once again, life is about how we handle the things that come our way rather than the actual things. I can continue to let this stuff take up negative space in my head or I can stop and see the positives in my life. Although life throws us all a solid set of challenges, it also has many beautiful moments that we cannot neglect in times of negativity.

Take time to appreciate the little things around you:

  • The sun peeking through the blinds each morning
  • A cup of coffee on a chilly morning
  • Watching the clouds move above you
  • Favorite songs
  • Looking up at the stars
  • A hot shower after a long day
  • Compliments from a stranger
  • The rain hitting your skin

It can be hard to step back and appreciate these things sometimes but it is important to. Appreciating the little things makes the big things not so “big”. Each of us encounter struggles and challenges in our lives, and these things can take a toll on us. Become aware of the good around you.

I understand life can get hectic sometimes but you have to be able to separate that in your mind. Far more good things happen throughout our lives than bad. Take time to accept what’s happening to you but don’t stay in that low place. Move forward with a grateful heart.

Thank you for reading PYM! I’m planning some new projects that I will share with you guys in the upcoming months. Stay tuned.

xo, Lyss

Planning a Girls Night Out the Right Way

Hello!

My 21st birthday is coming up in October and I’m so excited. Many bars and clubs in my area do not allow people in who are under the age of 21. Therefore, I have not been able to really experience the nightlife of my city. Once I turn 21, I will be able to go out and grab a drink with friends or buy a bottle of wine, just because. And a little secret about me is that I LOVE to dance, sober or not. So, I cannot wait to have the freedom to go out dancing with my girls. In lieu of my upcoming birthday, I partnered with Grand Rapids Party Buses to create a post all about bar hopping right here in my city, Grand Rapids.

Grand Rapids Bar Hopping

Bar hopping in Grand Rapids is one of the best ways to get to know the city and simultaneously have fun with friends. However, anybody with a group of friends in this modern day and age knows the complications in setting up a get together. There’s so much to consider whether it’s school, work schedules, or prior commitments. However, we’re here with suggestions for some fantastic bars to look into adding to your bar hopping itinerary as well as an option that will make it easy to get your group of friends to commit to a night of fun.

Sidebar

For those who value cocktail diversity and creativity, you’re definitely going to love this spot! It’s a smaller venue with seating for about twenty, so it’s perfect for trying out a drink or two and heading on to your next destination. The bartenders are known to be extremely efficient and knowledgeable, so count on a five star drink whenever you decide to head here. Try the Pisco Sour!

Buffalo Traders Lounge

Located in Midtown, Buffalo Traders Lounge offers a fun retro vibe! It has a 70’s look and feel that’s really comforting. You’re sure to enjoy their sliding scale Happy Hour that runs Monday through Thursday where drinks start at a cheap five dollars and then increase in price by one dollar each hour. It’s a cool experience being quizzed by their bartenders to get a completely custom drink!

Noco Provisions

This is a new addition to the scene in Grand Rapids, and they offer reservations online. It focuses on providing comfort food and drinks in an upscale gastropub environment. The poutine fries and tuna poke are both a big hit as well as the milk pot flight if you’re staying for dessert. Those who enjoy craft beer will take delight in the selection of IPAs on draft!

Transportation

Reserving professional transportation such as a limousine or party bus in Grand Rapids is the best way to get everyone on board…literally! While the knee jerk reaction is to order an Uber or Lyft, you’ll benefit much more with the addition of Grand Rapids Party Buses. Splitting the cost among the group keeps it affordable for everyone involved, and you’ll know you’re partying to the best of your ability when surrounded with quality features. Not only is it a safe way to get everybody involved, but it also provides an unforgettable experience.

Working with GR Party Buses has me looking forward to planning my own 21st birthday extravaganza. Now that I have an idea of where to go and how to get around, I cannot wait for my birthday. You can also use these tips to plan your next girls night out. Be sure to check out what they have to offer!

Thank you for reading today!

What’s Project Comeback?

Hello Pretty People,

If you follow me on social media, you’ll notice that every once in awhile I share snaps or photos of my “project comeback”. You may wonder what I mean by that. Project Comeback is a term I have picked up to refer to the time I use to get my life back on track.

Life gets busy. We can lose track of working out, eating healthy and all around, taking care of ourselves. It happens!

That was last week for me. It’s easy to fall into this and it’s also okay to fall into this. We are human and we do not have to stick to anything that’s uncomfortable. I started back at university this week, which means a change in my schedule. And I say a new schedule calls for new goals!

To me, project comeback isn’t just about getting back in the gym or eating a salad. It’s about getting a clear vision of my goals and doing what it takes to accomplish them. Sometimes that means adjusting my goals and going back to the basics! I’m going to share some of the steps I take to focus my mindset and get my sh*t together.

My Project Comeback

Set New Goals: My schedule has taken a complete 180 from what I was doing this past summer. Therefore, I am setting new goals to accommodate this schedule. I’m also starting my final year of college, that alone calls for some serious goal setting! Time to put the big girl pants on.

Setting new goals is always a refreshing way to refocus yourself and get inspired. If you’re ever feeling a little out of whack, try setting new goals.

Drink More Water: My skin is taking an end of the summer plunge. I did not get as much vitamin D as I would’ve liked this summer, and my skin can agree. Drinking water (lots of water) will rejuvenate the skin and it’s great for your health. Try to drink a glass when you wake up and one before bed.

In general, drinking more water always helps my skin and my energy levels.

Schedule Time to Workout: Working out is not for everyone but I’m not asking that you go to the gym and lift weights. Just get your blood moving. Take a morning walk, do 50 push ups or take a swim. Whatever fits in your lifestyle, do that!

Sometimes I’m not working out to build muscle or lose weight, I’m doing it to cure my anxiety or relieve my stress.

Get Some Sleep: I love sleep! I know how easy it can be to binge watch a tv show or stay up late on your phone, but really try to catch some z’s. Sleep helps your skin, digestion and energy. It’s okay to take a few late nights, however sticking to a sleep schedule will benefit you so much.

Make Time to Blog: Make time to do what you love. This one is personal to me because I have neglected making the proper time to sit down and really write. I love creating content for my readers and it’s a way for me to release some of my own thoughts. Take time to do the things that bring you happiness.

These are just a few of the things that I do to get my life back together. There are days, even weeks, where things just tumble out of control. It’s okay, splurge a little. Just take care of yourself and know when it’s time to get it together.

I challenge you to create your own Project Comeback because we all have off days and we all deserve time to splurge. It’s all about the balance, babes!

You’ve got this!

xo, Lyss

To the Girl with “No Friends”

Hi There Beautiful,

As we begin to grow up and our lives begin to change, we notice that people come and go from our lives. From high school to college to post-college, our friends change. People walk out of our lives for various reasons, some unknown reasons.

For the past couple of years, I have struggled with trying to find a friend group. I couldn’t understand why I didn’t have many friends.

I have friends, of course. But, I feel I have never had a friend group that hangs out all the time. I have many friends but they are not one group of people. I’ll grab coffee with one, workout with the other and so on. It’s not like we all hang out at once. They come from various backgrounds.

Recently, I had two people walk out of my life for almost no reason. One girl said that I was too busy and didn’t make time for her, and the other straight up ditched me and gave no explanation. She completely ignored my texts.

Okay, I must be crazy!? Why did this just happen…

Well, as I always say, your vibe attracts your tribe. It also repels those who do not belong in your tribe. We can’t forget that it works in both ways. People are going to come and go in your life, but the real friends stick around. They don’t walk away just because you get busy.

Understand that life isn’t always about having a big friend group. It’s about surrounding yourself with genuinely good people who lift you up and support your dreams. As I said, the friends I do have come from various backgrounds. This makes my friends very dynamic. They each offer me something different. One inspires me to keep working toward my dreams because she is relentlessly working towards hers and she understands the hustle. Another is already kicking ass and she offers me so much motivation and wisdom.

Friend groups aren’t bad, but having less is sometimes more. Managing lots of friends can make you very stressed when you are hustling to make your dreams a reality and working hard everyday. When the timing is right, lots of friends will come into your life. When you need time to build yourself, your energy will weed out the ones who don’t understand that.

Just trust the process, and believe that everything happens for a reason. The people that walk away from you are not meant to be a part of your journey. We learn from those who come into our lives and we learn even more when they leave.

Understand that you don’t have to have a bunch of friends. 4 quarters are better than 100 pennies, remember that. You want to make valuable connections and you cannot do that when you are trying to nurture 100 different people.

Make an effort to be a good friend, invest in people and make meaningful connections; but don’t ever force a relationship that’s not meant to be. I’m learning to be a better friend, and I think we all are working on this. Be positive and confident, your vibes will guide you to the right people.

Thank you for reading PYM today!

Stay close to people who feel like sunlight.

xo, Lyss