Patience, A Key to Success

Hello Beautiful People,

Patience… If I’m being honest, this is something I lack. I’m always expecting things to happen fast, no time wasted. When in reality, this is not realistic. I’m working on that though. I’ve always believed everything happens for a reason and it will all make sense at some point, but then the whole impatient thing gets in the way.

When something negative happens, I can sometimes react as if it’s the end of the world. Some of this roots from my anxiety, some of it roots from my ambition. Being ambitious and driven is great, but so is being patient. Too many times I get discouraged because something exciting and great isn’t happening right now. I always have an urge to be doing something big.

The past few months have been a roller coaster for me, in all honesty. I try to stay positive and patient but then I’m so easily knocked back to the trenches.

“Ugh, why can’t I shake this feeling!”

The answer is not only in patience but also in perspective. Yes, negative things have happened in my life lately but not everyday has been negative. Also, there are people out there who have it way worse than me. That doesn’t change how I feel, but it can at least change my perspective.

What’s My Point?

My point is that in life, the things we want will not occur over night. We too often look at successful people and think “they’re lucky, they reached success overnight”. When this is far from the truth. Successful people are the ones who have endured the ultimate struggles and challenges in life. They are the ones who have been patient with the process and actually enjoyed the process of growth.

These periods of negativity can get us down, but they also guide us to where we need to go. If life was always perfect and always happening, we would never appreciate the successes. Patience is what teaches us appreciation for not only the successful moments but also the rough moments. The ones that got us to where we are today.

As a college student in my final year, there is more pressure to figure my life out RIGHT NOW than ever before. Yes, I should get an idea of where and who I want to be, but I shouldn’t put so much pressure on myself that it ruins present moments.

I think this is something a lot of college students experience at this time, especially close to the holidays. We all want to be able to tell Aunt Sally about the all jobs we have lined up and the person we are going to marry, but it’s just not realistic. We need patience.

I need patience. I need to calm the F down and realize everything will work out. Although I say I believe “everything happens for a reason”, I still lack patience sometimes.

I may sound like a hypocrite, and you may be wondering why you’re even listening to me. But, here is why:

I get it. I’m in it. I know you’ve been there too! We all get impatient with life from time to time. We want our dream job now, we want to travel now, we want everything NOW. Perhaps this what our generation has come to; we’ve become use to the fact that we can access people and information at any given time. While this is all true, we must stop to realize that life doesn’t work like the internet.

Our dream jobs won’t happen for 10+ years probably, and our travels will be unknown, not planned. If you’re able to achieve any of these goals quickly, good for you. If not, you’re not doing something wrong. Life moves at different paces for everyone. The successes of others do not have to dampen yours, in fact they do not dampen yours at all. Your success is up to you; it’s about the hard work and patience you put in to achieve it.

Back to why you are listening to me, I am seeing this first hand. I see it in myself and I see it in the students I’m around everyday. We all think we have to have it figured out right now. We don’t. Life is short, but it’s also so long. It will go by fast but doors will continue to open for you along the way. Don’t let fear of timing ruin your dreams.

I write this today because I have felt so much anxiety and pressure to have it all figured out this semester, so much so that I have depleted my own creativity and goals. I have seen the stress that impatience has caused me. After meeting new friends and listening to everyones story, I am learning I am not alone in my struggle. I’m learning that no one has it together, not even the professionals.

This worry and fear has only prohibited me from achieving my full happy-self. It’s impacted my health and my sleep patterns. We are energized by our passions. Don’t let stress be the thing to kill that energy. Healthy stress is good, it propels us towards our goals. Anxious, worry stress is not. It ruins our goals.

Stay focused, remain patient and enjoy the process. Do things that make you happy. Spend time with those who lift you up. Network with new people because you want to not because you feel like you have to. Step out of your comfort zone. Visit new cities and explore new talents. Dare I say, experience struggle. These are the things that will teach you patience and strength.

These skills will make you most successful, not more school work or another internship. If you can passionately express your experiences and true self to an employer that will be more beneficial. If you live your life shamelessly and authentically, then you will find peace and happiness. The destination you desire is amazing, but the process is the fun part.

Thank you for reading PYM today. I have started a monthly newsletter from Pretty, Young & Motivated, you can subscribe by sharing your email in the box on the right of the page. This newsletter will contain a round up of monthly posts, blog announcements, positive quotes, books and blogs to read, and more! Lastly, I am working on a huge fashion post, so stay tuned for that.

xo, Lyss

My 5 Tips to Get Healthy + Happy

Hello Beautiful,

Getting healthy means more than just eating a salad or going for a run. Getting healthy includes having a healthy mental state and healthy relationships. Being healthy also means being happy. When you restrict yourself to a diet or counting calories, you can damage your perception of what being healthy really means.

When you begin to research ways to be healthy and happy, you have to accommodate yourself. It’s easy to look at someone super fit and healthy and say I am going to do that. But, you have to be aware that everybody is different. Literally, every “body” functions differently and must be nourished in various ways.

Disclaimer: I’m not a health expert and I’m not perfect. These things I am sharing are things I continue to work on everyday. I’m not a pro, but that’s the point of working on yourself. You don’t ever stop, it’s a continuous exercise until it becomes a habit. Nobody is perfect. We are all working towards becoming the best versions of ourselves.

With that being said, I just want to share the top 5 things that helped me get inspired to live a more healthy lifestyle. Once again, I am still working on these things daily until they become a habit.

Eat Yummy Food!
Wait! What? Yes, I said eat yummy food. Yummy food that will nourish your body and give you energy. Food is a key factor to becoming healthy, what you put into your body determines your overall health. You want to eat foods that energize you and are filled with good nutrients. Foods that are fresh and not processed. I know how difficult it can be to eat clean on a college budget, but it is possible. (grocery shopping haul to come!)

The key to eating fresh and clean is finding recipes you like, and finding meals that work for you. Everyone has different tastes and learning to eat healthy takes some trial and error. Do research, try new things and repeat.

Progress is still Progress
Something I have learned in my healthy living journey is that no matter the progress you make, it is still progress. Every baby step will eventually add up to big leaps. The little victories should still be celebrated because when you put any journey into perspective, you realize that every piece counts. It all adds up to equal the final product.

Celebrate your small wins, and never lose faith because you aren’t “making progress” because you are!

Listen to your Body
Learn what your body wants and how it reacts to different foods and exercises. I sort of explained this in the first point, but this practice is the best way to achieve a healthy lifestyle. I’ve mentioned the YouTuber, Sarah’s Day before on my blog because she was part of my inspiration to get back to working on myself. Listen to your body is her motto. She lives by this method and I believe it is an effective method too. I think this because our body tells us how it feels in different cues, think about when you’ve ate a really sugary donut or something, how did you feel? I know when I eat too much sugar in a day, my tummy hurts. That’s when you listen to your body. How is it functioning? Are you properly digesting your food? How do you feel?

All of these things describe what it means to listen to your body. You don’t have to count calories to be healthy, you can simply buy good food and see how you feel. Same goes for working out, you don’t have to follow a plan; just do what feels best and works for your body. If you need a day to rest, relax and enjoy some tea…do it. LISTEN TO YOUR BODY!

Do What You Want
In regards to exercise, do what you want. What I mean by this is you do not have to follow everyone else. Sure, there are millions of workout plans on the internet and videos to buy. But, just do what feels right for you and works for you. Everyone is different and our bodies can react differently to certain workouts. Of course, you can still do your research and try out new methods but don’t hold yourself to one regimen. I personally enjoy high-intensity exercises! I’m not much for lifting weights, but sometimes I do it to change up my routine.

When it comes to being healthy and exercising, just know that your lifestyle is completely up to you. You do not have to be or do anything you don’t want to.

Love Yourself + Your Beauty
Trust me, I know what a battle it can be to wake up everyday and just be obsessed with yourself. It’s not possible. We all have insecurities we struggle with and we must face them everyday. The trick is to realize the everyone has them, even the most perfect people. You may think it’s just you, but there are thousands of people who probably struggle with similar things.

I’ve explained this in recent post, but you have to realize that beauty is different in everyone’s eyes. Flowers are pretty, but so are sunsets. Flowers don’t take any beauty away from the sunset. Same goes for you. Just because you don’t look like the models you see on social media, doesn’t mean you’re less beautiful.

In order to truly live a healthy + happy life, you must love yourself and work on becoming comfortable with who you are. You are so unique and beautiful. Embrace your flaws, know that they make you who you are. Fall in love with the process of getting healthy and being happy. Find new ways to make yourself happy everyday. Never stop learning more about yourself.

I hope from this post you can takeaway a few things. One being to get to know yourself and learn what is best for your body. Do your research, try new things and keep working hard. Another takeaway is loving yourself through the process. Every day throws something new at us, learn to go with the flow of things and trust the process. Some days will be quiet days spent in a cafe and other days will be spent smashing a workout in the gym. It’s about balance.

Lastly, remember that part of being healthy and happy includes taking care of your mind too. Don’t overwhelm yourself with a strict schedule or crazy diets. Take time to journal, drink tea and read a good book. It also means finding time to spend with people you love, people who inspire you. That may not be a point above, but it’s equally important. Your health goes beyond muscle tone.

Looking for more posts like this? Check out 20 Things to a Happy + Healthy Life, Farm Fresh Salad Recipe or I’m not Perfect, I Know.

Thank you for reading PYM today. I know some of this may have been slightly repetitive but these are the things that have helped me understand what it meant to be “healthy”, and hopefully thy can help you too.

xo, Lyss

Welcome to Pretty, Young & Motivated

Hello Pretty People,

I am so excited to bring you the new and improved Pretty, Young & Motivated, formally Somewhere Between Vogue & Van Gogh. October marks one year since I started this blog, and I thought it was time for a big change. In the past year, I have made a lot of changes in my life and I am in a happier place today. Moreover, I thought revamping my blog was a necessity to better match my tone in life.

In the last year I have made a lot of big, life changing decisions and that has lead me to where I am now. From leaving cheerleading behind to studying abroad, my attitude for life has taken a 180. I have found my place in the blogging world, thanks to my amazing girl friends, and I have learned to love life a little more. I also have been working on self-love and creating my own happiness, and that is part of what has made me find my writing voice else where. I love fashion and I still plan to share my style with all of you from time to time, but I have re-concentrated my content on something a little more fitting to who I want to be and what I want my blog to be known for, which is Pretty, Young & Motivated!

I want Pretty, Young and Motivated to be a place where women can find inspiration, confidence and motivation. I want to encourage women to empower one another and work on lifting each other up, and I hope my new content will constantly provide this message. Another important factor to PYM is self-love; loving yourself is crucial to your health and learning to be confident in yourself will take you so far in your goals. When you become confident, you are able to spread this to other women who may need it. I would also like to add a professional aspect to my content, I want to share my best tips and advice on topics like interview skills, building your resume and networking like a pro. I also plan to bring back the #Girlboss series. All these things have become important to me in the past year and that is what made me change the tone. I want my blog to portray these values through every post.

Let’s dig a little deeper: I have chosen the name Pretty, Young & Motivated for a few reasons and I’ll explain each with you.

Pretty: I want PYM to make all my readers feel beautiful and pretty, I want you to know your worth and learn to love yourself everyday. Pretty represents the self-love and confidence side of PYM.

Young: I want all my readers to remember to be young at heart, we always tend to rush life but do not forget to enjoy what’s right in front of you. Be curious and interested like a child, never stop exploring the world. Young represents my target market of young millennials who are looking for their place in the world.

Motivated: I want my blog to be the place you find your favorite Monday Motivation. I want my readers to be motivated when pursuing their goals; from being motivated in your career to just being motivated to crush a simple goal, I want this message to be clear throughout all my new content. Motivated represents the hard-working and goal-oriented side of PYM.

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Together, Pretty, Young & Motivated should portray a very #girlboss vibe. The goal of PYM is to inspire women to be fearlessly authentic and love themselves. I am looking forward to what I am able to do with this new platform. I hope my new content and message will meet the expectations of my readers. Readers should be able to pull something positive from each and every one of my posts, and if not, I am not reaching the goals of my blog. I’ve been so excited to launch this brand new site and I am so happy the day has come. You can expect two posts a week from here on out.

Thank you all for following me in this change and I hope Pretty, Young & Motivated will impress. You can expect some new things, but no worries, some old posts have been carried over.

Cheers to another year.

xo, Lyss